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How to stop your visibility from triggering your scars (and why you need to heal now)

Are you the kind of woman who wants to break free from the judgement that is stopping you from showing up unapologetically? ⠀

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Before I was confident, competent and content with who I was and what I stood for. But as I progressed through 12 years plus into the relationship I didn’t recognise myself. ⠀⠀⠀
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😥 I had lost my voice, my self-worth and my self-image deminished ⠀⠀
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😥 Just to avoid an argument I would agree that he was right and I was wrong ⠀


😥 Just so I would not get shouted at I wouldn’t argue

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😥 Just to get some peace and quiet I would say nothing when he called me stupid ⠀⠀
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I wouldn’t spend any money on myself even though I would work 5 days a week and go through daily 4 hour commutes. ⠀⠀
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Why? ⠀⠀
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Because I would feel shame about spending money without his permission as he had programmed me to believe that I couldn’t do let alone say anything right. ⠀⠀
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Years after I left the relationship I found myself earning money just for me to spend it as quick as I could so that he wouldn’t take it away from me.

Years after I left the relationship I would judge myself for every single piece of content I would share, because even though the relationship was over his words triggered me.

Years after I left the relationship I would be like a chameleon in my friendship circles and wouldn’t share all parts of myself because of the fear of being seen in my fullness.

All because even though the relationship was over I was still energetically connected to him. ⠀⠀
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Here is the deal. ⠀⠀
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You may have left the toxic shame fueled environment, but it can years for the shame to actually leave you. ⠀⠀
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So why do we need to be healed now?⠀⠀
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Shame doesn’t serve us, but many of us still walk around with it unconsciously.

It manifests into all types of dis-ease like muscle pain, addictions and in more severe cases heart and lung complications


We are women who have gone through trial and tribulations to even have the freedom to come through this and be in a place to empower others. ⠀⠀
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It’s time we owned our power because goodness knows we spent long enough bound in shackles, being convinced we were not worthy of speaking our truth. ⠀⠀
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I believe that we have been fed many lies that a life we dream of is for someone else. ⠀⠀
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My intention is for you to see, feel and hear that you are worthy, amazing and deserve to speak your truth, you deserve the support and life YOU imagine.
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My intention is for you to share your truth, brilliance and wisdom so you can change the world. If you are the kind of woman who wants to break free from the judgement of the past that is stopping you from showing up in the present unapologetically healed then direct message me, let’s talk ⠀⠀

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