About me
Living with ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, and self-diagnosed autism meant rejection once controlled every decision I made. Now I teach others how to transform it into their greatest power.
I still remember the exact moment. My boss's "quick chat" request that sent my heart racing. The familiar tightness in my chest as I sat across from her, already knowing what was coming next. "You're just not the right fit."
After months of saying yes to everything, working nights and weekends, and pushing myself beyond exhaustion – all to prove I was "enough" – I was being let go anyway. It wasn't my first rejection. But it was the one that finally broke me open.
Because in that moment, I realised: Rejection wasn't happening to me. I was happening to rejection.
My neurodivergent brain's hypersensitivity to potential dismissal had created the exact outcome I feared most:
* Obsessively replaying conversations with friends who ghosted me, searching for what I did "wrong" * Quitting jobs preemptively when the fear of "being found out" became unbearable * Accepting less than I deserved because asking for more felt like inviting rejection * Taking on impossible workloads until I burned out completely
My constellation of neurodivergent traits—ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, and autistic patterns—meant my body processed rejection as physical pain. A casual critique felt like a knife wound. An unanswered text was emotional catastrophe.
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I wasn't just drowning in rejection—I was unknowingly feeding it. But the moment I understood how my brain actually worked, everything changed.
The Turning Point No One Sees Coming
What most people don't understand about neurodivergence is that it's neurological – not a character flaw or simply "being too sensitive." My ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, and autistic traits created a unique brain wiring that intensified every perceived rejection. This realisation changed everything for me. I couldn't think my way out of this pattern. My neurodivergent brain needed to rewire my nervous system's response at a fundamental level. So I did what we neurodivergent minds do best: I hyperfocused, obsessively researched, tested, and refined until I built a system that actually worked for our unique brain wiring. I hacked my own neurodivergent brain's response to rejection. And then I did something no one expected. I turned my greatest perceived weakness into my most powerful strength.
The Transformation That Changed Everything
Today, rejection doesn't paralyse me – it propels me. The same brain that once spiralled from criticism—with all its ADHD impulsivity, dyslexic processing, dyspraxic coordination challenges, OCD perfectionism, and autistic sensitivities—now:
* Implements strategic ways to scale the business as a C-suite executive at a neurodivergent employment agency, creating truly inclusive workplaces
* Generated £120 million in SaaS revenue, proving neurodivergent minds excel in high-pressure environments
* Founded Xavietime, an AI agency helping professionals scale without burning out
*Coaches neurodivergent leaders to regulate rejection and step into their full power
*Speaks globally as a Certified Public Speaker, using my voice to help others reclaim theirs
*Performs improv, transforming overthinking into quick, confident decision-making
Every one of these achievements came from the same neurodivergent brain that once collapsed under rejection's weight. The difference? I built a framework that transformed my unique neurological makeup from my kryptonite into my superpower.
The Science Behind the Transformation
Most advice on rejection doesn't work for ADHD brains. Why? Because rejection isn't just emotional for us—it's neurological. ADHD creates an amplified rejection response that's built into our brain chemistry. That's why my framework is scientifically designed for how ADHD and neurodivergent brains actually process rejection. I've become certified in these powerful modalities specifically to help rewire ADHD rejection patterns:
This isn't just theory—I tested each technique on my own ADHD brain first, then refined my approach with thousands of ADHD and neurodivergent clients just like you.
What I Needed Someone to Tell Me
If I could go back and speak to the version of me who spiralled after every hint of rejection, the version struggling with undiagnosed ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, and autistic traits, I would tell her:
The Roadmap From Rejection to Resilience
"Before Ruth-Ellen, I spent hours analysing texts from friends who went quiet, convinced I'd done something wrong. As someone with ADHD and autism, these thought spirals were exhausting. Now I have proper tools that stop the spiral before it starts. My confidence has completely changed." – Marie K., Marketing Director
"As someone with dyslexia and ADHD, rejection hit me like a physical blow. Ruth-Ellen's framework actually understood my neurodivergent experience and gave me a step-by-step system to regulate my emotions and communicate my needs. I've negotiated a 30% pay rise and set boundaries I never thought possible." – James T., Software Engineer
"The Rejection Sensitivity Toolkit isn't just another 'try mindfulness' suggestion that doesn't work for OCD and ADHD brains – it's a complete rewiring designed specifically for how our minds work. For the first time in my life, I feel in control of my emotional responses instead of being controlled by them." – Sarah M., Neurodivergent Entrepreneur
Ready to Transform Your ADHD Experience with Rejection?
This isn't about avoiding rejection—it's about learning how your ADHD brain—whether you also have dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, autism, or any combination—can face it without falling apart.
Choose your path:
Begin With The Journal → £7
Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity for ADHD in 5 Weeks.
A structured journal designed specifically for ADHD minds to rewire rejection patterns day by day.
Monthly Support → £33/month
ADHD Momentum Membership
Ongoing support, tools, and community to continue your rejection resilience journey.
Full Transformation → £2,500
1:1 ADHD Rejection Sensitivity Blueprint
Deep, personalised coaching with a certified practitioner who understands ADHD and rejection sensitivity to implement these tools in real time.
Every great neurodivergent transformation begins with a single step.
I know how exhausting it is to live at the mercy of Rejection Sensitivity with ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, OCD, and autistic traits. I've been there, feeling everything so intensely it physically hurts. I also know how incredible it feels on the other side – where your neurodivergence becomes your greatest asset and rejection becomes information, not devastation. If you've been waiting for the 'right time' to stop rejection from running your life—this is it. Not by trying harder. Not by numbing yourself to rejection. But by finally working with your neurodivergent brain instead of against it. There's no perfect time to start, but the sooner you do, the sooner you'll stop rejection from controlling your life. Every day you wait is another day stuck in the same exhausting cycle. Why not start today?
Right now,you have two choices.
Option 1: Keep struggling with rejection spirals, over-explaining yourself, and shrinking when you deserve to take up space.
Option 2: Finally understand how your neurodivergent brain actually works—so rejection no longer controls you.
The version of you who has unshakable confidence, calm control, and unapologetic self-trust? They're already inside you. But nothing changes until you take the first step.
Your future self is waiting. Let's make this happen. Are you ready to stop rejection from running your ADHD life?
Yes, I'm Ready to Transform My ADHD Rejection Sensitivity Into My Power → Click to Begin
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