A Shot ? of Confidence ? Episode 1⃣
Get the 7 pillars of confidence here >>> bit.ly/pillars7
We doubt ourselves but we have stopped listening to ourselves follow the steps below to stay on your path and start listening to yourself again
How To Stay Positive
Today we are talking about how to stay positive
Take that look off your face
Right now you’re probably thinking this is about meditating
It’s not.
Even though meditating is awesome
Especially the let’s keep it CS Honest Meditation* I created (*shameless plug) which is coming soon
So here’s the thing…
Negative shiz happens
It does.
There is no denying it.
In fact to deny our negative emotions, to not acknowledge negative emotions, is actually bad for your well-being!
Research has shown we need negative emotions in our life and we shouldn’t just be using self-affirmations (more on that a little later)
Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales Coach
P.S. Have you scheduled that 90 Days To Sales Mastery Q & A call yet?
Are you’re tired of constantly missing your monthly income goals?
Visualizing success but never quite hitting your own target?
Bored of living a life that isn’t living up to your expectations?
If you ever find yourself, overwhelmed, stressed or frustrated and you want to stop feeling jealous when you see other people smashing it wondering why it hasn’t happened for you even if you are more talented than them; then you need to book a call to explore more about this 90-day program
Book your slot in the calendar now
Appropriate negativity is essential when it comes to staying positive
Negative emotions offer us feedback on our performance, gives us hints on what’s working and what’s not so we can navigate our behaviour and learn ways to improve [bctt tweet=”Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise. Kobe Bryant ” username=”confidentsch”] Dishwashing gives immediate results ? Your business & your life changes take time. ⏰ So give yourself permission to get results that aren’t immediate.? ? Because you’re doing something much greater than washing dishes ? So how do you stay positive when your business isn’t generating the revenue even though you set targets? How do you stay positive when people are not watching your live streams and they are not converting? How do you stay positive when you don’t feel like getting out of bed? How do you stay positive to sell with confidence? Well, you don’t just use positive affirmations! Instead, we use afformations Yes I spelled it right AFFORMATIONS! Afformations are a way for you to ask questions that go from “I will” to “will I” For example instead of I will close this lead. You instead ask, will I close this lead? Then the mind finds all the reasons, all the evidence as to why you will, it’s just one of the activities I teach in FREE 4 Ways to Get Sales Faster video series I created And in my main program 90 Days To Sales Mastery, we actually create those powerful afformations togetherYou Need The Right Positivity To Stay Positive
So how do you know if you have the right negative to positive ratios so you know you have just the right amount to stay positive? Well I am glad you asked friend The exact ratio is 3:1 For every three instances of feeling gratitude and one instance of anger, guilt or embarrassment people generally flourished. But let’s go even deeper here: Negative emotions are unintentional Often hidden Overflowing like a wave of doubt While positive emotions are much more deliberate, intentional making it seem like we have to be in a reflective state to actually tap into it So what does that mean? It means in order to say positive we must be obsessed with balancing the 3:1 ratioAsk yourself a few questions so you stay on track to stay positive
Am I being persistent? Do you give up too easily? Are you learning self-helplessness and sometimes explain things as permanent, universal or personal (see PUP technique in video above)? There are a bunch of other questions that are essential to staying positive. But Ruth-Ellen how do you know how to respond to make sure you stay positive? Ahha, that is where the video comes in my friend (go watch it already) it has the type of responses that you may have come up with. Ruth-Ellen You’ve Got The Gear, Now Get In The Game ?
Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales Coach
P.S. Have you scheduled that 90 Days To Sales Mastery Q & A call yet?
Are you’re tired of constantly missing your monthly income goals?
Visualizing success but never quite hitting your own target?
Bored of living a life that isn’t living up to your expectations?
If you ever find yourself, overwhelmed, stressed or frustrated and you want to stop feeling jealous when you see other people smashing it wondering why it hasn’t happened for you even if you are more talented than them; then you need to book a call to explore more about this 90-day program
Book your slot in the calendar now
Why You Need To Stop With The Crappy Affirmations
Do you ever wish you could change your mindset to achieve your goals? Good news: you can, by using affirmations and afformations. Affirmations are powerful statements that help improve your mindset, while afformations take it a step further by turning these statements into questions. Ready to unlock your potential and create affirmations that actually work? Keep reading to learn the best techniques for crafting effective affirmations and how to enhance them with afformations.
What are affirmations and why do they matter?
Definition of affirmations
Affirmations are positive statements that you repeat to yourself, with the goal of replacing negative or limiting beliefs with empowering ones. These statements can be about anything, from your self-worth to your career goals. They are typically short and easy to remember, and are often written in the present tense.
Importance of affirmations
Affirmations can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. By repeating positive statements to yourself on a regular basis, you can begin to change the way you think and feel about yourself, your life and the world around you. This can lead to increased confidence, motivation, and a more positive outlook on life.
Common issues with affirmations
While affirmations can be a powerful tool for personal transformation, there are some common issues that people may encounter when trying to use them effectively. One of the biggest issues is that people may not believe the affirmations they are repeating, which can make them feel like a waste of time. Another issue is that people may not be using the right affirmations for their specific needs or goals.
To overcome these issues, it’s important to choose affirmations that are specific, realistic, and meaningful to you. It’s also important to repeat your affirmations regularly, and to use them in conjunction with other personal growth practices, such as meditation or journaling.
What Are Afformations?
Do you ever find yourself struggling to believe the affirmations you repeat to yourself? If so, you may want to try using afformations instead.
Definition of Afformations
Afformations are a type of self-talk that involves asking yourself empowering questions. Unlike affirmations, which are statements that you repeat to yourself, afformations are phrased as questions that prompt your brain to search for evidence to support the positive assumption being made.
For example, instead of saying “I am confident”, an afformation would be “Why am I so confident?” This prompts your brain to search for evidence to support your confidence, rather than feeling like you are lying to yourself with a statement that you don’t believe.
How Afformations Differ from Affirmations
The main difference between afformations and affirmations is the way they are phrased. Affirmations are statements that are repeated to yourself, often in the present tense, with the goal of replacing negative self-talk with positive self-talk.
Afformations, on the other hand, are phrased as questions that prompt your brain to search for evidence to support the positive assumption being made. This can be especially helpful for people who struggle with feeling like affirmations are not believable or effective.
With afformations, you are essentially programming your brain to look for evidence that supports the positive beliefs you want to have about yourself, rather than simply telling yourself something that you may not believe to be true.
You may have heard of affirmations, but have you heard of afformations? Afformations are similar to affirmations in that they are positive statements you repeat to yourself to change your mindset and attract positive outcomes. However, what sets afformations apart is that they are framed as a question. This creates a more powerful effect on your subconscious mind, as it is more likely to seek out solutions and answers to a question than a statement.
1. Identify the Problem
The first step in creating effective afformations is to identify the problem you want to solve. What is holding you back? What negative thought patterns do you have? Once you have identified the problem, write it down.
2. Frame the Problem as a Question
Next, turn the problem into a question. For example, if your problem is “I am not confident,” rephrase it as “Why am I so confident?” This turns the focus onto finding a solution rather than dwelling on the problem.
3. Add Empowering Phrases
Now it’s time to add empowering phrases to your afformation. These are positive statements that will help you believe in yourself and your ability to find a solution. For example, you could add “I am capable” or “I am worthy” to your afformation.
4. Use Present Tense and Positive Language
Make sure to use present tense and positive language in your afformations. This helps to reprogram your subconscious mind and create a more positive outlook. For example, instead of saying “I will be confident,” say “I am confident.”
5. Keep It Short and Specific
Keep your afformation short and specific. This makes it easier to remember and repeat throughout the day. For example, “Why am I so confident when speaking in public?”
6. Repeat Your Afformations Regularly
Finally, repeat your afformations regularly. Set aside time each day to say them out loud or write them down. The more you repeat them, the more they will become ingrained in your subconscious mind.
By following these steps, you can create effective afformations that will help you overcome negative thought patterns and attract positive outcomes.
Examples of Afformations
Creating affirmations that work can be challenging, but afformations are a powerful tool that can help you shift your mindset and achieve your goals. Here are some examples of afformations that you can use to improve your health, wealth, relationships, and career.
Health Afformations
- Why am I so healthy?
- How did I become so fit and strong?
- Why do I love eating healthy foods?
Health afformations can help you focus on your well-being and make positive changes to your lifestyle. By asking why and how questions, you can encourage your mind to find solutions and create a healthier version of yourself.
Wealth Afformations
- Why am I so successful?
- How did I become so wealthy?
- Why do I attract abundance and prosperity?
Wealth afformations can help you improve your financial situation and attract more money into your life. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your financial situation and create a mindset of abundance and prosperity.
Relationship Afformations
- Why am I so loved and appreciated?
- How did I become so happy in my relationships?
- Why do I attract supportive and loving people?
Relationship afformations can help you improve your connections with others and attract positive people into your life. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your relationships and create a mindset of love and appreciation.
Career Afformations
- Why am I so successful in my career?
- How did I become so confident in my skills?
- Why do I attract fulfilling and rewarding opportunities?
Career afformations can help you improve your professional life and achieve your career goals. By asking why and how questions, you can focus on the positive aspects of your career and create a mindset of success and achievement.
Reasons Afformations Don’t Work
You may have heard of affirmations as a way to improve your mindset and achieve your goals. But have you heard of afformations? Afformations are a newer approach to self-improvement that involve asking yourself empowering questions instead of making positive statements. While many people have found success with afformations, there are also some reasons why they may not work for everyone.
1. You’re Not Asking the Right Questions
One of the key aspects of afformations is asking yourself empowering questions that focus on what you want to achieve. However, if you’re not asking the right questions, you may not see the results you want. For example, if you’re trying to lose weight, asking yourself “Why am I always so hungry?” may not be as effective as asking “Why do I make healthy choices for my body?”
2. You’re Not Using Them Consistently
Like any habit or practice, afformations require consistency in order to see results. If you only use them sporadically or forget to incorporate them into your daily routine, you may not see the same benefits as someone who uses them consistently. Make sure to set aside time each day to use afformations and make them a regular part of your routine.
3. You’re Not Believing in Yourself
Afformations are all about empowering yourself and believing that you can achieve your goals. If you don’t truly believe in yourself or your ability to achieve what you want, afformations may not work as well. It’s important to work on building your self-confidence and belief in yourself in order to see the full benefits of afformations.
4. You’re Not Taking Action
While afformations can be powerful in helping you shift your mindset and beliefs, they’re not a substitute for taking action towards your goals. If you’re not taking tangible steps towards what you want to achieve, afformations may not be as effective. Make sure to combine afformations with action in order to see the best results.
Creating affirmations that work for you can be a powerful tool in achieving your goals and improving your mindset. When you combine this using the technique of “afformations”, you can shift your focus from negative self-talk to positive self-talk and reprogram your subconscious mind. Remember to make your afformations specific, positive, and in the present tense to align your thoughts with your desired outcome. Additionally, using visualization and repetition can help to reinforce your affirmations and make them more effective. With practice and consistency, you can create afformations that will support you in becoming the best version of yourself. So go ahead, give it a try, and see the positive changes that will come your way!
Are You Choosing Fear Or Love?
You don’t understand is what I a workshop participant said to me.
I was teaching how to Rock, dominate and get promoted and I kept on hearing excuses.
My company doesn’t work that way – ‘the you don’t understand excuse’
My manager and I already had that discussion – ‘the I am already doing it excuse’
Oh, I understand.
I understand excuses
Excuses born out of fear
I understand that you may know what to do, but you ain’t doing it
Often time we pull back from opportunities
Pull back from relationships instead of telling the truth
The truth to ourselves
Our jobs as leaders, as people who fully show up, is not to convince the people that are not in it to win it.
Our job is to be present
Show up fully
Without apologies
Go through each doorway with a fresh new attitude of gratitude so we can see the altitude we want in ALL areas of our lives.
To fulfil the vision
I was in Jenny Kovacs challenge about ask and receive and something dawned on me
Everything I was doing right now was in alignment with my vision
And if you don’t know my vision here is a little bit of it
**************************
We just bought a property in Chistlehusrt and it felt wonderful to pay for it in cash, with the portfolio interest gained from various investments we were able to pay off my mums and sister mortgage and renovate my dad house as well as pay for an assistant to help him.
My hubby and I volunteered at Crisis together for the second year running
We opened our second digital training hub in London which was subsidised by the state and corporates to employ the next generation of Google entrepreneurs
My husband proposes every day to me and I always accept he is the most amazing man I know, he inspires me and the kids and is the most loving, giving, humble, handsome, man I know and
I thank God for him every day.
*************************
Nothing in my vision is actually about money
It’s about who I am already, but enhancing it.
I volunteer at Crisis, the awesome homeless shelter at Christmas because I know from personal experience how lonely homelessness is.
My vision is about an experience
How I want to leave the world a better place
How I want to make sure I am a contributor, not just a consumer
How I want to be love and be loved (sidenote: I am getting a tattoo that says live to love)
The things I can do to be open to it every day is to stop being cynical, be focused on my vision and believe that the universe has got my back. This desire to desire that God has placed in my heart will come to fruition.
Fear or love can also be seen in other areas of our life. We have to be intentional because when we put ourselves out there to the world of the potential suitors we need to set clear intentions
Consciously and literally
I am dating with the intention of meeting the right guy, the more dates you go on the closer you get to the right guy.
I am on POF,
Tinder (yes Tinder lol)
Even accepted a request from a random guy on Facebook (I don’t just add random people, I checked out his profile).
However, I set boundaries and similar to considering working with a potential client, if they are flakey I don’t give second chances. Here’s my thinking, if you can’t be trusted with the small things like showing up, how can you be trusted with the big things?
When people show you who they are, believe them ?
But make your choice from love, not fear, because the other option is not really an option at all
Ruth-Ellen xx
P.S.
Opting into that freebie offer and hoping it solves all your problems is not a sales strategy that comes from a place of fear too. The fear of not knowing enough. Hun, you know loads!
Listening to another generalised webinar, Livestream or group training programme that doesn’t get specific is not a sales strategy.
Obsessing over whether something is wrong with you or something is wrong about your business and then wondering if something is wrong with you again is not a sales strategy.
The difference between a business that thrives and one that dies is being aware of what is going on in your own head. If your head is not in the game then your business will be affected.
When I got divorced, was made homeless with two kids to look after it took me a while to get back to me, the very core of me. Even though I had 20 years worth of experience in sales and had sold millions working with brands I found that I couldn’t sell with confidence, because parts of me were missing in action. Selling with Confidence: How To Win In Sales with Ease is a 6-week intensive program to get you back to your core, so you sell with confidence it starts the 2nd week in June.
You will receive:
? 6 1:1 calls with customised action plans at the end of each session (never walk away not knowing what to do next), which will be focused on a specific result. Every 6th day we will jump back on a call to see how you implemented this action plan. And then we will focus on the next milestone (pay in full and you receive 8 of these)
? Unlimited email access between calls with a service level agreement which means you will get a response from me within 24 hours or less ? Support you want, support you get!
? A private membership area to access your bonuses, ask me questions and practice your sales techniques for actual feedback, yes I know ?
You walk away: –
? Knowing how to sell without looking pushy, sleazy, salesy or all those other things associated with sales
? Knowing how to get new clients with ease (even when you’re sleeping) so it is easy to be sales focused every day without aggressively pursuing sales.
? Knowing how to deliver a compelling vision that will help your soul end clients rush to work with you
? Knowing how to have unshakeable confidence, no matter what, so you start to believe you can create anything you want!
Selling with Confidence is all about knowing your value – understanding how to present it to the world – being unapologetic. The investment is £3997 or four instalments of £1197 each
PLUS,
SIGN UP BEFORE TUESDAY, MAY 18TH, YOU ALSO RECEIVE THESE INCREDIBLE BONUSES — WORTH MORE THAN £5000…
A private half-day intensive with me (VALUE: £1997) (FULL PAY ONLY)
Private power sales funnel session with me, where I help you to create a funnel, optimise your site for conversion, plus we work on your email sequence (VALUE: £2999)
4 Day Video Course to acquire sales traits, understand what a sales process really is, gain some methods to actually enable sales to occur without you pulling your hair out. All this will give you the end to end process to move forward with ease and blast through the things that have been keeping you going round in circles (VALUE: £799)
Worksheets, checklists, overcome ANY objection
Again, that’s £5K in bonuses for a 6-week coaching program, plus 1:1 calls with me AND A
PRIVATE 1:1 INTENSIVE.
You was NOT born to play small ?
Play the part YOU was destined to play ?
The world has a hole that can only be filled with you, but only…
If you prepare to play NOW! ?
Apply Selling with Confidence
Tinder (yes Tinder lol)
Even accepted a request from a random guy on Facebook (I don’t just add random people, I checked out his profile).
However, I set boundaries and similar to considering working with a potential client, if they are flakey I don’t give second chances. Here’s my thinking, if you can’t be trusted with the small things like showing up, how can you be trusted with the big things?
When people show you who they are, believe them ?
But make your choice from love, not fear, because the other option is not really an option at all
Ruth-Ellen xx
P.S.
Opting into that freebie offer and hoping it solves all your problems is not a sales strategy that comes from a place of fear too. The fear of not knowing enough. Hun, you know loads!
Listening to another generalised webinar, Livestream or group training programme that doesn’t get specific is not a sales strategy.
Obsessing over whether something is wrong with you or something is wrong about your business and then wondering if something is wrong with you again is not a sales strategy.
The difference between a business that thrives and one that dies is being aware of what is going on in your own head. If your head is not in the game then your business will be affected.
When I got divorced, was made homeless with two kids to look after it took me a while to get back to me, the very core of me. Even though I had 20 years worth of experience in sales and had sold millions working with brands I found that I couldn’t sell with confidence, because parts of me were missing in action. Selling with Confidence: How To Win In Sales with Ease is a 6-week intensive program to get you back to your core, so you sell with confidence it starts the 2nd week in June.
You will receive:
? 6 1:1 calls with customised action plans at the end of each session (never walk away not knowing what to do next), which will be focused on a specific result. Every 6th day we will jump back on a call to see how you implemented this action plan. And then we will focus on the next milestone (pay in full and you receive 8 of these)
? Unlimited email access between calls with a service level agreement which means you will get a response from me within 24 hours or less ? Support you want, support you get!
? A private membership area to access your bonuses, ask me questions and practice your sales techniques for actual feedback, yes I know ?
You walk away: –
? Knowing how to sell without looking pushy, sleazy, salesy or all those other things associated with sales
? Knowing how to get new clients with ease (even when you’re sleeping) so it is easy to be sales focused every day without aggressively pursuing sales.
? Knowing how to deliver a compelling vision that will help your soul end clients rush to work with you
? Knowing how to have unshakeable confidence, no matter what, so you start to believe you can create anything you want!
Selling with Confidence is all about knowing your value – understanding how to present it to the world – being unapologetic. The investment is £3997 or four instalments of £1197 each
PLUS,
SIGN UP BEFORE TUESDAY, MAY 18TH, YOU ALSO RECEIVE THESE INCREDIBLE BONUSES — WORTH MORE THAN £5000…
A private half-day intensive with me (VALUE: £1997) (FULL PAY ONLY)
Private power sales funnel session with me, where I help you to create a funnel, optimise your site for conversion, plus we work on your email sequence (VALUE: £2999)
4 Day Video Course to acquire sales traits, understand what a sales process really is, gain some methods to actually enable sales to occur without you pulling your hair out. All this will give you the end to end process to move forward with ease and blast through the things that have been keeping you going round in circles (VALUE: £799)
Worksheets, checklists, overcome ANY objection
Again, that’s £5K in bonuses for a 6-week coaching program, plus 1:1 calls with me AND A
PRIVATE 1:1 INTENSIVE.
You was NOT born to play small ?
Play the part YOU was destined to play ?
The world has a hole that can only be filled with you, but only…
If you prepare to play NOW! ?
Apply Selling with Confidence Attention Listeners ? What You Feed Your Mind Affects Your Vibe
“If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.” ~David Allen
______________________________________________________________________
I literally only listen to positive music ?whether that is from a specific country ? artist to ambient meditation music, I get real picky about what goes on my playlist and only listen to certain Paramore songs. ?
I don’t watch horror movies ? (Paranormal was a comedy btw ?) and keep friends with negative tendencies to a minimum ?(I don’t totally cut them loose because we should encourage and uplift others when we can). God gives us the energy we need to do that.
We should be filling ourselves up with music, movies, books etc that help us stay in that high vibe?. There are some emails I receive from coaches, leaders, trainers etc that use headlines to make me feel bad about my circumstances (well the circumstances they think I am in) as they want me to work with them.
Everybody knows our current circumstances are not an indication of our future circumstances?
In fact, these energy vampires are about to get an unsubscribe notification right now?
Be a leader, an Eagle, Lion ?, Bear? because you’re not a snake? You’re not a sheep!
Do you know who you are?
You’re a force to be reckoned with that is powerful beyond measure? You’re mind-blowing, legendary, splendid, remarkable, you’re words that haven’t even been invented yet
When God made you, he broke the mold because He knew there was never going to be anyone like you again.
It’s time to level up and realise who you are through ALL areas of your life.
What are you paying attention to that is stopping you? Don’t answer that! Just get rid of it?
Ruth-Ellen – Here’s to staying confident consistently?
P.S. Doors to Selling with Confidence is opening soon.
Do you want in?
It’s only £97 to join (then £297 per month)! I want to teach my DRIVEN creators (that’s you by the way!) the mindset AND the strategy of owning it, crushing it and crushing it some more online, and I want to get you in at the trial offer!
For £97!! And with over £3000 of bonus programs! And complete access to the coolest program!
Whatttttt???!
JOIN BY CLICKING THE RELEVANT BUTTON
[thrive_leads id=’2377′]
Get your £97 2 week trial of Selling with Confidence today, before we officially launch! Only just over a month before the doors close, and THIS is hands down THE best offer I’ve ever made online!
Get on the list for a 3-day trial. £97. No strings. COMPLETE access to the entire course library. 1 new LIVE training every week from me.
Multiple new tech – funnel – marketing – FB ads – content –more training. And an online FB group with other Cons.
If you’ve learned a single thing from me online EVER then you’d be flat out crazy to not come on into the SELLING WITH CONFIDENCE and grab your £97 trial today!
Just don’t say I didn’t warn you … when you see the level of OVER delivering in there you’re not gonna want to go anywhere. Which is kinda the whole point isn’t it?? ?
Let’s get you rich and happy baby! With PURPOSE!
PPS Please share this post if you found it helpful or tag someone you know who needs to read this and/or JOIN us!! I’ll send you positive vibes all day for it (truthfully I am sending you positive vibes just for reading this)!
When God made you, he broke the mold because He knew there was never going to be anyone like you again.
It’s time to level up and realise who you are through ALL areas of your life.
What are you paying attention to that is stopping you? Don’t answer that! Just get rid of it?
Ruth-Ellen – Here’s to staying confident consistently?
P.S. Doors to Selling with Confidence is opening soon.
Do you want in?
It’s only £97 to join (then £297 per month)! I want to teach my DRIVEN creators (that’s you by the way!) the mindset AND the strategy of owning it, crushing it and crushing it some more online, and I want to get you in at the trial offer!
For £97!! And with over £3000 of bonus programs! And complete access to the coolest program!
Whatttttt???!
JOIN BY CLICKING THE RELEVANT BUTTON
[thrive_leads id=’2377′]
Get your £97 2 week trial of Selling with Confidence today, before we officially launch! Only just over a month before the doors close, and THIS is hands down THE best offer I’ve ever made online!
Get on the list for a 3-day trial. £97. No strings. COMPLETE access to the entire course library. 1 new LIVE training every week from me.
Multiple new tech – funnel – marketing – FB ads – content –more training. And an online FB group with other Cons.
If you’ve learned a single thing from me online EVER then you’d be flat out crazy to not come on into the SELLING WITH CONFIDENCE and grab your £97 trial today!
Just don’t say I didn’t warn you … when you see the level of OVER delivering in there you’re not gonna want to go anywhere. Which is kinda the whole point isn’t it?? ?
Let’s get you rich and happy baby! With PURPOSE!
PPS Please share this post if you found it helpful or tag someone you know who needs to read this and/or JOIN us!! I’ll send you positive vibes all day for it (truthfully I am sending you positive vibes just for reading this)!
10 Ways To Sell With Confidence [Warning: This Is More Fun Than It Sounds]
Transcription (kind of it’s not verbatim?):
I believe selling starts and ends with confidence. When you sell with confidence you’re saying you believe in what you’re selling, you believe in YOU!
To make sure I am confident I step outside of my comfort zone regularly. This pic is of me last week Friday (7th April) at my 2nd burlesque show where I created my own routine and performed in front of strangers.
I would NEVER have performed burlesque before.
? I used to be the girl that would listen to a partner who told her to go change because according to him what she was wearing didn’t look good.
? I would be the girl that would be in tears if a pitch meeting went bad. I would be the girl that would go out with douches that would say if you lost a little bit of weight you would be a 10.
? Now I’m that girl that is grateful for the people that she has met, that have left and are coming into her life.
? I am the girl that fails forward but loves herself regardless. The girl that has generated over £120 million pounds in new business sales for companies like Epson, HP and Expedia group. So my question to you is…
? Who are you? What are you doing to step outside of your comfort zone and generate more confidence?
Here are my 10 tips to sell with confidence so you can start answering this question:
2. Sell with Confidence By Creating & Following a Plan
Take inspired action with a plan that fits your lifestyle – There is no point in following someone else’s plan because that will lead to burnout. There are 8 ways to stay productive and 5 things we should avoid that are essential for our plans to be fulfilled. My program 10k Months™ is one of the coaching & training programs I have developed to help entrepreneurs like you fulfill short time and long-term goals. You want to make sure you stay engaged in your vision even if they become less motivated (because in reality, we aren’t always going to be motivated to do things, our brain automatically strives for ease).
It’s easier to do the things that we can do in our sleep. These things come easy to us so sure, why would we not do it? Our lives truly begin when we live in the #uncomfortzone. Do that live stream, even though no one is watching (because someone is always watching). Create an event, talk at an event, either way do something! Live outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself by participating in community challenges which will help you to gain the skills of learning by doing in your business and increase your overall confidence levels ✊
In this FREE Red Hot Sales session you will:
•Uncover what is really stopping you from your best month yet.
• You will receive a customised next step plan
• You will go out completely reenergized & inspired to move forward with clarity
If you want to be a confident entrepreneur on a consistent basis then, let’s really talk. Book your Red Hot Sales strategy session
You deserve a life where you know your worth and are unapologetic about it!
Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales & Growth Engineer Coach
I would NEVER have performed burlesque before.
? I used to be the girl that would listen to a partner who told her to go change because according to him what she was wearing didn’t look good.
? I would be the girl that would be in tears if a pitch meeting went bad. I would be the girl that would go out with douches that would say if you lost a little bit of weight you would be a 10.
? Now I’m that girl that is grateful for the people that she has met, that have left and are coming into her life.
? I am the girl that fails forward but loves herself regardless. The girl that has generated over £120 million pounds in new business sales for companies like Epson, HP and Expedia group. So my question to you is…
? Who are you? What are you doing to step outside of your comfort zone and generate more confidence?
Here are my 10 tips to sell with confidence so you can start answering this question:
1. Sell with Confidence by getting your mindset right
This starts from the morning routine to the night time routine, it starts with setting intentions for the day to supporting those intentions with self-talk interrogation, to positive affirmations2. Sell with Confidence By Creating & Following a Plan
Take inspired action with a plan that fits your lifestyle – There is no point in following someone else’s plan because that will lead to burnout. There are 8 ways to stay productive and 5 things we should avoid that are essential for our plans to be fulfilled. My program 10k Months™ is one of the coaching & training programs I have developed to help entrepreneurs like you fulfill short time and long-term goals. You want to make sure you stay engaged in your vision even if they become less motivated (because in reality, we aren’t always going to be motivated to do things, our brain automatically strives for ease).
3. Sell with Confidence by Communicating with Clarity
We have many different ways we like to communicate with the world. In fact, let me take it one step further and say that we have different learning styles and like to receive information based on our own needs. Our ideal clients are no different, here’s how to speak your ideal client’s language4. Sell with Confidence with Positioning
Position yourself as an expert and get more visible. You’re an expert when you decide you’re an expert. From posting engaging posts, getting your brand out there and being seen as a thought leader, be seen + heard.5. Use proven sales processes and do daily sales activities
Some people mistake activity with progress. They believe if they are interacting on someone’s meme then they are building a relationship that may lead to sales. That is hope marketing. There is no point implementing a marketing plan that doesn’t lead to SALES. You can’t make SALES without marketing because without marketing you’re invisible. You’ve heard it all before, I hear you. But all this MARKETING you are doing is supposed to do one thing. MARKETING is supposed to start an ideal SALES conversation. Marketing helps your ideal customer to know, like & trust you, if you are doing it right.6. Sell with Confidence by Adding Value
Create premium offers – to transform your ideal client’s life. Help them at where they are at, not where you want them to be. Regardless add value to the world.7. Get uncomfortable and take more inspired action
It’s easier to do the things that we can do in our sleep. These things come easy to us so sure, why would we not do it? Our lives truly begin when we live in the #uncomfortzone. Do that live stream, even though no one is watching (because someone is always watching). Create an event, talk at an event, either way do something! Live outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself by participating in community challenges which will help you to gain the skills of learning by doing in your business and increase your overall confidence levels ✊
8. Sell with Confidence by inspiring your ideal clients
Your ideal clients will hire you for the energy you bring. If every business is selling the same solution but the only thing that sets them apart is the energy they are bringing, then surely we are not buying based on logic. We are buying because of emotions. Think about how you’re showing up.9. Bring in new leads that you can nurture on a regular basis
Set up systems and processes, create ways for people to get to know you 24/7. You can learn how to make easy sales online by booking your strategy sessions here10. Sell with Confidence By Being Persistent
Do you know how many times I have tried something that wasn’t fruitful? Confident isn’t about taking action because you are guaranteed to succeed, it is taking action regardless of the outcome. You are one step away from success!These are some of the steps in my core program that are looked at in more in depth in my 90 1:1 coaching program
If you would love to discover more about this 1:1 Coaching program to master your personal performance, processes & systems while receiving peak performance coaching!, I’d love to invite you to a FREE session with me, called Red Hot Sales.
In this FREE Red Hot Sales session you will:
•Uncover what is really stopping you from your best month yet.
• You will receive a customised next step plan
• You will go out completely reenergized & inspired to move forward with clarity
If you want to be a confident entrepreneur on a consistent basis then, let’s really talk. Book your Red Hot Sales strategy session
You deserve a life where you know your worth and are unapologetic about it!
Ruth-Ellen – Your Get More Sales & Growth Engineer Coach
Fear Shall Not Win!
Are you letting fear win?
Maybe it’s time to be unapologetic about wanting more….
🤨 What if there was something you wanted so badly that you stopped at nothing to get it.
🤨 Imagine if you woke up every morning and went to bed every night totally obsessed with making it happen.
🤨 Imagine if you didn’t get it?
🤨 Would you stop going for it?
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.” ― Les Brown
I was reminded today that fear stopped me from leaving an abusive relationship for years. It wasn’t the fear of being alone, but the financial implications, being homeless if I left. More importantly, my kids being homeless if I left.
So I left, I became homeless, we became homeless.
But guess what, it was the best decision I had ever made.
Don’t stop, you are closer than you think to having, everything you’ve ever imagined.
Don’t let fear stop you from getting what you want! Don’t let little words like fear, guilt, doubt or even the word no stop you from living a big life.
Don’t give that word so much much power that you hate it so much, that it stops you from what you’ve imagined your life could be, be unapologetic about your life, about what YOU want!
The first step in making a change, is making a decision to change.
If you want to create really make change, then learn to become a creater
Ruth-Ellen –
P.S. Are You’re Tired of Messing Around Online?
Then Grab Your FREE Breakthrough Session
P.S. Are You’re Tired of Messing Around Online?
Then Grab Your FREE Breakthrough Session
- Create a crystal clear vision for your lifr
- Uncover hidden challenges that could be sabotaging your success
- Leave this session, renewed, reenergized & inspired to get Unapologetically Visible
Sales Belief, Are Your Beliefs Stopping You?
I wasn’t selling because my sales beliefs kept my vision blurry.
What are sales beliefs?
In a nutshell sales beliefs are the beliefs you have around selling.
These beliefs are your truths.
How you see the world. My lack of sales belief, or belief that I can sell my value was the only reason as to why I didn’t sell daily. My own sales beliefs had a huge positive impact on my sales performance in one area.
But equally had a very negative impact in another.
? I did not believe that my sales funnels worked or making sales online was easy
? I definitely did not believe in myself
? I did not believe that people listened to me
I was not selling because I really didn’t believe in what I was selling?
Everyone loved that I had a mission and I stood for something great, I would add value to people’s businesses and lives, but I would never ask for the sale.
I was not selling intentionally. I was relying on referrals because I didn’t believe in what I was selling! I thought the work I was doing should be for free, after all I know this stuff, it comes easy to me, why should I charge?
How my own sales beliefs stopped me in my social good business
When I started Dyslexic Success I had a vision of a peer to peer network of people with dyslexia that would help each other be successful.
My vision was to inspire equip those with neurodiversity’s (AKA learning disabilities).
Because I believe no man woman or child should be born into poverty or social exclusion because of their neurodiversity.
Initially, I was super excited.
I managed to gather over 80 highly intelligent minds which grew to 500 people in less than a year.
I couldn’t wait to promote the next event to help people to get people upskilled in public speaking, sales, marketing & web design.
My vision was for them to learn skills and then sell their skills.
Having a clear pathway for success would help my own son with autism know what is possible.
I had to battle against partners and customers that wouldn’t pay for the work, I had done on time or pay at all.
Unsurprisingly along the way, my vision got blurred. Coupled with my insecurities of inadequacies as a newly diagnosed dyslexic, I entered overwhelm.
My doubts made me let others dictate the narrative and turn my vision into something else.
It wasn’t my vision.
I no longer believed in what I set out to do.
My vision had gotten blurred, I needed specs (aka a new presepctive) to see what was going on.
What Changed In Order To Shift My Sales Beliefs?
Acceptance & forgiveness: I accepted full responsibility for my sales beliefs which included entertaining people that were not on the same page as my vision. Lesson learnt: only when you process what happened and accept & forgive yourself for the part you played can you move on
Visions were daily: I went back to my original vision to solidify my positive sales beliefs. Lesson learnt: as Jobs said you can only connect the dots looking back, not looking forward. My strategy changed but my vision remained the same. I reminded myself about my vision every single day, a vision isn’t a set it and forget it activity.
Intentions were my new best friend: I was intentional daily when it came to delivering that vision. Lesson learnt: setting intentions is a must to keep focused.
I became unapologetic: The difference this time was that I was not asking for permission. Lesson learnt: I started talking from a place of authority, power not lack & meekness.
What Can You Do To Change Your Sales Belief Mindset?
Step 1: Ask questions of yourself…
? Is it time to focus on people that deserve your attention?
? What are you allowing to happen day to day (no one can make you think things, you have to allow them)?
? What do you need to do daily so your vision is never blurred?
Step 2: Speak over your life with intention.
Here is my I AM sales belief statement.
I AM here to help you to Get More Sales, selling your value, the transformation you bring is what I believe is going to help impact the world.
What is your new sales belief?
I didn’t sell £120 million pounds worth of new business when I was selling to corporates just by luck, it was because I believed! So if you believe in what you are selling. If you believe in your vision, you will sell without thinking you’re being salesy! FYI salesy is not even a word.
So make sure that you are selling your vision, not someone else’s version of it.
It’s your constant vision and the sales belief that comes with it that will totally change your sales game and the world!
Ruth-Ellen Henry – Your Get More Sales Coach
P.S The most effective businesses have a system in place so that they continually believe in themselves if you don’t I suggest you get more sales habits. I happen to have this 4 day live experience to get more sales habits
With this 4 day Facebook Live experience, you’ll get my system to increase discipline & productivity. Which will result in you stopping the overwhelm and getting more stuff done!
How Do You Feel About Sales Funnels?
? Did you know over 79% leads that you’re collecting don’t result in sales due to lack of relationship building?
? Why go through all that nurturing when you never sell?
How do you feel about the word sales funnel?
I know, the word sales funnel is either over-used or you have no idea what I am talking about ? Either way, you’re so bored already…Let me explain why I am even bringing this subject up. I used to sell in business to business AKA B2B, hit seven-figure targets really easily. Check my credentials on LinkedIn. ? But when I transitioned from offline to online the numbers were near to nothing. So I had to go back to the drawing board and really reverse engineer my processes that led to my success offline. ? The consistent processes that worked for me included taking the offline team and replacing them with robots.Yes, robots. ? ?OK, maybe nothing as cool as robots but technology that would do the same thing as my delightful past colleagues were paid to do (at the fraction of the cost).Why do I even need a Sales Funnel?
If you are anything like me, you would normally outsource tasks that you don’t like. Or learn how to do it and do it all yourself until you have the funds available to outsource or recruit an employee. While you’re transitioning to the stage of generating a consistent income, you’re going to be in the delightful stage of feast or famine. ? I don’t want you to go through the feast or famine I went through, so I want to share with you, my process for setting up processes that make an offline team redundant. Processes sound really boring, but believe me they are so exciting, productive and really effective.When is this Sales Challenge Happening?
? Glad you asked, On the 25th April, I will be hosting a live 4-day challenge called ‘Create EASY Sales Online’. I want you to join me and learn how to create a process that helps you create a consistent stream of income & it’s completely FREE. How does that sound?What’s the deal with this Sales Funnel Challenge, is it complicated?
? Easy steps: Nothing complicated, just simple steps in creating powerful sales using easy sales funnels ?Easy Tools: discover the best tools for uncovering the right words and images to use in your sales funnel campaigns. Plus you will only be using FREE tools on this challenge ? Easy to follow along: I wanted to reiterate simple, step-by-step training that will help you create sales online that boost your business like never before. I know your time is precious. You get to see examples and a checklist for you to keep & actually use! I am the get more sales coach, so if I didn’t help you get more sales I would be doing a dis-service to you. So let me show you what I’ve learnt, I normally charge for this stuff. But I am full to the brim of information and I want to help you in your business.- Email Prompts
- Checklist for your funnel
- Live Training in private FB group
Never settle for bad lemonade!
I was pregnant at 19 years old. Something mother dearest didn’t approve of so I was subsequently made homeless…fast forward 11 years later when I am not happy in my marriage and I tell my husband I need a break, husband dearest wasn’t impressed so he kicks me and our children out.
When I moved into a new place my friend of 18 years needed somewhere to stay so I let her. My landlord didn’t like that and said I had to kick her out (she had nowhere to go so I said no).
I got kicked out.
I noticed a pattern had emerged, every time I did something somebody else didn’t like they will use their power to try and control me. I don’t blame any of these people for their decision I have learnt to forgive them and more importantly myself.
Why myself? Well, I had to take personal responsibility for my decisions.
So I came to a cross roads thinking about my life decisions.
How does someone who is savvy enough to work for corporates and make 7 figures for them get into a mess like this?
I had a choice…do I get angry, depressed at my current situation? Or do I get my s*** together.
Needless to say, I chose the latter.
I started to volunteer at the homeless shelter, even though I was sharing one room and one bed in a hostel. I knew I could still be grateful I had one room and kids that I loved more than life itself.
In my time of homelessness and self-discovery I found out my son was autistic (at the age of 11 it was pretty late).
Then I found out I was dyslexic (at the age of 30 plus I think you would agree it was mega late).
I do not know if the universe was playing a trick on me because weeks prior I was speaking to a homeless guest and he told me lots of people are dyslexic and homeless.
Nevertheless, I created a local meetup group to meet other dyslexics so we could learn from our wins and losses and 80 people came, I guess they wanted the same thing too.
I then created my mission-driven business which focused on helping people with dyslexia, autism etc to learn digital skills and work as freelancers in my digital business. Then I created a business to help coach mission-driven business owners who needed confidence in sales. I decided I wasn’t going to let my circumstances reduce me, even if they have changed me.
When I was homeless, the first, second and third time ?
I realised a lot about my homelessness was about lemons.
Me settling for lemons instead of demanding more from life.
We all make choices and there are consequences to these choices.
However, when life hands you lemons you can either create really bad lemonade or throw those lemons back at life with a heck no…and say I ordered champagne darling!
Give me a HECK YES in the comments below, if you want champagne and no longer accept bad lemonade from life!?
Ruth-Ellen
P.S. Join me on a strategy call where I help you take inspired action to no longer accept the lemons, lemonade or anything else that is beneath your expectations!