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3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Being Unapologetically Confident

12 Angry Men is about 12 members of the jury who must deliberate, with a guilty verdict meaning death for the accused, an inner-city teen.

As these 12 Angry Men try to reach a unanimous decision while in a room, one juror rocks the boat by proposing that it is possible that the accused is actually not guilty.

The simplicity of this movie is addictive and it really allows you to concentrate on the essence of the story.

I remember watching 12 Angry Men for the first time years ago and was in awe of the thought process of the characters, it became my top 5 films of all time.

So I was glad to see Netflix had it in their watch list

So what are the 3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Unapologetic Confidence?

Lesson #1 It only takes more confidence to love than it does to hate

It happens at work, in the supermarket, shoot even at home. Sometimes we see something is wrong in society and we say nothing, do nothing or perhaps we say something in our head.  There is a freedom that is innate as when we speak out, stand up and be counted and that is when we are our authentic self.

Recently on the way to an 8-mile hike in Otford with my other half, we met a man on a train who described the passenger across from him as a dickhead

Yes a dickhead



Because he took up space on the chair with his bag

Space where other people could be sitting

So he called him a dickhead

I explained to this man that calling this guy a dickhead isn’t the way to be

I said we are all connected and using that word disconnects us to each other

I had the unapologetic confidence to be couragous in that moment and I chose to speak my truth

“It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare.”

― Mark Twain

Lesson #2 When I am confident my energy stays high vibe

If you took the poll on sleep, you would already know that MRI scans show that we stop thinking when we listen to experts. Whether it is in a courtroom and a lawyer is winning us over with their words or whether it is a lecture on metaphysics we have to question EVERYTHING, confidence to question is vital.

 Juror #8: Maybe. It’s also possible for a lawyer to be just plain stupid, isn’t it? I mean it’s possible.

The 12 Angry Men jury cross-examined everything when they were deliberating over the case.

How often do you give yourself time after the fact to analyse the evidence/information people have given you?

Lesson #3 – Prejudice always blocks the energy of confidently connecting

After telling the man on the train to choose his words wisely we had a deep conversation about his life, politics, bipolar and drugs

They say first impressions stick and people have already made up their mind about you in 3 seconds.

I personally think it is silly to make a judgment on someone after only 3 seconds, it goes beyond silly it is closed mindedness

If I held onto my prejudices I would have missed out on the connection and conversation.

One of the main prejudices of the jurors in 12 Angry men were where the accused was from a poor neighbourhood

Preconceived ideas of the boy’s character were already made due to where he resided.

Whether we have prejudices about someone’s culture, their parental household or the way they look, the truth is the truth and we should remind ourselves everyone deserves to be treated equally

12 angry men lessons

Bonus lessons

Lesson #4 – People make mistakes, they are only people. We all are living through filters that don’t always serve us

Lesson #5 A good story doesn’t need to cost the earth, have special effects in order to be told well. 12 Angry men cost $340,000 and to date has accumulated to over $1,000,000

Lesson #6 The character of a man is proven by his actions not his words.  

Lesson #7 No matter what the circumstances you should always be energetically aligned to your highest self

Juror #11: I beg pardon…
Juror #10: “I beg pardon?” What are you so polite about?
Juror #11: For the same reason you are not: it’s the way I was brought up.

12 Angry Men is a classic, a must watch that I recommend!

Every day we are learning new lessons, sometimes we have to relearn lessons if we are not present and those can really block us from living a celebrated and instead living a tolerated life.  I help  women to be unap[ologetically confident so that they can be celebrated not just tolerated in all areas of their life/

That’s what I coach you on in Limitless Confidence because spiritually, mentally, physically you are a master of your energy or at least will be at the end of the 90 days you will be

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Ruth ‘I love the classics’ Danquah

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