The question is are you constantly stressing out when you step out?
😮Because every time you show up you aren’t getting the numbers you want even though you’ve ‘let go’ of the outcome but you’re becoming Irritable AF
😮 Because you wake a few times in the middle of the night hoping someone’s chosen you to be their coach, they haven’t and you’re tired
😮 Because you’ve got another idea that people should jump all over so you’re ready to create another sales page but you’re experiencing goal trauma from the last ‘failure’ so that ain’t gonna work
Here’s my question… are you done manifesting…
😞Weight gain because you start emotionally eating when you’re sad
🥺Insomnia because you worry you just aren’t enough
So how do you fix it…you know not get stressed?
When you gain inner knowing that what you want, wants you and lose inner doubt you start to unattach, be visible because you have trust and that energy becomes super attractive to your soulmate clients.
Playing big is about expanding your capacity to accept all of you (yes even those parts you’re hiding) minus the doubts, sleepless nights, mood swings, blah and _____👈insert here.
We totally eradicate your stress in Unapologetically Visible to help you show up as the badass world-changing woman you are.
Receive 1:1 coaching & hypnotherapy to help you to be aligned AF, plus 4 energy meditations & 4 innvocations so you can transmute non-beneficial energy from your energetic field and claim back your sovereign divine feminine potency. All so you can show up unapologetically visible with ease, avoid burnout and have all the energy you need to call in magnetised clients while enjoying all elements of your business – VALUE £4,444
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It’s your time to play big without manifesting the things that will damage your body, mind and soul.
When you’re stepping out and sharing your truth some blocks can come up in your content creation process which means you are not as visible as you could be.
The one thing that is stopping you from being visible in your business right now is your PAST…
😖 In the past you went live and didn’t get the engagement you desired so YOU believe no one thinks you’re interesting enough
😖 In the past you put out an offer and got crickets so you now you think that your offers are not good enough you may have even tried to give them away for free and no one wanted it
😖 In the past you trusted your intuition and went all guns blazing but ended up being let down so now you trust your intuition as far as you can throw it
The bad news is when you live in the past you marinate in shame. And you know you can’t live in the present if you are still reliving the past
But here’s the good news, you don’t need to suffer from what happened in your past to run a successful business right now ⠀ Some of you are going live, posting content and sharing half-arsed truths while being anxious, that’s a place of suffering love and you don’t have to live there a second longer. ⠀ ⠀ If you believe that suffering is the only path to success you will suffer and when you get to your version of what you call success, you will absolutely resent it. ⠀ ⠀ Expansive work so that you show up as you unapologetically doesn’t have to be painful 😖 it can be liberating. ⠀ ⠀ 🎤Speaking your truth will be like walking around naked while doing a happy dance ⠀ ⠀ 🙌 Serving your soulmate clients will feel like feeding people that have been starving without them adding extra calories because what you’re serving only nourishes them ⠀ ⠀ 😎 Showing up without second-guessing yourself will feel like you’re shining your light so bright that anyone that dares to cast a shade on you will be met with your blinding light that they have to wear sunglasses ⠀
You may have meditated but perhaps need to go further and transmute the energy of F.E.A.R into something more expansive…like love.
F.E.A.R stands for finally an expanding attitude request.
You’re being called to do expansive work that expands you, not work that breaks you. Learn to know the difference
Which means that every time you feel a fear it’s a call to action for you to shift your altitude so you can go to your next level by bringing fear into the light and unblocking those creative content juices.
To transmute fear energy into love energy choose to get curious about an experience that perhaps wasn’t dealt with from the past, to release the dark wound and let love live.
Here are some journal prompts:
🤚 What does the younger me need to hear to feel safe, loved and supported?
🤚 Why am I not honouring my journey by sharing my story?
🤚 How does this sharing this story free others from shame?
🤚What are three ways can I rewrite the meaning of the story so it is empowers me?
✋ What do I need to share so I can be of greater service to my soulmate clients?
F.E.A.R is just one of the tools we use in Unapologetically Visible to help you show up as the badass world-changing woman you are
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Direct message by clicking here, you know you deserve more right? 💕 if you don’t know yet, you will get to know, it’s all part of the process 😉
The S.H.E Can Show believe that labels are for jars and not for people, we share how guest shift, heal and expand so that you can do that too. Hosted by Ruth-Ellen Danquah hypnotherapist with a mission to empower all women to show up as their badass self in their business through crushing, crumbling and destroying vows to play small using hypnotherapy.
Now and again we talk about inclusion in the workplace and how we can belong, in this episode we explore belonging, culture and emotional intelligence so you can excel in your career. Today’s show features Sudeshna Sen!
Sudeshna is a career strategist.
After tremendous soul searching she discovered that she loves the corporate world, and it loves her back- but the language of love was missing.
She speaks from her experience as an expat, a person of colour, a woman navigating a career in tech, banking and business.
In spite of her business credentials, what sparks joy in her is helping people achieve their ambitions, and for people to own their dreams.
In this episode learn about:
How Sudeshna got into her career [0.52]
What corporate belonging schemes are making an impact [3:20]
How reverse mentoring is helping colleagues to be more culturally & emotionally intelligent [5:02]
What 3 factors help Sudeshna to feel like she belongs within a corporate environment [8:40]
How her Indian culture helps her to connect with others more easily [14:30]
One of the pitfalls we can fall into that can stop us from speaking up [16:42]
The two types of people that Sudeshna helps to succeed in their career [19:00]
The surprising truth about being “loyal” the company you work for [25:00]
3 things every employee can do to move forward and feel like they belong [27:00]
How to have meetings so your team stays aligned [30:00]
Todays spirit animal is the Zebra – the Zebra Symbolism incorporates the need to accept yourself and others unconditionally. The Zebra reminds you that you should embrace your differences. Look at the whole of who you and others are.
The S.H.E Can Show believe that labels are for jars and not for people, we share how guest shift, heal and expand so that you can do that too. Hosted by Ruth-Ellen Danquah hypnotherapist with a mission to empower all women to show up as their badass self in their business through crushing, crumbling and destroying vows to play small using hypnotherapy. Today’s show features Janine Wirth!
Listen or watch to the S.H.E Can Show below episode 1 below
Janine aka “the trauma whisperer” is a licensed psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist and coach specialising in helping women heal from unresolved trauma and emotional baggage without spending years in therapy.
She speaks about her own healing journey after surviving a hijacking, kidnapping and attempted rape at gunpoint at age 18.
Her mission is to help women make the connection between emotional baggage and how it shows up later in life through symptoms like binge eating, self-sabotage, procrastination etc and affects our romantic relationships, how we parent and even how we show up in our careers.
In this episode learn about:
What trauma is (and it how you may be thinking about it all wrong) [1:32]
Why trauma takes time to process [2:40]
Janine’s long term relationship with trauma [4:16]
The medicine of trauma [5:20]
Tools to help you manage trauma [7:10]
Symptoms of trauma (including secondary symptoms [10:24]
Types of clients Janine works with [14:00]
When left unresolved how trauma shows up (including physical symptoms) [17:19]
What everyone needs to hear about unresolved trauma [19:40]
How to identify a victim & survivor mindset [21:00]
I don’t like horrors they give me anxiety ⠀ ⠀ So obviously I had to watch one lol 😂 ⠀ ⠀ There’s something about facing my fears and facing the ‘bogeyman’ that actually calms my soul 🤷♀️⠀ ⠀ So I watched Halloween 🎃 ⠀ ⠀ Because in my 40 years on this planet I thought this was one of the creepiest movie ⠀ ⠀ And I still don’t get it ⠀ ⠀ People don’t just go around with no motives killing people (btw PC brigade keep it moving this isn’t for you🙄) ⠀ ⠀ And so this guys motivation as the ‘bad guy’ was weak⠀ ⠀ The world wants to tell you that everything is black and white, good and bad, right and wrong ⠀ ⠀ That the bad guys wear masks 🎭 and are tall and strong but that’s not the case ⠀ ⠀ If psychology, spirituality and being a world changer has taught us anything we know that there is more to the human mind & behaviour than that ⠀ ⠀ Subconsciously we take on other people’s judgements about how we live our lives and allow it to affect how we see ourselves
Other people’s judgement currency, won’t pay for your peace
Ruth-Ellen – Labels are for jars, not people
We need to think of ourselves as souls that are filled with peace
The more we have peace the more we can transmute the dark and turn it into light
Ultimately we want to create peace currency
Peace of mind
Peace with the actions we take
Peace with our finances
Peace for the world
But when we take someone else’s perception of who they want us to be we dishonour ourselves ⠀
And that doesn’t give us the peace we desire
Our business is an extension of who we are
And if our self image is a distorted version of who we are then our business is out of alignment
When our business is out of alignment, it no longer feels like joy
Because our business is no longer us
So in order to get back into alignment
We must get back to us
And that goes back to being at peace
So how do you claim your peace?
You become still and listen to your own inner voice through using tools like visualization, meditation, shadow work, journeying
You drop the layers of baggage that weren’t even yours in the first place using tools like timeline therapy, hypnotherapy, EFT
You start to accept & trust yourself, knowing you have all the answers within because you are enough through DBT tools
⠀ Ultimately you start to honour who you REALLY are⠀ ⠀ Because you’re not someone else’s plot holed filled story ⠀ ⠀ You create your own stories that empower you ⠀ ⠀ Stories that make you the lead actress, director, producer ⠀ ⠀ You collect the box office takings including the sponsorship and special appearance fees⠀ ⠀ And you stop playing a part in your business that makes no fucking sense⠀ ⠀
Let me be clear Halloweens protagonist makes no sense ⠀ ⠀
There I said it Michael Myers character in Halloween makes no sense ⠀ ⠀
I mean come on…the guy walks at a pace of a tortoise with a missing leg (so yes super slow) how is everyone still able to be caught so easily 🤦♀️smh ⠀ ⠀
Let’ face our fears and pick holes in these stories rather than keep on running away from them because they are too “dark”⠀ ⠀
And we are supposed to be “love and light”⠀ ⠀
I know as a world changer you have a mission and it doesn’t serve you to be human vacuum (sucking up all the worlds darkness) and that is exactly why you need to face the dark so it can flow through you and not get stuck in you, so you can transmute it for good. ⠀ ⠀
Ready to release yourself from hours of internet-stalking; comparing your business (and life) to everyone else?
Then get ready to obsess over your brilliance and say goodbye to that comparison monster.
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With the Unapologetically Visible 1:1 coaching & healing program, you will know exactly what visibility strategy will bring you the results you need with complete clarity by getting aligned AF. And then we will implement a repeatable system that allows you to call in soulmate clients without the burnout
Your 30 VIP Permission to Get Triggered Voxer Access will help you to identify those triggers that stop you from playing big so you can finally learn how to turn your triggers into your biggest winners. Picture yourself getting triggered, leaving me a message and within a matter of hours the trigger no longer affecting you #coachingontap – VALUE £3,333
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4 energy rituals so you can transmute non-beneficial energy from your energetic field and claim back your sovereign divine feminine potency
Now let’s shift your fears into the light so that you can feel supported in your world-changing mission. Book your call now it’s time to be Unapologetically Visible
Next on my list is that f*cking stupid clown 🤡 IT now this one has major plot holes and it had me scared of clowns for the longest time not anymore 😳
Hooorah! So I created a My Next Steps Tarot Spread because I know alignment is a huge topic but I wanted to break down a simple way you can get back to being in an aligned state so you can move forward and take aligned action with ease
1.Know the root of the problem – The problem is a manifestation of the symptoms of underlying issues. Normally the root of the problem is hidden within the subconscious or unconscious
2. Know the best way to deal with it for YOU. Because there are many ways to get to a solution, but which one is the path of least resistance for you?
3. The next steps to take aligned action based on your intuition
You made it exclusive (accepted the 35 hours per week position) And then you realised how many issues this commitment came with
Your partner had a habit drinking way too much as a form of “bonding” (work parties with alcohol)
You also found your new partner had an issue with people that didn’t act, think and look like them (inclusion and diversity to them was someone with different hair colour 😏)
And your partners emotional intelligence was lacking (gossiping about colleagues was there favourite past time)
And you would constantly get into arguments because your value system did not align Why are you still dedicating 40 hours a week to this relationship? (Remember you have to travel to see them too 🙄)
You would have broken up, blocked and gone on a retreat to heal from that toxic relationship by now But you make the excuse to stay because you are tired and you’re getting paid 😓
And you believe if you stay it will get better (yes you believe in 4th chances). There is a better way to excel in your career
Lean in and listen to this Shot of Confidence Episode as I delve into what you can do to get more traction in your job search by tapping into the unusual
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Shots You Don’t Want to Miss In This Episode:
Why you need to go back to the drawing board and create your dream job
How to create a more balanced relationship with your job
Have you ever felt that sharing your truth was too uncomfortable?
So instead of speaking your truth
Instead of sharing your brilliance
You kept quiet
You let your ego run the show
It hurts a lot of people when you don’t share your unique self
It hurts you and the world
I get sick when I don’t share my truth
Literally my energy points get’s blocked
From my throat chakra to my root
And I go into suffering mode
You know that mode where you’re ill
And you stop being grateful because you get a myopic mindset
And it spreads to other people
And when I become ill I become a consumer
A consumer of misery of people, things I don’t need and a mindset that becomes like a victim
And a healthy body is a contributor not just a consumer
So I stop contributing to the world
When I don’t contribute I get coughs that turn into chest infections
Sharing you truth is an act of intimacy
Speaking your truth is an act of intimacy
Standing in your truth is an act of intimacy
The number one signal of not sharing your truth is your current health!
Because intimacy is the container where my truth and your truth are both welcome
When you choose not to be intimate
You are choosing fear
And when you choose to let fear you’re not choosing love and you become disconnected
Disconnected from others
And disconnected with ourselves
And when we are disconnected we get ill, it’s the way the human soul was hard wired, we are made for connection
Recently I was on a mental health first aid course (because mental well being matters) and the mindset shift that I made after the course changed my life (again)
How… on this two day course we talked depression, stress, bipolar and more…we got intimate and certified so we can connect others to support them with their mental well being
And being neurodiverse and working in the neurodiversity community for over 7 years has meant that I have seen people’s mental well-being playing secondary to the needs of others.
This has cost them their mental well-being
And this Mental First Aid course solidified what I knew and continue to know… that the strategies to better manage and heal those illnesses are found in your daily practice
Meditation
Journaling
Mindfulness
Many people have had great shifts in their lives because of having a spiritual practice, a routine, rituals
So a couple of years ago when I created my Ultimate Magical Morning Routine which is a spiritual morning routine course honouring all parts of you, I tucked it away and share it with a few
But I didn’t truly share it with the world
Because I thought surely everyone has this locked down
Who am I to think people need my input (oh hello ego lol)
Have you ever had thoughts like this?
I know that my ego comes up when I am in judgement mode, but after debating with my highest wisdom for a while I have added coaching & healing as an option to the course so that you expand beyond the 7 days and level up to your next level.
I am here to help you finally break those ancestral patterns, expand your nervous system’s capacity to receive abundance and be who you really are through alignment.
And my ego is coming along for the ride as my friend, no longer my enemy
Because I got intimate with my ego
Which helped me to go back into alignment
Do you need to be in alignment and get intimate with your ego?
Because alignment is all about raising your personal energetic frequency so you live moment to moment even more present so that you make an impact and change people’s lives you come into contact with.
Don’t you want that?
Click here to book a call to find out more about working together, let’s me help you get intimate with yourself and the world
I want you to imagine that you were minding your business Sitting down and chilling And then someone grabs your belly
No…
Squeezes your belly And then say’s You have a lot of weight to lose in the gym Then that same person laughs
This was my initial though when it happened to me…
What would you do?
Would it be acceptable to you?
Here is the thing
Many people I know wouldn’t say a thing
I was one of those people
Because I had a tendancy to process things/ events after not in the present
I have learnt to react not respond
I mean I grew up in an area where looking at someone the wrong way would get you in serious trouble
So this was the message I got on my phone after “the incident”
Context:
No this wasn’t a made up scenario
Yes, he actually went there: My mum is fat and obese and I love her * (yes I corrected his spelling, no shade, English wasn’t his first language)
So what is my point of sharing this story…
You have a choice to react to the BS of other
You have a choice to take on other people’s energy
You have a choice to take on other people’s thoughts as your own thoughts
The moment, you DECIDE that you don’t have a choice is a moment you give away your power!
If you want to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY confident then it is time to set your boundaries, learn to love all parts of yourself (yes all parts, no more abandoning yourself) and step into the Limitless woman you was meant to be.
In case you didn’t know, I will say it again…I believe in being a contributor, not just a consumer that’s why I started Women who Collaborate
Listen to Chantay talk about the realities of having a business that thrives and not quite ditching your 9-5 straight off the bat
Why this one thing will save you hours of time and money (hint it is not as obvious as you think)
12 Angry Men is about 12 members of the jury who must deliberate, with a guilty verdict meaning death for the accused, an inner-city teen.
As these 12 Angry Men try to reach a unanimous decision while in a room, one juror rocks the boat by proposing that it is possible that the accused is actually not guilty.
The simplicity of this movie is addictive and it really allows you to concentrate on the essence of the story.
I remember watching 12 Angry Men for the first time years ago and was in awe of the thought process of the characters, it became my top 5 films of all time.
So I was glad to see Netflix had it in their watch list.
So what are the 3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Unapologetic Confidence?
Lesson #1 It only takes more confidence to love than it does to hate
It happens at work, in the supermarket, shoot even at home. Sometimes we see something is wrong in society and we say nothing, do nothing or perhaps we say something in our head. There is a freedom that is innate as when we speak out, stand up and be counted and that is when we are our authentic self.
Recently on the way to an 8-mile hike in Otford with my other half, we met a man on a train who described the passenger across from him as a dickhead
Yes a dickhead
Why?
Well…
Because he took up space on the chair with his bag
Space where other people could be sitting
So he called him a dickhead
I explained to this man that calling this guy a dickhead isn’t the way to be
I said we are all connected and using that word disconnects us to each other
I had the unapologetic confidence to be couragous in that moment and I chose to speak my truth
“It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare.”
Lesson #2 When I am confident my energy stays high vibe
If you took the poll on sleep, you would already know that MRI scans show that we stop thinking when we listen to experts. Whether it is in a courtroom and a lawyer is winning us over with their words or whether it is a lecture on metaphysics we have to question EVERYTHING, confidence to question is vital.
Juror #8: Maybe. It’s also possible for a lawyer to be just plain stupid, isn’t it? I mean it’s possible.
The 12 Angry Men jury cross-examined everything when they were deliberating over the case.
How often do you give yourself time after the fact to analyse the evidence/information people have given you?
Lesson #3 – Prejudice always blocks the energy of confidently connecting
After telling the man on the train to choose his words wisely we had a deep conversation about his life, politics, bipolar and drugs
They say first impressions stick and people have already made up their mind about you in 3 seconds.
I personally think it is silly to make a judgment on someone after only 3 seconds, it goes beyond silly it is closed mindedness
If I held onto my prejudices I would have missed out on the connection and conversation.
One of the main prejudices of the jurors in 12 Angry men were where the accused was from a poor neighbourhood
Preconceived ideas of the boy’s character were already made due to where he resided.
Whether we have prejudices about someone’s culture, their parental household or the way they look, the truth is the truth and we should remind ourselves everyone deserves to be treated equally
Bonus lessons
Lesson #4 – People make mistakes, they are only people. We all are living through filters that don’t always serve us
Lesson #5 A good story doesn’t need to cost the earth, have special effects in order to be told well. 12 Angry men cost $340,000 and to date has accumulated to over $1,000,000
Lesson #6 The character of a man is proven by his actions not his words.
Lesson #7 No matter what the circumstances you should always be energetically aligned to your highest self
Juror #11: I beg pardon… Juror #10: “I beg pardon?” What are you so polite about? Juror #11: For the same reason you are not: it’s the way I was brought up.
12 Angry Men is a classic, a must watch that I recommend!
Every day we are learning new lessons, sometimes we have to relearn lessons if we are not present and those can really block us from living a celebrated and instead living a tolerated life. I help women to be unap[ologetically confident so that they can be celebrated not just tolerated in all areas of their life/
That’s what I coach you on in Limitless Confidence because spiritually, mentally, physically you are a master of your energy or at least will be at the end of the 90 days you will be
Limitless Confidence isn’t for everyone, it’s for a select few, for those high achievers that want to get off the busy bike and start to focus on what’s important to them. Those that no longer want to live in a world that drains them but gives them an overflow of energy physically, mentally and spiritually. If that sounds like you then click here to get more information
#becelebrated
Ruth ‘I love the classics’ Danquah
P.P.S. My doors to 90 Days To Limitless Confidence has some amazing bonuses like an exclusive ticket to my Limitless YOU live event. BUT…this bonus which will expire soon, so that you can tap into your zone of effectiveness, efficiency and enthusiasm I encourage you to make a decision so you can be unapologetically confident with ease.
