You’re Not A Bitch You’re A Queen

For too long, I have avoided this conversation

When I really should have been embracing it

I am queen through and through

Does that mean I am devoid of feelings

Heck no

It just means I am…a straight shooter

Don’t want to sit around a circle with other women and sing coom by ah

I mean I get it

You want to bond

Here is how I bond

I give constructive feedback that will help you to improve and also elevate you so that you are up for the challenge

I have conversations that don’t (just) involve us crying with no destination

Crying is a form of release

I mean I am not saying you should avoid your feelings

Acknowledge that shit

Process it

Dissect it

Analyse it

So that you deal with that feeling like you just found it watching inappropriate stuff online

Wearing my crown as a queen means

I like to call you out

For example

If my friend says he is tired and wants to go home I say ok wet wipe

Let me walk you home

Funnily enough, he then has another drink

Is that manipulative

Nope

I know him

I love him so I know that calling him a wet wipe is like water off ducks back

I don’t believe in rocking myself in the corner and thinking why doesn’t he want to hang and overanalyzing that conversation when he said this but he meant that.

That shit is draining.

So I am a queen for being assertive

Call me a bitch…

Whatever helps you sleep at night

You keep putting your labels on me

I will be too busy doing me

While you who label me

Keep watching me

Because my actions will speak louder than my words

Don’t be scared to walk alone

Don’t be scared to like it

Sometimes a walk alone can mean that you take your own path

Remember life is like an amusement park, enjoy the ride!

Ruth-Ellen

P.S.

If you are claiming your crown as a queen then maybe it’s time to take the steps to fix your crown permanently,

It all starts with claiming back YOUR power

Unleash the power that will release

As a result of Fixing Your Crown, you WILL…

? Awaken Your Inner Strength:

  • Unleash the unstoppable power within you to conquer any challenge that comes your way.
  • Tap into a reservoir of resilience and courage, propelling you towards a life of limitless possibilities.

? Triumph Over Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD):

  • Break free from the grip of RSD, reclaiming control over your emotions and reactions.
  • Master proven strategies to navigate social interactions with grace, confidence, and self-assurance.


?Cultivate Unshakable Self-Worth:

  • Embrace your inherent worthiness and celebrate your unique qualities without seeking validation from others.
  • Banish self-doubt, embracing a rock-solid belief in your own value, paving the way for personal fulfilment.

? Forge Meaningful Connections:

  • Foster deep, authentic connections with others based on mutual understanding and genuine acceptance.
  • Overcome barriers created by RSD, fostering harmonious relationships that enrich your life and the lives of those around you.

?Fearlessly Pursue Your Dreams:

  • Harness the courage to chase your dreams with unwavering determination, despite the fear of failure.
  • Embrace a growth mindset, recognizing setbacks as stepping stones towards success, propelling you closer to your aspirations.

?Embrace Self-Care and Flourishing Well-Being:

  • Prioritise your mental and emotional well-being through intentional self-care practices.
  • Nurture yourself holistically, creating a foundation of inner strength, joy, and resilience to thrive in every aspect of life.

Join the Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Blueprint™ today and take control of your life. Fix your crown, embrace your worth, and conquer RSD once and for all. It’s time to unleash your true potential and live a life filled with confidence, resilience, and authentic connections. Don’t wait any longer—start your transformative journey now!

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