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Problem Solving In Sales – 8 Quick Steps

Sometimes in business, we come across problems.

Problems that we are too close to, which can end up with us feeling “stuck”. It is almost like a puzzle, where we can see all the pieces but we don’t know how to put the pieces in the right places so they make sense.

One puzzle piece that I needed problem-solving, was how to deal with a horrible client.  I recall a period where I had a web design client through my social enterprise agency. The project was straight forward, the client wanted to convert their current wix site to a wordpress and it was a referral so I couldn’t say no.

It was my first 4 figure client and I was so grateful to have one after months of doing websites that were £500 or less. I could do this with my eyes closed I thought.

My first thought…yes, I can actually afford to hire a dyslexic freelancer and make that social impact, the whole reason I started.

And I did, I hired this young web designer and finally felt I could delegate.

It felt like I had really started to make an impact, I paid my freelancer out of my own pocket because the client was taking ages to get back to me. I used my project management tools, scheduled tasks and promptly replied to emails, even implemented a service level agreement to make sure expectations were met from both sides…

I initially used thrive themes but realised the quality diminished, so then I used DIVI themes and spent hours changing the content from thrive…long story short, the project didn’t work out.

 

What I learnt from this is to follow my instincts when my gut says something is off. I dug a little deeper to reframe this project into a positive. I realised instead of labelling the client as indecisive and not knowing what they want. I knew exactly how to get clarity from a client and learnt how to be assertive. I learnt so much wonderful things from the client like how to have difficult conversations, how to communicate with different types of people and how to solve problems.

When trying to fix a puzzle, something that is a problem, it can be challenging having to figure it out, so here are some tips to solving problems in sales, in 8 simple steps:

1st Step: Identify the issues. Be clear about what the problem is. Change the language from a negative to a positive

Step 2: Try to put yourself in some else’s shoe’s so you can understand everyone’s point of view

Step 3: List all the possible options to resolving this …

Step 4: Evaluate the options (making sure they are win-win/goal aligned)

Step 5: Select the best option based on your evaluation

Step 6: Write down what you have agreed (formally or informally)

Step 7: Set A Deadline For When Things Should Be Solved

Step 8: Take Action And Solve Your Problem (while recording progress)

Logical steps help us to resolve problems that often appear illogical in nature.

I had to learn who my ideal client was not, the hard way, it took me almost 6 months to resolve this project, I lost money, time and I gained a whole lot of stress. For a period of time, I absolutely loathed website design because of the experience with this client.  I do not want you to stop your heart centred mission because you can’t identify your ideal client or you take one on because you’re constantly relying on referrals.

Schedule your complimentary call with me and let’s see if I can help you to stop relying on referrals and map out who your ideal clients are so you get more sales. Click here to book your complimentary slot ✊

Want to Get More Sales? Have an Unshakeable Plan

I can’t tell emphasise enough how important a plan is.

I am not talking about a plan that Murdock from the A-Team made in a warehouse, that is way too calculated and between you and me it was really unrealistic ?

I am talking about a simple, no fuss plan that helps you to get stuff done! To be exact this has to be an unshakeable plan (no snow globe shakedowns phase this plan).

1.  You don’t have a plan b because plan A is the only thing that matters

2. You remain firm in your beliefs that you’re helping people and not offering your service to them is the same as leaving someone to drown when you can easily help them

3. You have made your DUMB goal  so you can set and achieve any goal easily

4. You are following a daily habit consistently to make this happen, because you want this bad

I just need you to remember whatever goal you ‘re aiming for right now will be achieved.

You just have to stay focused on your dream, your why!

Why do you want this so bad? Why do you need this to happen?

Why do you deserve this?

Your dream, the big why has to be all over your plan.

Because that dream motivates you when your vibration is low, it helps you to stay high.  You’ve got this!

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

Ruth-Ellen

P.S. Get More Sales is my 12-week program to help you get what you want with the focus you need. Book your strategy call here

Fix up your Sales Funnel

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In this episode of sales peak:

My mini rant about Periscope (even though I am grateful for 1000 hearts in one stream)
Why not everyone in your sales funnel is of equal value
Why you need a push & pull method and how it decreases your sales cycle

#getmoresales #sales

Sales peak is about inspiring you to sell daily so you can confidently increase your sales performance to #getmoresales My bite-sized inspiration will help you stay confident consistently

If you want to increase your sales on your next launch then please register for the sales funnel challenge to make easy sales online it’s time to #getmoresales

How to Make Your Sales & Marketing More Effective

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Lot’s of companies unwittingly help their sales and marketing team to work as separate entities rather than as a team.

In the many companies, that I have had the pleasure of working with, there are often time us vs them type of scenarios going on.

Marketing thinks sales people are lazy, sales teams think that marketing is clueless. Sales teams think marketing are ineffective, marketing things sales are stupid!

In my Selling with Confidence programme, I work with businesses to overcome this,  so they see exponential growth, because this problem of them vs us is very common.

If you work as a sole trader then this may be more of an internal struggle, a struggle you perhaps don’t even know that is going on. Never the less the struggle is real and is leading to the same result as the companies with teams if they don’t fix their gaps. This same result is low sales…

There is no point implementing a marketing plan that doesn’t lead to SALES. You can’t make SALES without marketing because without marketing you’re invisible. You’ve heard it all before, I hear you. But all this MARKETING you are doing is supposed to do one thing.  MARKETING is supposed to start an ideal SALES conversation. Marketing helps your ideal customer to know, like & trust you,  if you are doing it right!

 

Now I have outlined the what you are doing, I want to tell you the how to adjust it for sales success:

 

  • Make an agreement between your sales and marketing. I created a tool that helps me figure out how many leads I need each month in order to hit my target etc, if you don’t know your numbers you are going in blind!

 

  • Make sure they are creating marketing content that leads to your sales cycle so it is the obvious next logical step for your ideal client to get in contact with your sales team.

 

  • Use an integrated system customer relationship management tool that helps you manage your sales and marketing seamlessly so you are never missing out on opportunities

 

If you want to open the dialogue for generating more sales than grab ‘Mapping Content Ideas To Your Sales Cycle’ by filling in the form below for instant access

 

 

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Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales Coach

How To Set Yourself Up For Sales Success

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There are three things I am going to outline below so you set yourself up for sales success…

1.  Have a plan to pinpoint HOW you will achieve Sales Success

I know it sounds basic. But basic works. When I was tasked to bring in £12m a quarter I wasn’t told how to do it verbatim, that’s why they recruited me. They trusted that if they gave me to tools I would be able to do the job. I was given a phone, a CRM and more or less had to figure out the rest. Did I hit £12m no, my first-month heck no…but once I figured it out I hit £15m, sometimes more.

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Why?

Because I had a plan

And I stuck to it

There are lots of people that will try and distract you with shiny balls to take you away from your plan (mainly because they want you to consume their content). But I am telling you, find someone (it doesn’t have to be me, even though I am awesome lol) and get them to help you with a plan you stick to.

2. Use social selling organic or paid to form part of your WHO in your sales success

Facebook sales post example – 

A recent look at 682 Facebook posts found that posts containing advice or teaching something
new were shared 522% more than posts that weren’t advice related. Whether it’s a recipe, a statistic, a fun fact or a brilliant insight, offering something new is a great strategy to increase involvement among Fans and also increase your standing within Facebook’s Edgerank algorithm (which increases how often your Fans see your posts on their newsfeeds!)

 

Create offers that are applicable to where your target audience is in their buying decision. Here is an example of offers that we have on Confident School:

20/20 sales appointments – Helps people to increase the number of sales appointments in your diary so you get on the phone with people.

 

While…

The Confident Speaker – Helps people to gain the basics they need to use FB live confidently and stand out from the sea of people who Live Stream

Both of these offers very different results for my ideal clients and address very different problems. If you keep talking to your ideal client like they don’t recognise they have a problem (awareness stage) then they will start speaking to someone who is talking to them about solving their problem (decision stage).

I created 28 different content ideas that align with your sales cycle. These 28 ideas will help your ideal client in making the decision that you are the next logical step in their buyer’s journey …just pop your email address in the box below

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There is nothing worse than doing activities that waste your time. You have an empire to build and goals that involve more than this business. So you want to be as productive as possible.

 

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BS stands for other people’s business services! We don’t have to listen to anybody’s business pitch if we don’t want to! We have a choice to say no thank you, to click the x in that advert or skip ahead. So how do we become people who people WANT to listen to?

1. Listen – Many people listen with an intent to respond rather than really hear what is being said. Listen to what your target audience want via social listening then ask relevant questions!

2. Ask questions that help you clarify any assumptions that you may have about your target audience. Ask your target audience in any which way you can ie polls, surveys, emails, twitter, Facebook etc.


3. Offer value that helps people to solve a problem that stops them from progressing

4. Offer a solution based on that conversation to the exact audience you have asked.

5. Follow up with people via tools like email marketing as 4.24% buy from email and only 0.59% from social media.

 

3. Use Analytics to determine WHAT you should be focusing on for sales success

This will help you to concentrate on sales activities that make an impact

Here are my stats for periscope after trying for a week. Based on these stats I know what topics my audience are interested in more. What time they can join me live and which ones they are struggling with. On one particular Periscope, I got actual questions that were appropriate to the topic at hand. With more testing and monitoring I am confident I can grow this channel and will spend my time proportionately based on the return it gives me.

 

 

So there you go plan, sell and measure to make sure you set yourself up for sales success. Live Your Bliss my signature system to helping you go from where you are to living a life with ease.  Schedule an appointment to see if this system is for you, click here to find out more Selling With Confidence

 

Ruth-Ellen –

How To Stop Hating Your Career NOW

Are you stopping yourself from having the career you really want?

This can lead to resentment, in the following post I will give you five steps, so you know how to stop hating your career now 

I am getting married on a beach, a beach in Rio. That is the bottom line. It is a non-negotiable *mic drop*

So what?

Well…how many times have you stated what you really wanted and actually got it?

Your reluctance to build the career that you really want is fear.

When you settle for less than your expectations you leave the door open for disappointment.

Your fear of raising your prices, asking for the sale or being visible, is your fear of failure.

You’re withdrawing from the situation if you’re not approaching it.

There is no in between.

Stop avoiding failure, stop the fear, change your image, your belief, get out of your own way with these 5 tips…

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1. Get Clear – Yes clarity, the word that gets bashed around like a boxing bag. Ask yourself what you really want. Then ask yourself what you really want again. No matter what your mind feedbacks to you, remember this is what you want.

2. Don’t argue with your mind, listen to all reasons why you won’t / can’t have it. Use all that delightful, insightful feedback as intel you can use to answer your inner critic. Allow all those objections and then like Rocky Balboa make a come back with answers that leave your mind floored.

Live outside your comfort zone to get the results you seek…

3. Get into the ideal career conversations, as often as possible –
When you know all the reasons people won’t give you buy in for a promotion you can then work on ways to close your career gaps. Influencing is a daily practice. Make sure you have the right mindset to advance your career.

4. Get accountability with support – There is no point being accountable to someone who doesn’t give you the support when you feel stuck. When you get accountability with no support it is almost like going into the ring with a boxing coach that is on your competitors side. The RIGHT support stops you from making excuses.

5. Have a strategy that you have tested that works for you – Here is the thing, different strategies for your career work for you that won’t work for other people. There is a place for LinkedIn,  Instagram, a place for Facebook and a place for Pinterest. Test what works for you. Offline, online etc… whatever you use, make sure it is strategic.

Here’s to being celebrated not tolerated ✊️

Ruth-Ellen x

P.S. The Celebrated Not Tolerated Community doors are opening soon, where you get one to one implementation breakthrough sessions over 12 weeks to reprogram your mind, crush limiting beliefs and manage your energy with ease…book your breakthrough call here

3 Quick Ways To Fall Back In Love With Your Business #childsplay

Like a teenager that refuses to pull their weight when it comes to chores, a colleague who expects to reap the rewards with no return, your business can sometimes make you want to kiss your teeth at it. So let me jump into three ways to fall back in love with your business so that you are feeding positivity in to see positivity out ?

1. Fall back in love via Your Inner Rick Flair

Write 50 ways why your business kicks butt, adds value and is the best there was, the best there is and the best there ever will be Woooooo (Ric Flair). Why 50? Well, I was going to ask you do 200 like my coach told me to do years ago when I was mad at my business but I am obviously nicer 😉

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Then do 7 days of business love mini challenge

Step 1 – Pick your top 7 reasons

Step 2 – Journal each day about the specific reason – bonus post one each day on social media #inlove

2. Fall Back in Love via ROI

Revive your business through getting your return on investment by making sales – Reach out to people that have engaged in your content

1. Thank them for engaging with your content
2. Ask them if they would like to join your group
3. See if they are interested in a focused mini session
4. Invite them to your program that helps to transform them

Get uncomfortable and know that you can laugh at yourself, it is a sign of maturity

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3. Fall Back in Love via Your Transformational Solution

Create a mind map of all the offers that help to transition your client from their current situation to a better situation.

I just need you to remember whatever goal you ‘re aiming for right now will be achieved.

You just have to stay focused on your dream, your why!

Why do you want this so bad?
Why do you need this to happen?
Why do you deserve this?

Your dream, the big why has to be all over your plan. Because that dream motivates you when your vibration is low, it helps you to stay high.

You’ve got this!

Here’s to staying confident ✊

Ruth-Ellen xx

 

Need more convincing as to why your business is so freaking lovable? Hop on a quick call  so you can iron out your sales strategy or close more sales!

 

How To Increase Your Sales Using Your Website With Ease

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First of all, let me take you through the journey people are taking when they visit your site:

The person comes onto your site hoping that the search engine description and title they saw in the search results match the content on the page they have just landed on. And if it doesn’t meet their expectations (within 3 seconds or less) people jump straight off your site, this is called a bounce rate. Your job is to reduce these bounce rates.

Bounce rates are as scary as Chucky (yes from Childsplay). Because Chucky doesn’t want to be your friend he wants to ruin the life of your business, your sales, which is affecting how much you love or hate your business.

But this can be reduced by having a clear user experience, including copy, clear call to actions, easy to read font, clean design, etc.

Now let’s get into the nitty gritty…

Here are 5 ways to get more traffic:

1. When you create content, offer visitors a chance to go deeper with your content by offering them a content upgrade to learn more if they were to opt-in. This content upgrade could be a checklist, ebook etc.

2. Write skyscraper articles (Google loves them). Huh? Ok so this is a warning it is labour intensive.

Step 1 – go to Buzzsumo look for your keyword you are trying to place for

Step 2 –  See which one has the most shares on the social network you are present on

Step 3 –  Find ways to make a better version of that content, I am talking twice as long, better images, better quotes, better attitude, just better …do it, do it now!!!

3. Tell your list that you have just written an article. But don’t just tell them, show them. Create an extract of the post and add your 2 cents as to why it will help them solve that problem. Then add a link to the rest of the article (you will be surprised at how many people don’t do this).

4. Do an MC Hammer – the ‘you can’t touch this technique’ (yes I made it up, I am an unapologetic 80’s child) is all about creating content that makes people laugh, follow you,  interact with you because you are not like the rest of the pack. Personality increases visibility and sales!
5. When creating your sales offer make sure you are telling people about your specific transformational outcome. What exactly are they going to be able to do after they finish purchasing your product or service and also make it super easy for them to buy by pasting in a direct link too 😉
There are a bunch of ways to drive traffic to your site, but your offer has to have clarity in order for people to truly get what you’re selling if you would like some help with that book a cricket 2 sales strategy call with me here

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

>Ruth-Ellen
Your Get More Sales Coach!

Conquering Your Inner Enemy

It’s that constant inner voice that tells you that can’t,  laughs at you for trying and then like a playground bully with issues bigger than vogue does it all over again ?

 

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Do you often fight against yourself before you take the leap to do something? It is like playing basketball against yourself like these really cute Racoons ??? sidenote: I like Racoons

Our own inside enemy doesn’t show up that cute. They are instead masked in doubt, fear of failure and procrastination. If there is no enemy inside then there is no enemy outside that can do us harm – Les Brown

 

 

 

So how do we overcome our inner enemies, well we can conquer them ? #storytime

It is like the story of David & Goliath. By all odds, David was small in comparison to Goliath who was often described as being built as big as a house.

However… Goliath couldn’t see very well – Specsavers wasn’t available back in the day ?

Goliath wasn’t powerful – he took his perception of what people thought he could do for granted, he never trained, he never took the time to up his game.

David was deadly – he didn’t just rock next to Goliath with a sling he never used, he honed his craft years before.

David knew an opportunity was coming one day so he prepared for it, no matter how awkward he looked. ?

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So how do you know it is  your inner enemy talking and how do you beat it:

  • Action overcomes doubt!
  • Compassion overcomes anger!
  • Positive self-talk overcomes negative self-talk

What about if you feel awkward still? What makes you feel “awkward” in one season makes you powerful in the next! ✊✌️ Whether you are fighting Racoons or Goliaths, remember If there is no enemy inside then there is no enemy outside that can do you harm!

Every story teaches us a lesson, gives us insight about ourselves. Which gives us the choice to use that information to reduce frustration and alleviate our expectations about life.

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

Ruth-Ellen ? – Your Imperfect Action Strategist

P.S. Live Your Bliss is my 12-week coaching program to help you get the sales numbers you want with the focus you need, so you can overcome Goliaths, Racoons or anything else that is in your way. I Want To Live In My Bliss

3 Ways To Find Your Gift

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I believe that God has put gifts and talents and ability on the inside of every one of us. When you develop that and you believe in yourself and you believe that you’re a person of influence and a person of purpose, I believe you can rise up out of any situation. Joel Osteen

Inspiring words right? Only if you believe them.

Here is the thing.

Many of us don’t really know our gifts and talents

And when we do know, we don’t necessarily know what to do with them

So let’s try to solve at least one of these issues now

Ways to find your gifts:

The very logical way is to find your gift is to yourself…

1. What is the one common theme that is repetitive in your life?

2. What would 5 people say about you that makes you unique?

3. What comes easy to you? What do you love to talk about?

 

Problem with the above method is I don’t have five people I personally want to ask to validate me (strong word I know) as more than likely I won’t believe them…

 

The funner way (yes I know funner is not a word) to find your gift…

  1. Try everything (please keep it legal lol)
  2. Reflect and find out what you liked about it
  3. Do it as often as humanly possible AKA develop it, make it a habit of excellence

The third (and not for everyone) way to find your gift

Close your eyes

Imagine you have just landed in airport security

Exiting the airport

The clerk asks: business or pleasure

You reply both

What does both look like? Write it down (the first thought)

Then develop whatever came up

Is that it?

Erm pretty much. If you want three ways to know why you are unique check out my post on point of difference

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

Ruth-Ellen

P.S. Live Your Bliss is my 9-day program to help you get what you want with the focus you need
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7 Figure Blocks – How To Overcome The Boredom of Consistency

Often we go so far ahead of our plan of action then we completely miss the goal we were supposed to be aiming for. ?

Sometimes we are two steps away to making bank AKA cash but we give up because we become disheartened. ?

There is no difference in making five figures, six figures or seven, you just have to follow the same process that made you successful. And that is where we ALL can hit a snag,

Because consistency is being marketed to you as something boring, rigid.  But it doesn’t have to be…

You’re the creator. You can choose to make the art of relationship building AKA serving as fun or boring as you want.

Whenever one of my teenagers come up to me and say I am bored. I ask are you bored or boring? This really challenges their thinking (as a parent I believe this is my jobs). Because this world is full of creative abundance, a never-ending stream of things to do and ways to do it.

So how can you ever be bored? How can you be bored you get to consistently create?

So let’s get back in and focus on the question at hand…is your big goal stopping the milestone?  If you think as money as a tool which helps you to serve more people at a consistent level then the answer is no.

However, if there is a block in the flow of this happening for you then try this…

 Self Interrogative questioning:
Questions like…
Will I get an abundance of clients?
Will I hit 7 figures?

This interrogative questioning will make your mind look for the answers so you are more action orientated.Also, here are some other questions that may help:

? How many clients do I need to serve in order to hit MY weekly, monthly target?
?  Which key activities bring ME a return on MY time?
There are loads of ways to overcome the block that is stopping the flow of money. I hope those tiny little snippets helped. Make bank by concentrating on cash creation ideas and take action. You know where we are if you need us ?  (We have a FREE 1k challenge coming up if you do btw) ?

A Quick Pep Talk On Focus – 1 Video 3 Quotes & A Slap (Or 7)

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According to Wikipedia Thompson was a good but not outstanding scholastic sprinter; her best result at the Jamaican Boys and Girls Championships came in 2009, when she placed fourth in the Class Two 100 metres in 12.01.

In the 100 metres women’s final in the 2016 Olympic Games in Rio de Janeiro she won the gold medal.

Imagine if Thompson lost her focus just because she looked at where she was rather than where she was heading.

It’s simple. When we focus on the right things, we can do great things. When we lack focus we will feel disappointed with our results.

 

 

Now here is your slap, I couldn’t choose between which slap…so enjoy

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Pep talk over!

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

Ruth-Ellen Henry

P.S. Get More SALES with Ease is my 11-week program to help you get what you want with the focus you need (income goal included)
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Jealous Much? How To Fix That In An Instant #childsplay

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Have you ever seen a car you have wanted drive by and park close to where you’re at, and when the person gets out of the car, you feel a little resentment towards that person? Has that ever happened to you? Or, if and when you were single, you saw this handsome man in a restaurant sitting, then his wife or girlfriend walks up and sits down and the same thing happens, you hate the girl for having the guy? To me and many other humans, it is only natural to feel resentment or hatred towards those who have nice or attractive things and people in their lives?

I know I used to be guilty of this. I had to learn that if I ever expected to have those things in my life, that I would have to shift my way of thinking. If there is a person that is having great results in business, better than my results, I had to learn to be happy and excited for that person instead of feeling jealousy and envy for what she has.
In Huna Philosophy, which is better known as Hawaiian spiritualism, it is understood that when you see something you want, bless it and bless that person who has it. If it is that new car you desire, bless that car and bless the person driving it. If it is the beautiful man you want, bless the handsome man and the woman beside him. By doing this, you attract these things into your life.

We’ve all been there (just some of us are more honest about owning it). When you feel that low vibration, smile and learn that the universe is telling you that yours is coming so bless others so nothing blocks it.

Bless others and you will be blessed x

For bonus points – Write or send a short letter to tell people how much you bless and acknowledge them – you don’t have to send it, choose someone who is successful in any arena

Follow the 6 other Huna principles 

Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊

Ruth-Ellen Henry – Your Get More Sales & Confidence Coach

P.S. 90 Days To Sales Mastery is now open to help you get what you want with the focus you need, book a slot to find out how I have helped companies generate over £120m in new business with these strategies.

How To Find Your POD #uncomfortzone

Today I want to talk about POD – Point of difference. Your point of difference is how you stand out in the sea of noise, why you love yourself more than anything. With a world telling us we need to think, look and act the same, POD is all about appreciating how uniquely wonderful you are.

It’s like a laugh in the sea of sadness or a cry at the top of a mountain of prosperity, it’s POD!

Whenever I prepare for a  speech I jump for joy at the prospect of feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

You see, on one hand, it absolutely petrifies me that I have to share my innermost thoughts with the world. What if they judge me? What if they think I am weird? My what if’s are the pain relief my brain likes to feel to stop me from taking action and backing out.

My inner child is filled with inquisitiveness and always challenges me with the other hand.  I get giddy just thinking about the research I get to do on myself and on others, it excites that I am on the cusp of at of finding out something new and I am about to pass it on to others, I like to call it leaving a legacy. Because when you share what you know, you leave a legacy behind. Luckily for me, my inner child wins over my what if’s, my dream is bigger than my fear. I hope that today’s post gives you some fuel to stay consistently confident.

The three point of differences I want to touch upon is:

  1. Experience
  2. Value & Beliefs
  3. Attitude/Outlook

Whether you are positioning yourself as the ideal problem solver for your client or are answering the question “why are you ideal for this job?” this is where your experience comes in….

Experience

We all have different filters, perceptions, insights which make us unique because of our experience.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

Let’s take out the negative message from our unique situations and use it to uplift us

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Experiences can cut you up or lift you up. It was 2009 when I found myself homeless, homeless with two young kids and not much in my pocket, it’s a story that has many levels, perhaps a story I will leave for another day. However, my main point is that in that experience I grew as a person, as a better person. 

I knew that the gift in that experience was not in self-pity but in gratefulness. I made a decision at that point of time to volunteer to serve people that were in worse scenarios than mine. It’s been my fifth year volunteering with Crisis at Christmas and it is one of the best things I have exchanged my time for. Being homeless and connecting with people to give them hope just felt like it was the right thing to do.

It was Einstein that said “the only source of knowledge is experience”. In his 2005 inagrual speech at Stanford University, Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect the dot’s looking back”. From all the conversations I have had over the last five years with guests at the homeless shelter I have learnt to smile instead of cry, be compassionate instead of selfish and to edify others instead of bringing them down. I truly believe that the path to the best version of me is due to that experience of being homeless, it allowed me to connect with source.

Our experiences don’t predict our future it is just an experience, a lesson we can use to quantum leap. And don’t be fooled into thinking you need other people to approve you, to tell you who you are.  Don’t be trapped by Dogma – living the results of other people’s thinking about you, have your own values and beliefs. Values and belief are important which my next point will explain….

 

Values & Beliefs

I take responsibility for where I am with my life, point blank. My experiences will no doubt change me but I do not let my experiences reduce me. My experiences help to shape my values and beliefs. The one consistent value and belief I have always had is to be kind.  Be kind to yourself, be kind to others, just be kind.  The values you have are so important and not having a value system is like being in a boxing ring for the heavyweight title with no gloves and then wonder why you didn’t win the title. Or placing a house of cards on a crooked table and then wondering why they keep falling down.

 

Attitude/Outlook

Your attitude affects your altitude.

It’s having an attitude of gratitude when you are feeling doubtful and sad about your circumstances.

It is about filling the gap for someone else and seeing how you can serve them.

It’s about journaling and releasing anger onto pen and paper and burning it (disclaimer do not burn paper without supervision, it is dangerous)

It’s about not taking feedback personally and seeing how to uplevel with a compassionate humble heart.

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change – Wayne Dyer 

The most effective way I have positivity changed my attitude is by reframing everything. I like to call it the reframe game which you can read more about on my previous post. Basically, it is  stepping back putting and framing the situation so you put the situation in perspective to better serve you.

My last thoughts on your point of difference (well sort of)

We all share the same destination  – death! The single best invention of life, it clears out the old and brings in the new.  But you are alive now and your experience, values/beliefs and overall attitude on life are a few ways to discover how to live that authentic life of abundance.  So I encourage YOU to implement your POD today!

If you need help implementing your POD why not book a FREE laser focused session with me?
➡️➡️➡️➡️ >>> Let’s Knock These Issues Out!!! <<<

Love & Light
Ruth-Ellen – Stay Confident ✊

P.S. Here is a quick FB live about POD and other ways to find your POD ?

 

9 Spiritual Principles For Abundance #spiritualthursday

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spiritual thursday

I always see being spiritual as someone who believes in God, Source or the Universe …believes in something that is higher than themselves is in charge.

There are spiritual practices to getting everything you want. Let’s get to it…

1. Becoming Aware of Your Highest Self

This awareness helps you to view yourself as more than merely a physical creation, which leads
to…

2. Trusting Yourself Is Trusting the Wisdom That Created You

This principle establishes you as one and the same with the universal God force, which leads to…

3. You Are Not an Organism in an Environment: You Are an Environorganism

Say what? This principle establishes that there is no separation between you and anything else outside you in the material world, which leads to…

4.  You Can Attract to Yourself What You Desire

This principle establishes your power to attract that which you are already connected to, which leads to…

5. Honouring Your Worthiness to Receive

If you haven’t read good enough post go do it after this!  This principle affirms that you are worthy of all that is attracted to your life, which leads to…

6. Connecting to the Divine Source with Unconditional Love
This principle creates an awareness of the significance of accepting your manifestations with absolute love, which leads to…

7. Meditating to the Sound of Creation

This principle gives you the tools for vibrating yourself to the very sounds that are in the world of
creation. These are the tools for attracting and manifesting, which lead to…

8. Patiently Detach from the Outcome

As Elsa from Frozen would say “let it go”… This principle emphasises the need for removing demands and becoming infinitely patient

Here is the song with lyrics…sing along now!!

…which leads to

9.  Reacting to Your Manifestations with Gratitude and Generosity

The attitude for gratitude is real in this one! This principle teaches the value of taming the ego and being thankful and in service to others with your manifestations.

Want to learn more get Wayne Dyer’s book which goes deeper into the content. It is a great read! 

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I Am Not Good Enough

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Good enough? You just don’t feel good enough?

Whenever I hear my clients tell me…

I can’t possibly charge that amount who will buy?
People will think of me as this type of person if I do this
No one’s bought my course that must mean it is shit?

It all translates to I am not good enough
My worth is based on my results
I do not feel worthy

One of my superpowers is cutting through bullshit so I have to challenge them on their thinking and one of the first questions (one of many) that I proceed to ask is…

According to who, who is telling you that you are not good enough?

They have no authority or proof and if you are feeding this lie then….

It is time to unpack the lie about “not being good enough”

Here is the thing about being good enough:

Feeling good enough about yourself…can be like the different states of water and ice.
It can change depending on your environment. More than likely your state of being changes depending on the energy you have around you. That feeling of not being good enough, that vibration could be someone else’s thoughts and feelings, their negative energy messing with yours.

This good enough thing is forever changing, so we must stay grounded and realise who we are and how much power we hold.

Still need some evidence on why being in the state of not good enough doesn’t serve you?

If you allow this negative “not good enough” energy to take over your body, it will change your state and present itself in different ways. You might experience:

? Heavy, dull pain in the body
? Negative thoughts about oneself
? Tearfulness, despondency
? Social anxiety
? Loss of life purpose, diminished interest in life
? Suicidal thoughts

The actions that these states may bring may result in:

? Withdrawal from relationships
? Abuse of alcohol or drugs
? Diminished emotional expression (resting face anyone)
? Continually verbalisation of negative thoughts
? Continous giving rather than being in the receiving mode, leading to burnout
? Tiredness
? Neglect of self-care/activities of daily living, such as showering, eating, and washing their clothes

Nothing about not feeling good enough brings any benefit to your life, it doesn’t serve you!

Accept that being “good enough” for who you are is enough. Because….

The whole good enough thing is overhyped.It’s something you choose at each moment, something you make a decision to work at and own minute by minute, a trust in the universe that you are meant to be here. Meant to be you and no one else. And that you are enough and have everything you need. Trust that the thing you desire, the thing that was put there in the first place by the universe will manifest.

5 Ways to Feel Good Enough (and one tip if that doesn’t work)

1. To feel good enough increase your vibration

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So here is the science bit. The dopamine and serotonin released when feeling happy, grateful, proud, excited, or compassionate can shift your opinions as well as your spirit. You feel better physically which leads to feeling better about yourself.Do activities that help you stay in a high-frequency state it makes all the difference.

2. Live in alignment and feel good enough

When your gut doesn’t feel right listening to it will save you a whole lot of heartache. When you worry about what others think, you are judging yourself against their values. Instead, discover what is most important to YOU and have the courage to stay on that path. Be kind to yourself whenever you get distracted, congratulate yourself that you are aware of it and are moving forward. Then reset your goals to stay true to who you are when you are doing what makes you feel fulfilled.

3. Remind yourself that The Universe loves you

It’s time you accept the love whether you believe in God, The Universe or your higher self, the love remains, it is unconditional!!!
Call on The Universe – it ALWAYS has your back. Work that faith muscle it will only get stronger.

4. Feel good enough by reprograming your mind

I teach my clients how to declutter their mind 24 hours a day so that when they feel that not good enough thought creeping in they are armed and know exactly how to win, that’s the power of reprogramming your mind.

5. Ask yourself questions to seek the truth to feel good enough

Positive affirmations have their place and I am sure you have heard of them.
So I am going to throw something new into the mix. Interrogative self-talk will activate your brain and get you into problem-solving mode. Asking yourself specific questions will help you achieve that goal.

So those are the five ways that my clients work with me to help them live their version of bliss.

Are you at the end of your tether with stopping and starting, being high and low?

Want to knock that ‘good enough’ crap out of your system?

Want to see consistent results?

Then I offer you an invitation to hop on a call for a chemistry session.

Schedule your time right now and let’s see what we can do about that good enough crap with a chemistry call to see if we can work together. This is not about giving you more information, you haven’t got an information problem, logically you know you are enough.

But emotionally you don’t feel it, so book your transformation call and shift that right now ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️


Love & Light

Ruth-Ellen – Get More Confidence & Get More Sales Coach ✊

20 Quick Tips To Increase Abundance

1. Love Yourself – make a list of everything you love about yourself, I am perfect the way I am, I have been put on this earth to be exceptional, add the list to the gratitude journal

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2. Live in the moment and enjoy the journey, celebrate being alive
3. Create a mastermind group of 4-6 people who make you accountable and encourage you
4. Find a mentor and qualified life coach…think about what the characteristics of a person you look up to?
5. Grow – never stop learning, read, attend workshops, inspirational movies
6. Embrace your fear – the saboteur stops you from living your greatest life
7. Walk your own path – the only opinion that matters is my own
8. Create an action plan – choose a goal then work backwards on what you want to achieve, celebrate all your successes
9. Take action steps every day – daily, weekly, monthly – be flexible
10. Never give up, never, ever, ever give up


11. Be a leader and inspire others to live their greatest life
12. Take the leap, what are you waiting for – live your greatest life now. Create global transformation

13. Remember – Believe in yourself, if others have achieved it so can you, doubt brings negative energy and to get rid of this

Allow it – frequently ask for what you want and add it to your attraction board…it is a snapshot of your future

14. Become aware – So you take the opportunities
15. Dream big
16. Enjoy the journey
17. Make a difference to EVERYONE you meet …leave each person you meet a little better then when you first met them

Aim for harmony by:

18. Enjoying the moment
19. Lose interest in judging self, others and stop worry
20. Participate in frequent acts of smiling. This will help you see an increase in letting things happen

Stay Confident

Love & Light

Ruth-Ellen

Have You Set Boundaries? #moatandfence

Let me get straight to the point.

If you don’t set boundaries around your needs then you will feel very very frustrated. Because people will walk all over you, because you haven’t told them not to (even though those people should know). But this is on you, you have to own it and make the decision that you will not tolerate it anymore. Setting boundaries helps to draw the line in the sand to do this.

#moatandfence: Setting Boundaries for a Happier, Healthier You In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get swept away by the demands of work, family, and social obligations. But have you ever stopped to consider your personal boundaries? Let’s face it, setting boundaries is a crucial aspect of maintaining mental and emotional health. So, are you well-guarded with your personal moat and fence? If not, it’s high time you started. This blog post will guide you on how to set boundaries and why they’re so important. Get ready to build your moat and fence, and protect your castle that is ‘You’!

Have You Set Boundaries? #moatandfence

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries are like the moat and fence that surround your castle, protecting your personal space and ensuring your well-being. They define the limits and parameters of how you interact with others, both physically and emotionally. Just like a moat keeps unwanted visitors at bay and a fence keeps your treasures safe, setting boundaries allows you to establish healthy relationships and maintain your own sense of self.

Defining Boundaries

Setting boundaries means clearly communicating your needs, desires, and limits to others. It involves knowing your own worth and valuing yourself enough to protect your physical and emotional well-being. Boundaries help establish a sense of personal agency and empower you to make decisions that align with your values and goals.

Types of Boundaries

Boundaries can manifest in various forms depending on the situation and the individuals involved. Here are some common types of boundaries you may encounter:

  1. Physical boundaries: These boundaries define your personal space, including your body, possessions, and personal environment. They involve respecting physical touch, personal belongings, and privacy.

  2. Emotional boundaries: Emotional boundaries involve protecting your feelings and emotional well-being. They help you establish limits on how much emotional energy you give or receive in relationships. Emotional boundaries also enable you to differentiate your emotions from others, allowing you to maintain a healthy sense of self.

  3. Time boundaries: Time boundaries involve managing your time and prioritizing your commitments. They help you set limits on how much time you dedicate to work, relationships, and personal activities. By setting time boundaries, you ensure that you have enough time for self-care and activities that bring you joy.

  4. Material boundaries: Material boundaries relate to your possessions and finances. They involve establishing limits on lending money, sharing belongings, or participating in financial transactions. Material boundaries help protect your resources and prevent exploitation.

Rejection Sensitivity and Boundaries

Rejection sensitivity refers to a heightened sensitivity to perceived rejection or criticism from others. It can make setting boundaries particularly challenging, as individuals with high rejection sensitivity may fear asserting their needs for fear of rejection or conflict. However, setting boundaries is essential for their well-being.

Imagine you’re at a buffet, and you only have a small plate. You need to be selective about what you put on your plate to ensure you enjoy your meal without feeling overwhelmed. Similarly, setting boundaries is like having a small plate in life. It allows you to be intentional about what you allow into your personal space and what you keep out.

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Setting boundaries is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and practice. By defining your boundaries and communicating them effectively, you can create healthier relationships, greater personal fulfillment, and stronger emotional well-being. So, have you set your boundaries yet?

Have You Set Boundaries? #moatandfence

Why Are Boundaries Important?

Setting boundaries is like building a moat around your castle or putting up a strong fence around your garden. It’s a way to protect yourself, maintain healthy relationships, and avoid burnout and overwhelm. Without boundaries, it’s like leaving your castle gate wide open for anyone and anything to come barging in. So, let’s dive into why boundaries are so important in various aspects of our lives.


Protecting Your Well-Being

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When it comes to protecting your well-being, boundaries are essential. Just like you wouldn’t let a stranger come into your home uninvited and start rearranging your furniture, you shouldn’t let others invade your personal space and emotions without your consent. By setting clear boundaries, you create a safe space where you can nurture your mental and emotional health. It allows you to recharge, focus on self-care, and prioritize your well-being without feeling guilty.


Maintaining Healthy Relationships

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Boundaries play a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships. Just like a well-maintained garden needs regular pruning to flourish, relationships thrive when boundaries are respected and communicated effectively. Setting boundaries helps define what you are comfortable with and what you expect from others. It fosters open communication, promotes mutual respect, and helps prevent misunderstandings and conflicts. Remember, healthy relationships are built on trust and understanding, and boundaries are the cornerstone of this foundation.


Avoiding Burnout and Overwhelm

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In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities and demands. Without boundaries, you risk burning out and feeling overwhelmed. Just like a tightrope walker needs balance to stay steady, setting boundaries allows you to find your equilibrium. It helps you manage your time, energy, and commitments effectively, ensuring you don’t spread yourself too thin. By clearly defining your limits and priorities, you can prevent burnout, maintain your sanity, and lead a more fulfilling life.


Remember, setting boundaries isn’t about building walls or shutting people out. It’s about creating a healthy balance between your needs and the needs of others. Boundaries empower you to take control of your life, protect your well-being, nurture your relationships, and avoid the pitfalls of burnout and overwhelm. So, take a moment to reflect on the boundaries you currently have in place and consider where you might need to reinforce or establish new ones. Your castle deserves to be protected, and your garden deserves to flourish!

Signs That You Need to Set Boundaries

Feeling Resentful or Overburdened

Do you ever find yourself feeling resentful or overburdened by the demands of others? It’s time to take a step back and evaluate whether you have set clear boundaries in your life. Boundaries are like a moat around a castle or a fence around a garden. They serve as a protective barrier, keeping out what is harmful or unwanted, and allowing in only what is beneficial and necessary.

Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and preserving your own well-being. When you constantly feel overwhelmed or taken advantage of, it can take a toll on your mental and emotional health. It’s important to recognize these signs and take action to establish boundaries that will protect your own needs and priorities.

Constantly Saying “Yes” When You Want to Say “No”

Do you find yourself constantly saying “yes” to others, even when you really want to say “no”? This is a clear indication that you need to set boundaries. While it’s admirable to be helpful and accommodating, constantly putting others’ needs before your own can lead to burnout and resentment.

Setting boundaries means learning to say “no” when it is necessary. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. By setting clear boundaries and learning to say “no” when needed, you will be able to maintain a healthier balance in your relationships and avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Feeling Like Your Needs Are Always Neglected

Do you often feel like your own needs are constantly being neglected? This is a red flag that you need to establish boundaries in your life. Just as a fence protects a garden from being trampled on, boundaries protect your personal space and ensure that your needs are met.

It’s important to communicate your needs to others and set limits on what you are willing to tolerate. By doing so, you are sending a clear message that your needs are important and deserve to be respected. Setting boundaries allows you to create a healthier and more fulfilling life, where your needs are acknowledged and prioritized.

Remember, setting boundaries is not selfish—it is an act of self-care and self-respect. It allows you to create a balanced and harmonious life where you can thrive. So, take a moment to reflect on your own boundaries and make sure they are serving you well. It’s time to build that moat or fence and protect yourself from unnecessary stress and overwhelm.

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How to Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries is an essential skill that allows us to maintain healthy relationships and protect our well-being. Without clear boundaries, we may find ourselves overwhelmed, stressed, and unable to meet our own needs. In this section, we will explore three key steps to effectively set boundaries: identify your limits, communicate clearly and assertively, and practice self-care.

Identify Your Limits

Before you can effectively set boundaries, it’s important to first identify your limits. Take some time to reflect on what makes you feel uncomfortable, stressed, or overwhelmed in different situations. Think about your emotional, physical, and mental boundaries. What are your non-negotiables? What are your deal-breakers? This self-awareness is crucial in establishing boundaries that align with your values and needs.

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Communicate Clearly and Assertively

Once you have identified your limits, it’s important to communicate them clearly and assertively to others. Remember, setting boundaries is not about controlling or manipulating others, but rather about taking care of yourself. Use “I” statements to express how you feel and what you need, rather than blaming or accusing others. Be direct, firm, and respectful in your communication.

Here are some tips for communicating boundaries effectively:

  • Clearly express your needs and expectations.
  • Use a confident and assertive tone.
  • Be consistent in reinforcing your boundaries.
  • Practice active listening and validate others’ feelings while still asserting your own boundaries.
  • Be prepared for potential resistance or pushback, and stand your ground.

Practice Self-Care

Setting boundaries also means prioritizing your own well-being and practicing self-care. Taking care of yourself allows you to recharge, maintain your mental and emotional health, and have the energy to meet your own needs. Remember, self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary for your overall well-being.

Here are some self-care practices that can support your boundary-setting journey:

  • Prioritize your physical health by getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in regular exercise.
  • Take time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s reading a book, taking a walk in nature, or indulging in a hobby.
  • Set aside time for self-reflection and introspection to ensure your boundaries remain aligned with your evolving needs.
  • Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and loved ones who respect and encourage your boundaries.
  • Consider seeking professional help or therapy if you need guidance or support in establishing and maintaining boundaries.

Remember, setting boundaries is an ongoing process. It may take time and practice to become comfortable with asserting your needs and enforcing your boundaries. But with patience and persistence, you can create a life that respects your limits, empowers you, and allows for healthy relationships and personal growth.

Now that we’ve explored how to set boundaries, let’s move on to the next section of this article. Stay tuned for more valuable insights and practical tips!

Overcoming Challenges in Setting Boundaries

Fear of Disappointing Others

Setting boundaries can be a daunting task, especially when we have a deep-rooted fear of disappointing others. We often worry about how our actions or decisions might affect the people around us. It’s natural to want to be liked and approved of, but it’s important to remember that our own well-being should be a top priority.

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So, how can we overcome this fear? One approach is to remind ourselves that it’s impossible to please everyone all the time. We need to accept that setting boundaries is a necessary part of self-care and personal growth. By clearly communicating our needs and limits, we allow others to understand and respect our boundaries.

Another helpful strategy is to reframe our perspective. Instead of viewing boundary-setting as a disappointment, think of it as an opportunity for growth and better relationships. By asserting our needs, we create healthier dynamics and foster mutual understanding with those around us.

Guilt and Obligation

Guilt and obligation often go hand in hand when it comes to setting boundaries. We may feel guilty for prioritizing our own needs over the expectations of others. This guilt can stem from a sense of duty or a fear of being seen as selfish.

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To overcome these feelings, it’s important to recognize that taking care of ourselves is not selfish, but necessary for our overall well-being. We cannot pour from an empty cup, and by setting boundaries, we ensure that we have the energy and resources to be there for others when it truly matters.

It can also be helpful to re-evaluate the source of our guilt. Are these expectations self-imposed or are they coming from external pressures? Learning to differentiate between genuine obligations and societal expectations can empower us to set boundaries that align with our values and priorities.

Fear of Conflict

The fear of conflict is another common challenge when it comes to setting boundaries. We may anticipate negative reactions, arguments, or even the loss of relationships. However, avoiding conflict at the expense of our own well-being is not a healthy approach.

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Instead of letting fear hold us back, we can reframe conflict as an opportunity for growth and understanding. By setting boundaries, we communicate our needs and expectations clearly, which allows for open and honest conversations. Conflict can actually lead to stronger relationships when handled with respect and empathy.

It’s important to remember that setting boundaries is not about being confrontational or aggressive. It’s about assertiveness and self-advocacy. By approaching boundary-setting with a calm and confident demeanor, we can navigate potential conflicts with grace and clarity.

In conclusion, overcoming challenges in setting boundaries requires us to confront our fears and reframe our perspectives. By addressing the fear of disappointing others, guilt and obligation, and the fear of conflict, we can establish boundaries that promote our well-being and foster healthy relationships. So, let’s embrace the power of boundaries and create a life filled with balance and respect.

Tips for Maintaining Boundaries

Setting boundaries is an essential part of self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. It allows you to define what is acceptable and unacceptable in your life, protecting your emotional and physical well-being. However, it’s not always easy to maintain these boundaries. Here are some tips to help you navigate this journey effectively.

Regular Self-Reflection

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Regular self-reflection is crucial when it comes to maintaining boundaries. Take the time to assess your needs, values, and limitations. Ask yourself questions like, “Am I feeling overwhelmed?” or “Am I sacrificing my own well-being for the sake of others?” By examining your thoughts and emotions, you can identify areas where boundaries may need strengthening.

Seek Support and Accountability

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Maintaining boundaries can be challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Seek support from trusted friends, family members, or even professional counselors. Talk to them about your struggles and share your goals. They can offer guidance, encouragement, and hold you accountable for maintaining healthy boundaries.

Be Flexible, Yet Firm

Being flexible doesn’t mean abandoning your boundaries altogether. It means being open to negotiation when appropriate. Life is full of unexpected circumstances, and sometimes you may need to adjust your boundaries to accommodate certain situations. However, it’s important to remain firm on your non-negotiables, those boundaries that are crucial for your well-being.

Remember, boundaries are not meant to be rigid walls, but more like a moat or a fence. They provide protection and structure while allowing some flexibility. Find the balance between being adaptable and staying true to your needs.

Incorporating these tips into your life can greatly enhance your ability to maintain boundaries. Regular self-reflection will help you stay grounded, seeking support will provide you with guidance and accountability, and being flexible yet firm will allow you to adapt to life’s challenges without compromising your well-being.

Maintaining boundaries is an ongoing process, and it may take time to find what works best for you. Be patient with yourself and celebrate each step forward. Remember, you deserve to have your boundaries respected, and by prioritizing them, you are taking an important step towards a healthier and happier life.

Conclusion

In a world full of distractions and constant connectivity, setting boundaries is more important than ever. The #moatandfence movement invites us to create a fortress of self-care and protect our mental and emotional well-being. By establishing clear limits on our time, energy, and attention, we can reclaim control over our lives and focus on what truly matters.

When we set boundaries, we send a powerful message to ourselves and those around us. We declare that we value our own needs and prioritize self-care. It allows us to create a healthy balance between work and personal life, avoiding burnout and preserving our relationships.

But setting boundaries is not always easy. It requires self-awareness, assertiveness, and the willingness to say ‘no’ when necessary. However, the benefits far outweigh the challenges. By setting boundaries, we gain freedom, peace of mind, and the ability to direct our energy towards our goals and passions.

So, ask yourself: have you set boundaries? Have you built a moat around your castle of well-being? It’s time to establish those limits, protect your peace, and let your creativity flourish.

So here are some quick questions for you to answer
What won’t you tolerate?
What type of person do you work with?
What energy do you want to surround yourself with?
How do you want to make people feel?
Here’s my answers:
.. I won’t tolerate people with all the gear and no game, who don’t know the difference between aspiration and participation.

I choose to work with those that have clarity and congruency and understand that when I give my time I am worthy of being paid well in return for it. I do not and will not tolerate people that are rude and are not open to learning.

My fence and drawbridge to cross my moat will only be open to those that are positive and own their stuff (if you know what I mean ).

My intention is to leave people feeling uplifted and overly motivated after we meet and I expect the same in return.

Don’t get mad, get some boundaries

Remember, boundaries are not restrictions, but rather a form of self-love. Embrace them, and watch your life transform for the better.

Join the #moatandfence movement today and become the architect of your own happiness and success. Your castle awaits!

Stay Confident!!
Ruth-Ellen

Overcoming Discouragement

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Do you ever get up and do what you have to do, but often feel discouraged when you see there is little to no progress?

Well, I have done and sometimes still do!

>> I have often felt discouraged when I have got up at 6am to go to the gym for 6 months and see no progress in my weight loss.

>>I have often felt discouraged when I have been working on making a transformational business and see no progress in my financial situation (despite adding value to people’s lives >> I have often felt discouraged when I have put hours into changing my mindset, reconditioning my mind, changing my energy for someone with low energy to undo the work in minutes

This discouragement has led to my depression, a battle I fight and 7 times out of 10 times win!

So I want you to know, you need to not feel discouraged. You are paying your dues and the work you are doing will be paid back in full. So you never have to feel discouraged, I want you to do something, give a gift to yourself. I want you to reach out and to ask a friend to help to fortify you so you can feel more encouraged. Follow me if you want me to be that friend and I will encourage you! “The work is great and extensive, and we are separated on the wall far from one another.”Nehemiah 4:19

Here is a video to help you feel encouraged

 

#depression #confidence #god #discouragement #business #goals

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