How To Be Consistent When You’re ADHD

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Why did I decide to write a post about how to be consistent when I am not consistent.

And here lies the problem.

I am consistent

I consistently go gym

I consistently get up

I consistently make food for my kids

Consistently means something different to different people

And that difference made me totally hate the word consistency

My hate for consistency

Honestly, I  used to dislike the phrase ‘be consistent’ or the word ‘consistency; it’s bandied around way too much.

Almost like it’s the secret sauce that can make Kale taste like succulent brown stew chicken.

Which it can’t!

To be clear kale will never be anything close to brown stew chicken.

You’re lucky if Kale taste even 10% like Ghana Kenkey

Yes, the word consistency is dry.

Let me tell you, consistency is as appealing as dry toast that has been pissed on and left over night. I avoided the word because it smelt foul and almost seemed to me that folks were saying put shit content out there as long as it’s consistent.

I avoided the word because it smelt foul and almost seemed to me that folks were saying put crap content out there as long as it’s consistent (really dude? really?).

It’s not the quantity of time you spend on social media it’s the quality.

There is no point implementing a plan that doesn’t lead to your goal.

For example you can’t make SALES without marketing because without marketing you’re invisible. You’ve heard it all before, I hear you. But all this MARKETING you are doing is supposed to do one thing. MARKETING is supposed to start an ideal SALES conversation. Marketing helps your ideal customer to know, like & trust you, if you are doing it right. So measure, measure and measure your marketing efforts because if they are not converting to help your bottom line, then you need to make some changes! So stop wasting time on social media and get more strategic, because life is too short Ruth-Ellen

Awwww, the term ‘be consistent’ used to get more so stone cold angry!

consistency makes me angry

How do you change your own stance on being consistent?

Well you have to do what I did,  do a complete reframe of what being consistent means, you’ve got to change your perspective

So that the phrase consistency works for YOU rather than it working on YOU.

Because I know my distaste for consistency was much smaller than the love I had for achieving my dreams!

I had to step back and think of the passionate hatred I had for the word consistency and how much it was costing me

The cost of not being consistent

My hate for consistency was costing me results I needed in order to find out whether a strategy was effective enough.

My hate for consistency was making my sales funnel longer than needed (losing £££££ per month)

My hate for consistency was messing with my fulfilling my vision  and overall purpose

Total cost of consistency = too much

Work out what your lack of consistency is costing you.

I had a revelation…my hate for consistency was like being on a train and getting off too early because it was taking too long to get to my destination.

That was not only illogical but also a complete waste of time.

✋️ Just because the train ? has stopped it doesn’t mean it is your time to get off ?

?Your destination isn’t even located on the map, that is how phenomenal your vision for your future is ?

Woooohoooo, keep going towards your destination‼️

I also had to acknowledge my feelings and situation and get real. I have a real problem with social media and needed to take stock of what I was really doing with my life!

So lot’s of people have used the word be consistent, but I am the type of learner that likes to go deeper, you can’t just tell me to change my behaviour because it benefits my audience, you have to involve me.

Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn. Benjamin Franklin

So how do you learn to be consistent when you have ADHD?

Consistency is a skill.

A high performance skill consists of having the right environment, ease and enjoyment in the process to engage a ADHD brain

And in order to learn a skill, you have to be involved in the process

The questioning process is the first step

So here are some questions that will help you learn how to be consistent?

The First Step In Consistency

What stops you from being consistent?

My Answer: Overwhelm from the experts who have conflicting messages about what I should be doing and their opinions on the way I speak, what I speak about and my imperfections

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So here’s what you need to remember…

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is no effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt  

Then I asked my highest self, what must I do to focus on my big vision?

Answer: Create goals?

My immediate response was yeah but I have created goals before

So asked yourself this question what needs to change when it comes to your goal setting technique?

Do you need to create goals that fit in with my behaviour rather than completely change my behaviour?

Second Step of Consistency

Folks, boys, and girls I present DUMB goals, this is the second step

DUMB goals is an acronym and is a concept that I first heard about from Brendon Burchard when I took one of his group coaching program (disclaimer, I like to give props where they are due).

D = Dream

U = Uplifting

M = Method

B = Behaviour

Here is my take on the DUMB goal it is called a D.R.E.A.M.S goal inspired by Brendon

D = Destination – Where are you going, what does that look, feel and sound like?

R = Remarkable – Who will you become after you achieve this goal?

E = Elevation – How will this goal help others?

A = Attitude – Which version of me do I need to show up as?

M = Microwave – What is going to give you instant gratification? How can I am amplify this? If you were to know the steps to get your dish hot in your mind what would they steps consist of?

S= Swinging & Singing – What song will be my anchor to keep going no matter what?

Want strategies on how to stay consistent so you can achieve your goals? or maybe you want to streamline your processes/systems so you can increase your overall effectiveness?

Then do this third step:

1. Jump on a call with me Ruth-Ellen your Coaching call by clicking here (it’s the quickest way to find out how to get you more sales) Plus I have a FREE Productivity session to help you get back on track & there is no obligation to join my 1-1 Coaching program (even if it yields phenomenal results)

2. Grab your planner with social media prompts via Facebook Messenger  – FREE Daily Planner(it’s a taste of action rather than inaction after all)

3. Get accountability, if you’re in the UK I can help you to get this for FREE so you learn how to achieve your goal with confidence through the Access To Work Scheme, don’t have all the gear (knowledge) and no game (action). Remember, achieving anything starts and ends with action, don’t let your doubt impact your life.

Ruth-Ellen – You’ve Got The Gear (knowledge), Now Get In The Game (take inspired action)!

4 Ways To Change Your Perspective

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When we are stuck in a rut or have some challenges to overcome you can at times have a fixed perspective This fixed perspective can stop you from seeing the things you need to This perspective will not help you move forward So in the above video, I will be sharing with you 4 ways to change your perspective

  • Change your perspective by taking a breath + pause – Yes, so simple but so effective

  • Change your perspective by creating affirmations &afformations – Learn the difference and do it on the hour!

  • Change your perspective by doing something for someone else – When I became homeless I volunteered in a shelter and it was the best things I ever did in my life!

  • Change your perspective by being compassionate to yourself – Don’t squash your feelings down, they will explode like a volcano

Watch the video above to find out the ins and out of these techniques so you change your perspective with ease. Want strategies on how to stay up, reframe your situation, get more clients? or maybe you want to streamline your processes/systems so you can increase your sales? Then do this: 1. Jump on a call with me Ruth-Ellen your Get More Sales Coach by clicking here (it’s the quickest way to find out if how to get you more sales) Plus I have a FREE Productivity session to help you get back on track & there is no obligation to join my 1-1 Coaching program (even if it yields phenomenal results) 2. Grab your planner with social media prompts via Facebook Messenger  – FREE Daily Planner (it’s a taste of action rather than inaction after all) 3. Join Selling with Confidence Daily an action taking group to learn how to sell with confidence, don’t have all the gear (knowledge) and no game (action). Remember selling starts and ends with confidence, don’t let your confidence impact your income. Ruth-Ellen is a Get More Sales Coach, mother of teenagers, personal performance trainer, speaker & advocate of equal rights for those on the autistic spectrum, dyslexia, and dyspraxia, website developer and unapologetically awesome! Ruth-Ellen – You’ve Got The Gear (knowledge), Now Get In The Game (take inspired action)!

How To Build Your Personal Brand Through Your Messaging

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With the power of your personal brand, you have the opportunity to influence your tribes buying decisions through the know like trust factor.  It’s a form of attraction marketing and helps to position you as the expert in whatever field you declare you’re an expert in. Personal branding through your messaging, which is essentially your beliefs, values and thoughts helps you to connect with people that want and need to hear your message without them feeling like you violated there space.

So what is a personal brand?

A personal brand is essentially the continuous process of establishing an image or impression in the mind of others about you as an individual, it’s using your personality to connect with others. Your personal brand is you unapologetically talking about how you went from A to B, so that your ideal client knows what is possible for them Some people call themselves influencers as a result of this process.

When it comes to your personal brand the struggle is real but the message is more real!

What do you do when you have 10 views on a  video ? Question: Does that make your message any less meaningless? Heck no ? It’s not about vanity metrics (numbers) it’s about calling the right people that I you are  aiming at to their highest self.
?Your message is not for everyone Most of the scholars, musicians were only fully appreciated when they die (don’t worry mum this isn’t a cry for help ?)
For a long time, I forget these words and focused on fear. In fact, fear convinced me that I needed to hide in the background.

Continuing your personal brand is feeling the fear and doing it anyway

See if you notice the fear in your life through my experiences with fear: My fear convinced me that I needed to be more of an “expert” My fear convinced me that the way I speak wasn’t good enough and that I needed diction lessons before I had the audacity to speak in front of a crowd My fear told me that the way I look wasn’t good enough. Because of my fear I was constantly doubting myself, I was dimming my light Over thinking. I was focused on my grammar. Focused on my diction. So focused that I forgot about what was important. So what was important? My message was important! Here is the thing… If you’re talking to the right person then they will grab the right nuggets of information so that you see more participation. This is regardless if they pick up what you’re putting down…today, tomorrow…or 2 years from now! Imagine if there was something you wanted so badly that you stopped at nothing to get it? Could you imagine if you woke up every morning and went to bed every night totally obsessed with making it happen? Imagine if you didn’t get it? Would you stop going for it? “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” ― Les Brown Don’t stop, you are closer than you think to having, everything you’ve ever imagined Don’t let fear stop you from getting what you want! Don’t let a little word like false evidence appearing real (F.E.AR) stop you from living a big life. Don’t give it so much much power that you hate your life so much, that it stops you from what you’ve imagined your life could be

Can my personal brand be an effective way to speak your truth?

Most definitely, personal branding is all about being unapologetic about your desires, because you have the platform to articulate your truth with no apologies. So how do you have the courage to speak your truth even when it is challenging?  Especially when fear is staring at you in the face:
  1. Prepare for rejection, in fact, read Rejection In Sales and why people that say no are doing you a HUGE favour
  2. Reclaim your power – People can not take away your power without you giving it away to them, know that you’re good enough regardless
  3. Reignite your confidence – Confidence is an energy that I choose to emit, something that I choose to feel moment by moment. When you’re selling your ideas to others, articulating your vision, you need to believe in it. Read 10 Ways to  Sell with Confidence to implement the 10 to sell with confidence

Your personal brand doesn’t start from “The Sales Conversation”

So where does personal brand start? It starts from every touchpoint of your brand. They may find you on Twitter, Instagram, social media mention, an email, your website, word of mouth etc. There are many ways for people to find you, you can’t control that part of the attraction journey, however, you can control the experience of the attraction journey. [bctt tweet=”There are many ways for people to find you, you can’t control the how but you can control the experience of the attraction journey.” username=”iamruthellen”]
‼️Never stop speaking YOUR truth, someone is waiting to hear from you. When you have something you believe in state it because people don’t need you to agree with them. No one like a yes man/woman. ? People want you to challenge their thinking, which is not talking at them but talking with them. So start to challenge their thinking by giving them a different viewpoint. Be open to creating dialogue for a two-way conversation, after all, we didn’t come to our version of truth by accident we got there by experiencing life, feeling life and hearing life. Your message means something, so go out there and spread your personal branding message.
Want support on how to stay in your zone of genius and take your personal brand to another level. Perhaps you want to share your message and take inspired action or maybe you want to streamline your processes/systems so you can increase your sales? Then do this: 1. Jump on a call with me Ruth-Ellen your Intuitive Visibility Strategist by clicking here (it’s the quickest way to find out if how to get you more sales) Plus I have a FREE Productivity session to help you get back on track & there is no obligation to join my 1-1 Coaching program (even if it yields phenomenal results) 2. Grab your planner with social media prompts via Facebook messenger  – FREE Daily Planner (it’s a taste of action rather than inaction after all) 3. Join Unapologetic Visibility Academy a private  community so you can learn how to show up with confidence, don’t have all the gear (knowledge) and no game (action). Remember being visible starts and ends with confidence, don’t let your confidence impact your income. Ruth-Ellen is a Intuitive Visibility Strategist, mother of teenagers, personal performance trainer, speaker & advocate of equal rights for those on the autistic spectrum, dyslexia, and dyspraxia, website developer and unapologetically awesome! You’ve Got The Gear (knowledge), Now Get In The Game (take inspired action)!

?Stop Eating ?What People Are Feeding You ?

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If you want to really start getting in the game (taking inspired action) and stop with trying to gain more head knowledge (the gear) then I need you to listen very carefully

1. Don’t apologise for being you

I am not just a mom, I am an advocate of equality, truly believe that no man woman or child born with a learning disability should be born into poverty or social exclusion. However, these things happen and anyone stuck in victim mode needs to look again and realise just because people feed you shit about there own fears it doesn’t mean that you have to eat it. Stop eating shit. I also believe that you deserve more, but you have to not only go out and get it with every breath in your body but you have to consistently and intentionally go and get it. I am also a speaker, a divorcee, a mum who chooses to be single, a 7 figure business development manager, a WordPress developer, a certified trainer, a certified coach, founder of confident school, lingeriestar where truly believe every woman deserves to feel like a star, a burlesque dancer, improv artist, avid movie watcher, dancer, weirdo and there is even more to me that I find out about myself every day so I surprise myself and have always something new to share

2. Find your Malibu & Coke

M&C is my favorite drink (alcohol that is). It’s my go to. My friends know what to order me and if everything else is inconsistent, it is never my drink choice, my Malibu and Coke stays consistent. Remember what it that YOU stay consistent about. What you are known for in terms of your values, your truths, And perspectives change and your truth will change. However, your consistent core of who you are and what you stand for is consistent because you should know who you are and what type of legacy you are trying to create. Years ago I wrote my fucking eulogy and I consistently go back to it, what I want others to say about me, what impact I made and my husbands words about me. Come to think of it I don’t want him to remarry so he should die before me, no actually I should. Note to self: get a husband first and then decides who dies  

3. Only Entertain Reynolds

You know the people that will up your game! Reynolds notably championed the idea of a “Deadpool” standalone movie for over a decade before the first feature hit theaters. He first saw the comic strip in 2004, then the first draft of the script was penned five years later. It was finally greenlit years after that and hit theaters in 2016. Be around people that are growth engineers. People that are persistent f*** who don’t give up, who inspires you to be the best version of yourself. I no longer accept people that don’t do that for me. Why? Because life is win win, I shouldn’t be propping you up and dragging myself down, that shit is draining

4. Be clear on your goals & don’t let foolishness take you off track

My diction is an issue for some people. I can’t control whether somebody likes my tone, the way I pronounce things. it comes back to number one apologising for who you are. I was born with an umbilical cord around my neck which stopped me from being able to breathe. I didn’t realise the impact of that until I was in my 30’s but when I did I started public speaking lessons. I have been going to Toastmaster meetings for over 4 years, but here’s the thing the people that I have sold to, have understood me completely. And I have sold millions, that’s what I have to focus on when someone tries to feed me their shit (back to point 1). Because for a long time I didn’t go public because of the diction issue, the dyspraxia issue, but I am not a victim and my vision is bigger than my ego and people pleasing doesn’t serve me. So control what you can. For example: How many live streams you did you do today? How many people did you ask to jump on a call? And how many people you have conversations with? This is not about whether they take your offer, you can’t control that, you can only control how you show up

5. Repeat what works and get rid of the stuff that doesn’t

My short sightedness my trait of being myopic is not a bad thing. Because looking too far ahead will get you unfocused. We are constantly told we are stuck and we need to unblock things before we can move forward. If that is the case how come you can move things like a car that is broken down. Yes, it is a bit more effort but it is doable. Stuck doesn’t mean you can whistle while you work   Want strategies on how to stay in your zone of genius and take inspired action or maybe you want to streamline your processes/systems so you can increase your sales? Then do this: 1. Jump on a call with me Ruth-Ellen your Get More Sales Coach by clicking here (it’s the quickest way to find out if how to get you more sales) Plus I have a FREE Productivity session to help you get back on track & there is no obligation to join my 1-1 Coaching program (even if it yields phenomenal results) 2. Grab your planner with social media prompts via Facebook messenger  – FREE Daily Planner (it’s a taste of action rather than inaction after all) 3. Join Sales Mastery for FREE to learn how to sell with confidence, don’t have all the gear (knowledge) and no game (action). Remember selling starts and ends with confidence, don’t let your confidence impact your income. Ruth-Ellen is a Get More Sales Coach, mother of teenagers, personal performance trainer, speaker & advocate of equal rights for those on the autistic spectrum, dyslexia, and dyspraxia, website developer and unapologetically awesome! Ruth-Ellen – You’ve Got The Gear (knowledge), Now Get In The Game (take inspired action)!

How To Keep Your Productivity High!

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Didn’t you hear we are in the lost decade for productivity Are we? Yes our productivity high has now gone, bye bye It is undeniable that social media has increased the sales buying cycle. Yeah I said it Back in the day, you weren’t looked at like a weirdo, accused of being scummy or inauthentic for simply selling.   Can you believe these are the words people use when it comes to the word sales? You would have thought you said you said something outrageous like you don’t like cats.           Back in the day…You simply took action and went over to someone, started a conversation (shock horror). And then you found some synergy and a handshake meant you started your business relationship. Back in the day…You weren’t thought of as charismatic just because you could talk to anyone (I mean come on people that trait is standard). Back in the day…You weren’t thought of as bold just because you asked for the sale over the phone (really dude?) Now we are told to nurture our leads (erm we was always nurturing). Now we have become people that have gone from being bold enough to ask questions and find out what the deal is, to skirting around the issue and feeling shamed when we finally pluck up the courage to ask for the sale. Now instead of talking to 100 people a day over the phone about how your solution can help them and pick up on social cues to customise the conversation. We now talk to 1000’s of people about their problems via video with kid gloves and make assumptions about their circumstances almost like we are trying to be their bad friend. Yes bad friend! Relationships in sales isn’t about being the bad friend who doesn’t tell them they have food on their mouth from lunch or spinach in their teeth. Real relationships in sales is telling people hey, you have spinach in your teeth now let’s do something about it, unapologetically. Sales are simple, it’s built on the foundation of relationships, information gathering and providing customised value, but somehow some of us have allowed the new tools to mess with our process. And our processes have a knock on effect on our results.   To be clear: If we are not being productive than our sales will suffer! Let me back up my thoughts with actual facts, according to the latest article in the financial times
The productivity of Britain’s workers, measured by their output per hour, fell 0.1 per cent in the second quarter after a 0.5 per cent fall in the first. Workers are slightly less productive than they were in 2007, confirming a so-called “lost decade” for productivity. Economists do not fully understand why Britain’s productivity growth has faltered since the financial crisis. Other countries have also suffered a slowdown, but the problem has been particularly acute in the UK, where workers are about 23 and 27 per cent less productive than their French and German counterparts, respectively.
Now I am not here to trump economists (after all I only studied in for a year at Brunel University). But the stats probably don’t even begin to dive deep into the stats for people that work from home, MLM, self-employed, teams that have no structure…I could go on but I think you know the picture I am painting on the canvas. So what can be done to keep your productivity high?

1. Start Taking Inspired Action to Keep Productivity High

Inaction leads to fewer results, Our need to be seen as perfect by our peers has led to more inaction than ever. Similarly, people offering their unwanted feedback in an unconstructive way has led to people feeling judged for having an original thought.
We have grammar Pokemon’s (except we don’t choose you) all over “professional” social media platforms, causing people to second guess themselves and stopping people from showing up and taking imperfect action. Forgetting that being imperfect is what connects us as human beings. Imperfect action trumps perfect inaction. Sidenote: It’s time to stand up for yourself: I refuse to apologise for my grammar! After all, I was not born with a pen in my hand (not only would that have popped a vessel or two in my mother’s womb but it would have also been also stop me from being creative).

2. Use Self Awareness to Keep Productivity High

3. Use Social Media To Keep Productivity High

Is there a correlation between social media increase and productivity decrease? More than likely. Am I advocating ditching all your social media activities, erm no! Just use it wisely, for those that like to take action my challenge to you is this: Use social media in conjunction WITH your work to be productive For example, I created a facebook bot sequence that complements a daily planner on Facebook so you’re prompted to stay on track (see the link below for the example). How can you make sure your activities on social media increase your productivity instead of decreases it?

4. Stop Boring Meetings To Keep Productivity High

Haha, I am laughing because I can tell you’re saying your meetings are not boring (get lost Ruth-Ellen). That’s like me saying I am funny (I know I am not), I accept it now. The sooner you admit you have boring meetings the sooner we can all stop pretending. Here is the thing… Nobody likes a know it all (trust me). And that is why no one listens to your ideas. Because you know it all, you know the solution. But no one will follow a vision that he or she is not part of the vision and will become disengaged. Many of my clients have a problem with retention & overall engagement for this very problem. But what if all this changed for you? Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn. Benjamin Franklin Imagine if you could use one tool to be more inclusive. One tool so others see your ideas and take them on board instead of them coming to the same conclusion you had but many months later. So what’s the tool? Sketching (done effectively) has so many benefits to problem-solving including planning, meetings and improving overall communication sketching at work So there we are action, self-awareness, social media & inclusive meetings will help you increase your productivity, so you don’t become one of those people that are in the lost decade in productivity. Want strategies on to stay focused or an actual framework to stop boring meetings so that they are more productive, maybe you want to streamline your processes/systems so you can increase your sales? Then do this: 1. Jump on a call with me Ruth-Ellen your Get More Sales Coach by clicking here (it’s the quickest way to find out if we have chemistry) 2. Grab your planner with social media prompts via Facebook messenger  – FREE Daily Planner (it’s a taste of action rather than inaction after all) 3. Join Sales Mastery for FREE to learn how to sell with confidence, don’t have all the gear (knowledge) and no game (action). Remember selling starts and ends with confidence, don’t let your confidence impact your income. Ruth-Ellen is a Get More Sales Coach, mother of teenagers, personal performance trainer, speaker & advocate of equal rights for those on the autistic spectrum, dyslexia, and dyspraxia, website developer and unapologetically awesome! Source: https://www.ft.com/content/dbf50316-8263-11e7-a4ce-15b2513cb3ff

A Shot ? of Confidence ? Episode 1⃣

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Get the 7 pillars of confidence here >>> bit.ly/pillars7 We doubt ourselves but we have stopped listening to ourselves follow the steps below to stay on your path and start listening to yourself again

How To Stay Positive

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Today we are talking about how to stay positive Take that look off your face Right now you’re probably thinking this  is about meditating It’s not. Even though meditating is awesome Especially the let’s keep it CS Honest Meditation* I created (*shameless plug) which is coming soon So here’s the thing… Negative shiz happens It does. There is no denying it. In fact to deny our negative emotions, to not acknowledge negative emotions, is actually bad for your well-being! Research has shown we need negative emotions in our life and we shouldn’t just be using self-affirmations  (more on that a little later)

Appropriate negativity is essential when it comes to staying positive

Negative emotions offer us feedback on our performance, gives us hints on what’s working and what’s not so we can navigate our behaviour and learn ways to improve [bctt tweet=”Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise. Kobe Bryant ” username=”confidentsch”] Dishwashing gives immediate results ? Your business & your life changes take time. ⏰ So give yourself permission to get results that aren’t immediate.? ? Because you’re doing something much greater than washing dishes ? So how do you stay positive when your business isn’t generating the revenue even though you set targets? How do you stay positive when people are not watching your live streams and they are not converting? How do you stay positive when you don’t feel like getting out of bed? How do you stay positive to sell with confidence? Well, you don’t just use positive affirmations! Instead, we use afformations Yes I spelled it right AFFORMATIONS! Afformations are a way for you to ask questions that go from “I will” to “will I” For example instead of I will close this lead. You instead ask,  will I close this lead?  Then the mind finds all the reasons, all the evidence as to why you will, it’s just one of the activities I teach in FREE 4 Ways to Get Sales Faster video series I created And in my main program 90 Days To Sales Mastery, we actually create those powerful afformations together  

You Need The Right Positivity To Stay Positive

So how do you know if you have the right negative to positive ratios so you know you have just the right amount to stay positive? Well I am glad you asked friend The exact ratio is 3:1 For every three instances of feeling gratitude and one instance of anger, guilt or embarrassment people generally flourished.   But let’s go even deeper here: Negative emotions are unintentional Often hidden Overflowing like a wave of doubt While positive emotions are much more deliberate, intentional making it seem like we have to be in a reflective state to actually tap into it So what does that mean? It means in order to say positive we must be obsessed with balancing the 3:1 ratio

Ask yourself a few questions so you stay on track to stay positive

Am I being persistent? Do you give up too easily? Are you learning self-helplessness and sometimes explain things as permanent, universal or personal (see PUP technique in video above)? There are a bunch of other questions that are essential to staying positive. But Ruth-Ellen how do you know how to respond to make sure you stay positive? Ahha, that is where the video comes in my friend (go watch it already) it has the type of responses that you may have come up with. Ruth-Ellen You’ve Got The Gear, Now Get In The Game ? Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales Coach P.S. Have you scheduled that 90 Days To Sales Mastery Q & A call yet? Are you’re tired of constantly missing your monthly income goals? Visualizing success but never quite hitting your own target? Bored of living a life that isn’t living up to your expectations? If you ever find yourself, overwhelmed, stressed or frustrated and you want to stop feeling jealous  when you see other people smashing it wondering why it hasn’t happened for you even if you are more talented than them; then you need to book a call to explore more about this 90-day program   Book your slot in the calendar now  

Why You Need To Stop With The Crappy Affirmations

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Why You Need To Stop With The Crappy Affirmations

Do you ever wish you could change your mindset to achieve your goals? Good news: you can, by using affirmations and afformations. Affirmations are powerful statements that help improve your mindset, while afformations take it a step further by turning these statements into questions. Ready to unlock your potential and create affirmations that actually work? Keep reading to learn the best techniques for crafting effective affirmations and how to enhance them with afformations.

What are affirmations and why do they matter?

Definition of affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that you repeat to yourself, with the goal of replacing negative or limiting beliefs with empowering ones. These statements can be about anything, from your self-worth to your career goals. They are typically short and easy to remember, and are often written in the present tense.

Importance of affirmations

Affirmations can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. By repeating positive statements to yourself on a regular basis, you can begin to change the way you think and feel about yourself, your life and the world around you. This can lead to increased confidence, motivation, and a more positive outlook on life.

Common issues with affirmations

While affirmations can be a powerful tool for personal transformation, there are some common issues that people may encounter when trying to use them effectively. One of the biggest issues is that people may not believe the affirmations they are repeating, which can make them feel like a waste of time. Another issue is that people may not be using the right affirmations for their specific needs or goals.

To overcome these issues, it’s important to choose affirmations that are specific, realistic, and meaningful to you. It’s also important to repeat your affirmations regularly, and to use them in conjunction with other personal growth practices, such as meditation or journaling.

What Are Afformations?

Do you ever find yourself struggling to believe the affirmations you repeat to yourself? If so, you may want to try using afformations instead.

Definition of Afformations

Afformations are a type of self-talk that involves asking yourself empowering questions. Unlike affirmations, which are statements that you repeat to yourself, afformations are phrased as questions that prompt your brain to search for evidence to support the positive assumption being made.

For example, instead of saying “I am confident”, an afformation would be “Why am I so confident?” This prompts your brain to search for evidence to support your confidence, rather than feeling like you are lying to yourself with a statement that you don’t believe.

How Afformations Differ from Affirmations

The main difference between afformations and affirmations is the way they are phrased. Affirmations are statements that are repeated to yourself, often in the present tense, with the goal of replacing negative self-talk with positive self-talk.

Afformations, on the other hand, are phrased as questions that prompt your brain to search for evidence to support the positive assumption being made. This can be especially helpful for people who struggle with feeling like affirmations are not believable or effective.

With afformations, you are essentially programming your brain to look for evidence that supports the positive beliefs you want to have about yourself, rather than simply telling yourself something that you may not believe to be true.

You may have heard of affirmations, but have you heard of afformations? Afformations are similar to affirmations in that they are positive statements you repeat to yourself to change your mindset and attract positive outcomes. However, what sets afformations apart is that they are framed as a question. This creates a more powerful effect on your subconscious mind, as it is more likely to seek out solutions and answers to a question than a statement.

1. Identify the Problem

The first step in creating effective afformations is to identify the problem you want to solve. What is holding you back? What negative thought patterns do you have? Once you have identified the problem, write it down.

2. Frame the Problem as a Question

Next, turn the problem into a question. For example, if your problem is “I am not confident,” rephrase it as “Why am I so confident?” This turns the focus onto finding a solution rather than dwelling on the problem.

3. Add Empowering Phrases

Now it’s time to add empowering phrases to your afformation. These are positive statements that will help you believe in yourself and your ability to find a solution. For example, you could add “I am capable” or “I am worthy” to your afformation.

4. Use Present Tense and Positive Language

Make sure to use present tense and positive language in your afformations. This helps to reprogram your subconscious mind and create a more positive outlook. For example, instead of saying “I will be confident,” say “I am confident.”

5. Keep It Short and Specific

Keep your afformation short and specific. This makes it easier to remember and repeat throughout the day. For example, “Why am I so confident when speaking in public?”

6. Repeat Your Afformations Regularly

Finally, repeat your afformations regularly. Set aside time each day to say them out loud or write them down. The more you repeat them, the more they will become ingrained in your subconscious mind.

By following these steps, you can create effective afformations that will help you overcome negative thought patterns and attract positive outcomes.

Examples of Afformations

Creating affirmations that work can be challenging, but afformations are a powerful tool that can help you shift your mindset and achieve your goals. Here are some examples of afformations that you can use to improve your health, wealth, relationships, and career.

Health Afformations

  • Why am I so healthy?
  • How did I become so fit and strong?
  • Why do I love eating healthy foods?

Health afformations can help you focus on your well-being and make positive changes to your lifestyle. By asking why and how questions, you can encourage your mind to find solutions and create a healthier version of yourself.

Wealth Afformations

  • Why am I so successful?
  • How did I become so wealthy?
  • Why do I attract abundance and prosperity?

Wealth afformations can help you improve your financial situation and attract more money into your life. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your financial situation and create a mindset of abundance and prosperity.

Relationship Afformations

  • Why am I so loved and appreciated?
  • How did I become so happy in my relationships?
  • Why do I attract supportive and loving people?

Relationship afformations can help you improve your connections with others and attract positive people into your life. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your relationships and create a mindset of love and appreciation.

Career Afformations

  • Why am I so successful in my career?
  • How did I become so confident in my skills?
  • Why do I attract fulfilling and rewarding opportunities?

Career afformations can help you improve your professional life and achieve your career goals. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your career and create a mindset of success and achievement.

Reasons Afformations Don’t Work

You may have heard of affirmations as a way to improve your mindset and achieve your goals. But have you heard of afformations? Afformations are a newer approach to self-improvement that involve asking yourself empowering questions instead of making positive statements. While many people have found success with afformations, there are also some reasons why they may not work for everyone.

1. You’re Not Asking the Right Questions

One of the key aspects of afformations is asking yourself empowering questions that focus on what you want to achieve. However, if you’re not asking the right questions, you may not see the results you want. For example, if you’re trying to lose weight, asking yourself “Why am I always so hungry?” may not be as effective as asking “Why do I make healthy choices for my body?”

2. You’re Not Using Them Consistently

Like any habit or practice, afformations require consistency in order to see results. If you only use them sporadically or forget to incorporate them into your daily routine, you may not see the same benefits as someone who uses them consistently. Make sure to set aside time each day to use afformations and make them a regular part of your routine.

3. You’re Not Believing in Yourself

Afformations are all about empowering yourself and believing that you can achieve your goals. If you don’t truly believe in yourself or your ability to achieve what you want, afformations may not work as well. It’s important to work on building your self-confidence and belief in yourself in order to see the full benefits of afformations.

4. You’re Not Taking Action

While afformations can be powerful in helping you shift your mindset and beliefs, they’re not a substitute for taking action towards your goals. If you’re not taking tangible steps towards what you want to achieve, afformations may not be as effective. Make sure to combine afformations with action in order to see the best results.

Creating affirmations that work for you can be a powerful tool in achieving your goals and improving your mindset. When you combine this using the technique of “afformations”, you can shift your focus from negative self-talk to positive self-talk and reprogram your subconscious mind. Remember to make your afformations specific, positive, and in the present tense to align your thoughts with your desired outcome. Additionally, using visualization and repetition can help to reinforce your affirmations and make them more effective. With practice and consistency, you can create afformations that will support you in becoming the best version of yourself. So go ahead, give it a try, and see the positive changes that will come your way!

Are You Choosing Fear Or Love?

Ruth-Ellen Danquah
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You don’t understand is what I  a workshop participant said to me. I was teaching how to Rock, dominate and get promoted and I kept on hearing excuses. My company doesn’t work that way – ‘the you don’t understand excuse’ My manager and I already had that discussion – ‘the I am already doing it excuse’ Oh, I understand. I understand excuses Excuses born out of fear I understand that you may know what to do, but you ain’t doing it Often time we pull back from opportunities Pull back from relationships instead of telling the truth The truth to ourselves Our jobs as leaders, as people who fully show up, is not to convince the people that are not in it to win it. Our job is to be present Show up fully Without apologies Go through each doorway with a fresh new attitude of gratitude so we can see the altitude we want in ALL areas of our lives. To fulfil the vision I was in Jenny Kovacs challenge about ask and receive and something dawned on me Everything I was doing right now was in alignment with my vision And if you don’t know my vision here is a little bit of it ************************** We just bought a property in Chistlehusrt and it felt wonderful to pay for it in cash, with the portfolio interest gained from various investments we were able to pay off my mums and sister mortgage and renovate my dad house as well as pay for an assistant to help him. My hubby and I volunteered at Crisis together for the second year running We opened our second digital training hub in London which was subsidised by the state and corporates to employ the next generation of Google entrepreneurs My husband proposes every day to me and I always accept he is the most amazing man I know, he inspires me and the kids and is the most loving, giving, humble, handsome, man I know and I thank God for him every day. ************************* Nothing in my vision is actually about money It’s about who I am already, but enhancing it. I volunteer at Crisis, the awesome homeless shelter at Christmas because I know from personal experience how lonely homelessness is. My vision is about an experience How I want to leave the world a better place How I want to make sure I am a contributor, not just a consumer How I want to be love and be loved (sidenote: I am getting a tattoo that says live to love) The things I can do to be open to it every day is to stop being cynical, be focused on my vision and believe that the universe has got my back. This desire to desire that God has placed in my heart will come to fruition. Fear or love can also be seen in other areas of our life. We have to be intentional because when we put ourselves out there to the world of the potential suitors we need to set clear intentions Consciously and literally I am dating with the intention of meeting the right guy, the more dates you go on the closer you get to the right guy. I am on POF, Tinder (yes Tinder lol) Even accepted a request from a random guy on Facebook (I don’t just add random people, I checked out his profile). However, I set boundaries and similar to considering working with a potential client, if they are flakey I don’t give second chances. Here’s my thinking, if you can’t be trusted with the small things like showing up, how can you be trusted with the big things? When people show you who they are, believe them ? But make your choice from love, not fear, because the other option is not really an option at all Ruth-Ellen xx P.S. Opting into that freebie offer and hoping it solves all your problems is not a sales strategy that comes from a place of fear too. The fear of not knowing enough. Hun, you know loads! Listening to another generalised webinar, Livestream or group training programme that doesn’t get specific is not a sales strategy. Obsessing over whether something is wrong with you or something is wrong about your business and then wondering if something is wrong with you again is not a sales strategy. The difference between a business that thrives and one that dies is being aware of what is going on in your own head. If your head is not in the game then your business will be affected. When I got divorced, was made homeless with two kids to look after it took me a while to get back to me, the very core of me. Even though I had 20 years worth of experience in sales and had sold millions working with brands I found that I couldn’t sell with confidence, because parts of me were missing in action. Selling with Confidence: How To Win In Sales with Ease is a 6-week intensive program to get you back to your core, so you sell with confidence it starts the 2nd week in June. You will receive: ? 6 1:1 calls with customised action plans at the end of each session (never walk away not knowing what to do next), which will be focused on a specific result. Every 6th day we will jump back on a call to see how you implemented this action plan. And then we will focus on the next milestone (pay in full and you receive 8 of these) ? Unlimited email access between calls with a service level agreement which means you will get a response from me within 24 hours or less ? Support you want, support you get! ? A private membership area to access your bonuses, ask me questions and practice your sales techniques for actual feedback, yes I know ? You walk away: – ? Knowing how to sell without looking pushy, sleazy, salesy or all those other things associated with sales ? Knowing how to get new clients with ease (even when you’re sleeping) so it is easy to be sales focused every day without aggressively pursuing sales. ? Knowing how to deliver a compelling vision that will help your soul end clients rush to work with you ? Knowing how to have unshakeable confidence, no matter what, so you start to believe you can create anything you want! Selling with Confidence is all about knowing your value – understanding how to present it to the world – being unapologetic. The investment is £3997 or four instalments of £1197 each PLUS, SIGN UP BEFORE TUESDAY, MAY 18TH, YOU ALSO RECEIVE THESE INCREDIBLE BONUSES — WORTH MORE THAN £5000… A private half-day intensive with me (VALUE: £1997) (FULL PAY ONLY) Private power sales funnel session with me, where I help you to create a funnel, optimise your site for conversion, plus we work on your email sequence (VALUE: £2999) 4 Day Video Course to acquire sales traits, understand what a sales process really is, gain some methods to actually enable sales to occur without you pulling your hair out. All this will give you the end to end process to move forward with ease and blast through the things that have been keeping you going round in circles (VALUE: £799) Worksheets, checklists, overcome ANY objection Again, that’s £5K in bonuses for a 6-week coaching program, plus 1:1 calls with me AND A PRIVATE 1:1 INTENSIVE. You was NOT born to play small ? Play the part YOU was destined to play ? The world has a hole that can only be filled with you, but only… If you prepare to play NOW! ? Apply Selling with Confidence

Attention Listeners ? What You Feed Your Mind Affects Your Vibe

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“If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.” ~David Allen ______________________________________________________________________ I literally only listen to positive music ?whether that is from a specific country ? artist to ambient meditation music, I get real picky about what goes on my playlist and only listen to certain Paramore songs. ? I don’t watch horror movies ? (Paranormal was a comedy btw ?) and keep friends with negative tendencies to a minimum ?(I don’t totally cut them loose because we should encourage and uplift others when we can). God gives us the energy we need to do that. We should be filling ourselves up with music, movies, books etc that help us stay in that high vibe?. There are some emails I receive from coaches, leaders, trainers etc that use headlines to make me feel bad about my circumstances (well the circumstances they think I am in) as they want me to work with them. Everybody knows our current circumstances are not an indication of our future circumstances? In fact, these energy vampires are about to get an unsubscribe notification right now? Be a leader, an Eagle, Lion ?, Bear? because you’re not a snake? You’re not a sheep! Do you know who you are? You’re a force to be reckoned with that is powerful beyond measure? You’re mind-blowing, legendary, splendid, remarkable, you’re words that haven’t even been invented yet When God made you, he broke the mold because He knew there was never going to be anyone like you again. It’s time to level up and realise who you are through ALL areas of your life. What are you paying attention to that is stopping you? Don’t answer that! Just get rid of it?   Ruth-Ellen – Here’s to staying confident consistently? P.S. Doors to Selling with Confidence is opening soon. Do you want in? It’s only £97 to join (then £297 per month)! I want to teach my DRIVEN creators (that’s you by the way!) the mindset AND the strategy of owning it, crushing it and crushing it some more online, and I want to get you in at the trial offer! For £97!! And with over £3000 of bonus programs! And complete access to the coolest program! Whatttttt???! JOIN BY CLICKING THE RELEVANT BUTTON [thrive_leads id=’2377′] Get your £97 2 week trial of Selling with Confidence today, before we officially launch! Only just over a month before the doors close, and THIS is hands down THE best offer I’ve ever made online! Get on the list for a 3-day trial. £97. No strings. COMPLETE access to the entire course library. 1 new LIVE training every week from me. Multiple new tech – funnel – marketing – FB ads – content –more training. And an online FB group with other Cons. If you’ve learned a single thing from me online EVER then you’d be flat out crazy to not come on into the SELLING WITH CONFIDENCE and grab your £97 trial today! Just don’t say I didn’t warn you … when you see the level of OVER delivering in there you’re not gonna want to go anywhere. Which is kinda the whole point isn’t it?? ? Let’s get you rich and happy baby! With PURPOSE! PPS Please share this post if you found it helpful or tag someone you know who needs to read this and/or JOIN us!! I’ll send you positive vibes all day for it (truthfully I am sending you positive vibes just for reading this)!  

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10 Ways To Sell With Confidence [Warning: This Is More Fun Than It Sounds]

Ruth-Ellen Danquah
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Transcription (kind of it’s not verbatim?): I believe selling starts and ends with confidence. When you sell with confidence you’re saying you believe in what you’re selling, you believe in YOU! To make sure I am confident I step outside of my comfort zone regularly. This pic is of me last week Friday (7th April) at my 2nd burlesque show where I created my own routine and performed in front of strangers. I would NEVER have performed burlesque before. ? I used to be the girl that would listen to a partner who told her to go change because according to him what she was wearing didn’t look good. ? I would be the girl that would be in tears if a pitch meeting went bad. I would be the girl that would go out with douches that would say if you lost a little bit of weight you would be a 10. ? Now I’m that girl that is grateful for the people that she has met, that have left and are coming into her life. ? I am the girl that fails forward but loves herself regardless. The girl that has generated over £120 million pounds in new business sales for companies like Epson, HP and Expedia group. So my question to you is… ? Who are you? What are you doing to step outside of your comfort zone and generate more confidence? Here are my 10 tips to sell with confidence so you can start answering this question:

1. Sell with Confidence by getting your mindset right

This starts from the morning routine to the night time routine, it starts with setting intentions for the day to supporting those intentions with self-talk interrogation, to positive affirmations

2. Sell with Confidence By Creating & Following a Plan

Take inspired action with a plan that fits your lifestyle – There is no point in following someone else’s plan because that will lead to burnout. There are 8 ways to stay productive and 5 things we should avoid that are essential for our plans to be fulfilled. My program 10k Months™ is one of the coaching & training programs I have developed to help entrepreneurs like you fulfill short time and long-term goals.  You want to make sure you stay engaged in your vision even if they become less motivated (because in reality, we aren’t always going to be motivated to do things, our brain automatically strives for ease).  

3. Sell with Confidence by Communicating with Clarity

We have many different ways we like to communicate with the world. In fact, let me take it one step further and say that we have different learning styles and like to receive information based on our own needs. Our ideal clients are no different, here’s how to speak your ideal client’s language

4. Sell with Confidence with Positioning 

Position yourself as an expert and get more visible.  You’re an expert when you decide you’re an expert. From posting engaging posts, getting your brand out there and being seen as a thought leader, be seen + heard.

5. Use proven sales processes and do daily sales activities 

Some people mistake activity with progress. They believe if they are interacting on someone’s meme then they are building a relationship that may lead to sales. That is hope marketing.  There is no point implementing a marketing plan that doesn’t lead to SALES. You can’t make SALES without marketing because without marketing you’re invisible. You’ve heard it all before, I hear you. But all this MARKETING you are doing is supposed to do one thing. MARKETING is supposed to start an ideal SALES conversation. Marketing helps your ideal customer to know, like & trust you, if you are doing it right.

6. Sell with Confidence by Adding Value

Create premium offers – to transform your ideal client’s life.  Help them at where they are at, not where you want them to be. Regardless add value to the world.

7. Get uncomfortable and take more inspired action

sell with confidenceIt’s easier to do the things that we can do in our sleep. These things come easy to us so sure, why would we not do it? Our lives truly begin when we live in the #uncomfortzone. Do that live stream, even though no one is watching (because someone is always watching). Create an event, talk at an event, either way do something! Live outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself by participating in community challenges which will help you to gain the skills of learning by doing in your business and increase your overall confidence levels ✊

 

 

8. Sell with Confidence by inspiring your ideal clients

Your ideal clients will hire you for the energy you bring. If every business is selling the same solution but the only thing that sets them apart is the energy they are bringing, then surely we are not buying based on logic. We are buying because of emotions. Think about how you’re showing up.

9. Bring in new leads that you can nurture on a regular basis

Set up systems and processes, create ways for people to get to know you 24/7. You can learn how to make easy sales online by booking your strategy sessions here

10. Sell with Confidence By Being Persistent

Do you know how many times I have tried something that wasn’t fruitful? Confident isn’t about taking action because you are guaranteed to succeed, it is taking action regardless of the outcome. You are one step away from success!  

These are some of the steps in my core program that are looked at in more in depth in my 90  1:1 coaching program

If you would love to discover more about this 1:1 Coaching program to master your personal performance, processes & systems while receiving peak performance coaching!, I’d love to invite you to a FREE session with me, called Red Hot Sales. In this FREE Red Hot Sales session you will: •Uncover what is really stopping you from your best month yet. • You will receive a customised next step plan • You will go out completely reenergized & inspired to move forward with clarity If you want to be a confident entrepreneur on a consistent basis then, let’s really talk. Book your Red Hot Sales strategy session You deserve a life where you know your worth and are unapologetic about it! Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales & Growth Engineer Coach  
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