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    You Have To Make YOU A Priority If YOU Want Your Dreams To Happen

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    Depression comes because we worry about the past, anxiety because we worry about the future. But the present, the present gives us peace.

    A couple of years ago I watched the movie About Time with Rachel McAdams, I truly love this actress, she is just so watchable, believable and warm.  The poignant quote I took from this movie is at the end was when the character says this [spoiler alert]…

    We’re all travelling through time together, every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride.

    [bctt tweet=”We’re all travelling through time together…relish this remarkable ride.” username=”@iamruthellen”]

    This quote led me to ask myself the challenging question, the same question that I ask of you today:

    Are we really doing our best?…

    I am not talking about perfection because perfection is actually disguised as procrastination …it stops you from starting, finishing and anything in between.

    What I am talking about is a theory I have.

    But bear with me as theory only becomes truth when tested in time, a theory that we all have areas of our lives we want to improve but sometimes we don’t because we don’t think we can control them so we opt out of trying.

    So how do we do our best to relish this remarkable ride?

    What will we need to do for this to happen? Perhaps trying the following

    1. Give up on needing to know the how of everything and have a more faith
    2. Make a choice to live in the presence
    3. Be grateful for all the things in your life
    4. Take time to visualise so you can connect to source energy – visualise this energy expanding out to the universe and start being more grateful and thankful that the source is on your side and wants you to succeed.
    5. Delete any beliefs/programmes  that aren’t serving and add new programmes

    For those of you that think I am floating into hippy land, I want you to join me. First, let me focus down on my thinking.

    Today I want to focus on hobbies because hobbies are just as important part of your life as anything else.

    “Find three hobbies you love: one to make you money, one to keep you in shape, and one to be creative.”

    ― Anonymous

    Here is my testimony (so you know I am not just sprouting info from a textbook or hearsay):

    I always wanted to be an actress but fear stopped me, so recently I watched Burlesque with Christina Aguilera and Cher for the 6th time and it dawned on me, I can do that? Not be Christina Aguilera because that is delusional I can be Cher instead (I am joking).

    I thought I could do burlesque classes.

    So I did my research and then took the plunge and finished level 1, 2 & 3 at Burlesque Baby, it started off to want to increase my confidence but fundamentally I wanted to have fun, to change my frequency.

    Don’t get me wrong I used to go gym 4 sometimes 5 times a week, but I could find the gym a little isolating sometimes.

    I would talk to the personal trainers a few other people in the gym from time to time, but I craved something more liberating and a group of women with tassels on week 8 definitely gave me the liberation I craved.

    Now burlesque classes may not be for you and that is ok.

    But what is your thing?

    Close your eyes for 20 seconds, picture what makes you smile and then tell me what makes you happy?

    What makes you come alive, I ask you this for not a response of …oh no I haven’t got time to think of myself and my needs. Because you have a responsibility for your own happiness.

    So what is it?

    And How can you get to a level where you are in that energy more?

    Below is my personal life list is broken down into categories with a 0-10 of how I perceive them at the moment in brackets I have written my rationale to my subjective scores.

    Health – 7 (Gym 2 times a week, eating better, meditating & journaling daily)

    Love – 9 (I have an amazing boyfriend, it helps that we share a common love language being quality time)

    Sidenote: I first came across Gary Chapman about in 2015 when I was hearing a talk about relationships and his name was dropped into the conversation. Basically, Love Language is how you prefer to be emotionally communicated with, knowing this allows you to connect with loved ones more effectively for fulfilling relationships.

    1. Words of Affirmation

    2. Acts of Service

    3. Receiving Gifts

    4. Quality Time

    5. Physical Touch

    My love language is quality time and words of affirmations.  Not quite sure what your primary love language is? Then take the quick Love Languages test here, it’s worth it and takes less than 5 minutes!

    Now back to the list…

    Family 7 (My kids are great people, I have a little to do with that, my relationship with my folks and sister could be better)

    Friends 6 (I have a handful of friends I don’t see enough )

    Mission – 9  (volunteer work with Crisis  at Christmas, volunteering with Toastmasters and facilitating dyslexic success events)

    Hobbies – 9 (Burlesque, public speaking, coding, watching movies)

    Spirit – 8 (crystal healing, Yoga Nidra  to connect to  God & visualise my day ahead)

    If you want to change your life you have to start doing what matters to you. I made a choice to receive love, peace joy and enlightenment, are you with me? Then play more, be more extraordinary with every word, every thought,

    Create your own life list with your own score

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    Ruth-Ellen

    P.S. There are a million and one things you could be doing, but only a few things you should be doing

    Your dreams deserve to be realised

    But you are avoiding doing the things that matter

    And you can justify it all you want, but if you keep fighting for your excuses, you will win and your dreams will DIE.

    Deep down you know if you keep on procrastinating you will NEVER experience any of your dreams!

    Let me break down DREAMS  just in case you are one of the few that haven’t taken my magical morning routine course.

    You Have To Make YOU A Priority If YOU Want Your Dreams To Happen

    D.R.E.A.M.S. for me stands for knowing your DESTINATION how it’s going to make the world and you REMARKABLE while ELEVATING you and the people you want to serve and making sure you are cultivating the right ATTITUDE to trust the process and following a METHOD you are going to use while you keep on SWINGING to get there.

    Ready to get ALL your D.R.E.A.M.S unapologetically?

    Ready to hit your life goals with more ease, ENERGY and enthusiasm even when the world wants to distract you?

    READY to experience RESULTS that matter to you?

    You’re ready for that and more, right? Here’s your first step >>> ruth-ellen.com/call

    P.P.S. When you book your call and share with me your D.R.E.A.M.S the most epic response I receive will get access to the MAGICAL MORNING ROUTINE (Worth £99)  for FREE, book it here>>> ruth-ellen.com/call

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