You made it exclusive (accepted the 35 hours per week position) And then you realised how many issues this commitment came with
Your partner had a habit drinking way too much as a form of “bonding” (work parties with alcohol)
You also found your new partner had an issue with people that didn’t act, think and look like them (inclusion and diversity to them was someone with different hair colour 😏)
And your partners emotional intelligence was lacking (gossiping about colleagues was there favourite past time)
And you would constantly get into arguments because your value system did not align Why are you still dedicating 40 hours a week to this relationship? (Remember you have to travel to see them too 🙄)
You would have broken up, blocked and gone on a retreat to heal from that toxic relationship by now But you make the excuse to stay because you are tired and you’re getting paid 😓
And you believe if you stay it will get better (yes you believe in 4th chances). There is a better way to excel in your career
Lean in and listen to this Shot of Confidence Episode as I delve into what you can do to get more traction in your job search by tapping into the unusual
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Shots You Don’t Want to Miss In This Episode:
Why you need to go back to the drawing board and create your dream job
How to create a more balanced relationship with your job
Have you ever felt that sharing your truth was too uncomfortable?
So instead of speaking your truth
Instead of sharing your brilliance
You kept quiet
You let your ego run the show
It hurts a lot of people when you don’t share your unique self
It hurts you and the world
I get sick when I don’t share my truth
Literally my energy points get’s blocked
From my throat chakra to my root
And I go into suffering mode
You know that mode where you’re ill
And you stop being grateful because you get a myopic mindset
And it spreads to other people
And when I become ill I become a consumer
A consumer of misery of people, things I don’t need and a mindset that becomes like a victim
And a healthy body is a contributor not just a consumer
So I stop contributing to the world
When I don’t contribute I get coughs that turn into chest infections
Sharing you truth is an act of intimacy
Speaking your truth is an act of intimacy
Standing in your truth is an act of intimacy
The number one signal of not sharing your truth is your current health!
Because intimacy is the container where my truth and your truth are both welcome
When you choose not to be intimate
You are choosing fear
And when you choose to let fear you’re not choosing love and you become disconnected
Disconnected from others
And disconnected with ourselves
And when we are disconnected we get ill, it’s the way the human soul was hard wired, we are made for connection
Recently I was on a mental health first aid course (because mental well being matters) and the mindset shift that I made after the course changed my life (again)
How… on this two day course we talked depression, stress, bipolar and more…we got intimate and certified so we can connect others to support them with their mental well being
And being neurodiverse and working in the neurodiversity community for over 7 years has meant that I have seen people’s mental well-being playing secondary to the needs of others.
This has cost them their mental well-being
And this Mental First Aid course solidified what I knew and continue to know… that the strategies to better manage and heal those illnesses are found in your daily practice
Meditation
Journaling
Mindfulness
Many people have had great shifts in their lives because of having a spiritual practice, a routine, rituals
So a couple of years ago when I created my Ultimate Magical Morning Routine which is a spiritual morning routine course honouring all parts of you, I tucked it away and share it with a few
But I didn’t truly share it with the world
Because I thought surely everyone has this locked down
Who am I to think people need my input (oh hello ego lol)
Have you ever had thoughts like this?
I know that my ego comes up when I am in judgement mode, but after debating with my highest wisdom for a while I have added coaching & healing as an option to the course so that you expand beyond the 7 days and level up to your next level.
I am here to help you finally break those ancestral patterns, expand your nervous system’s capacity to receive abundance and be who you really are through alignment.
And my ego is coming along for the ride as my friend, no longer my enemy
Because I got intimate with my ego
Which helped me to go back into alignment
Do you need to be in alignment and get intimate with your ego?
Because alignment is all about raising your personal energetic frequency so you live moment to moment even more present so that you make an impact and change people’s lives you come into contact with.
Don’t you want that?
Click here to book a call to find out more about working together, let’s me help you get intimate with yourself and the world
I want you to imagine that you were minding your business Sitting down and chilling And then someone grabs your belly
No…
Squeezes your belly And then say’s You have a lot of weight to lose in the gym Then that same person laughs
This was my initial though when it happened to me…
What would you do?
Would it be acceptable to you?
Here is the thing
Many people I know wouldn’t say a thing
I was one of those people
Because I had a tendancy to process things/ events after not in the present
I have learnt to react not respond
I mean I grew up in an area where looking at someone the wrong way would get you in serious trouble
So this was the message I got on my phone after “the incident”
Context:
No this wasn’t a made up scenario
Yes, he actually went there: My mum is fat and obese and I love her * (yes I corrected his spelling, no shade, English wasn’t his first language)
So what is my point of sharing this story…
You have a choice to react to the BS of other
You have a choice to take on other people’s energy
You have a choice to take on other people’s thoughts as your own thoughts
The moment, you DECIDE that you don’t have a choice is a moment you give away your power!
If you want to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY confident then it is time to set your boundaries, learn to love all parts of yourself (yes all parts, no more abandoning yourself) and step into the Limitless woman you was meant to be.
12 Angry Men is about 12 members of the jury who must deliberate, with a guilty verdict meaning death for the accused, an inner-city teen.
As these 12 Angry Men try to reach a unanimous decision while in a room, one juror rocks the boat by proposing that it is possible that the accused is actually not guilty.
The simplicity of this movie is addictive and it really allows you to concentrate on the essence of the story.
I remember watching 12 Angry Men for the first time years ago and was in awe of the thought process of the characters, it became my top 5 films of all time.
So I was glad to see Netflix had it in their watch list.
So what are the 3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Unapologetic Confidence?
Lesson #1 It only takes more confidence to love than it does to hate
It happens at work, in the supermarket, shoot even at home. Sometimes we see something is wrong in society and we say nothing, do nothing or perhaps we say something in our head. There is a freedom that is innate as when we speak out, stand up and be counted and that is when we are our authentic self.
Recently on the way to an 8-mile hike in Otford with my other half, we met a man on a train who described the passenger across from him as a dickhead
Yes a dickhead
Why?
Well…
Because he took up space on the chair with his bag
Space where other people could be sitting
So he called him a dickhead
I explained to this man that calling this guy a dickhead isn’t the way to be
I said we are all connected and using that word disconnects us to each other
I had the unapologetic confidence to be couragous in that moment and I chose to speak my truth
“It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare.”
Lesson #2 When I am confident my energy stays high vibe
If you took the poll on sleep, you would already know that MRI scans show that we stop thinking when we listen to experts. Whether it is in a courtroom and a lawyer is winning us over with their words or whether it is a lecture on metaphysics we have to question EVERYTHING, confidence to question is vital.
Juror #8: Maybe. It’s also possible for a lawyer to be just plain stupid, isn’t it? I mean it’s possible.
The 12 Angry Men jury cross-examined everything when they were deliberating over the case.
How often do you give yourself time after the fact to analyse the evidence/information people have given you?
Lesson #3 – Prejudice always blocks the energy of confidently connecting
After telling the man on the train to choose his words wisely we had a deep conversation about his life, politics, bipolar and drugs
They say first impressions stick and people have already made up their mind about you in 3 seconds.
I personally think it is silly to make a judgment on someone after only 3 seconds, it goes beyond silly it is closed mindedness
If I held onto my prejudices I would have missed out on the connection and conversation.
One of the main prejudices of the jurors in 12 Angry men were where the accused was from a poor neighbourhood
Preconceived ideas of the boy’s character were already made due to where he resided.
Whether we have prejudices about someone’s culture, their parental household or the way they look, the truth is the truth and we should remind ourselves everyone deserves to be treated equally
Bonus lessons
Lesson #4 – People make mistakes, they are only people. We all are living through filters that don’t always serve us
Lesson #5 A good story doesn’t need to cost the earth, have special effects in order to be told well. 12 Angry men cost $340,000 and to date has accumulated to over $1,000,000
Lesson #6 The character of a man is proven by his actions not his words.
Lesson #7 No matter what the circumstances you should always be energetically aligned to your highest self
Juror #11: I beg pardon… Juror #10: “I beg pardon?” What are you so polite about? Juror #11: For the same reason you are not: it’s the way I was brought up.
12 Angry Men is a classic, a must watch that I recommend!
Every day we are learning new lessons, sometimes we have to relearn lessons if we are not present and those can really block us from living a celebrated and instead living a tolerated life. I help women to be unap[ologetically confident so that they can be celebrated not just tolerated in all areas of their life/
That’s what I coach you on in Limitless Confidence because spiritually, mentally, physically you are a master of your energy or at least will be at the end of the 90 days you will be
Limitless Confidence isn’t for everyone, it’s for a select few, for those high achievers that want to get off the busy bike and start to focus on what’s important to them. Those that no longer want to live in a world that drains them but gives them an overflow of energy physically, mentally and spiritually. If that sounds like you then click here to get more information
#becelebrated
Ruth ‘I love the classics’ Danquah
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