Are you stopping yourself from having the career you really want?
This can lead to resentment, in the following post I will give you five steps, so you know how to stop hating your career now
I am getting married on a beach, a beach in Rio. That is the bottom line. It is a non-negotiable *mic drop*
So what?
Well…how many times have you stated what you really wanted and actually got it?
Your reluctance to build the career that you really want is fear.
When you settle for less than your expectations you leave the door open for disappointment.
Your fear of raising your prices, asking for the sale or being visible, is your fear of failure.
You’re withdrawing from the situation if you’re not approaching it.
There is no in between.
Stop avoiding failure, stop the fear, change your image, your belief, get out of your own way with these 5 tips…
[bctt tweet=”Don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. – Ralph Marston” username=”iamruthellen”]
1. Get Clear – Yes clarity, the word that gets bashed around like a boxing bag. Ask yourself what you really want. Then ask yourself what you really want again. No matter what your mind feedbacks to you, remember this is what you want.
2. Don’t argue with your mind, listen to all reasons why you won’t / can’t have it. Use all that delightful, insightful feedback as intel you can use to answer your inner critic. Allow all those objections and then like Rocky Balboa make a come back with answers that leave your mind floored.
Live outside your comfort zone to get the results you seek…
3. Get into the ideal career conversations, as often as possible –
When you know all the reasons people won’t give you buy in for a promotion you can then work on ways to close your career gaps. Influencing is a daily practice. Make sure you have the right mindset to advance your career.
4. Get accountability with support – There is no point being accountable to someone who doesn’t give you the support when you feel stuck. When you get accountability with no support it is almost like going into the ring with a boxing coach that is on your competitors side. The RIGHT support stops you from making excuses.
5. Have a strategy that you have tested that works for you – Here is the thing, different strategies for your career work for you that won’t work for other people. There is a place for LinkedIn, Instagram, a place for Facebook and a place for Pinterest. Test what works for you. Offline, online etc… whatever you use, make sure it is strategic.
Here’s to being celebrated not tolerated ✊️
Ruth-Ellen x
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3. Tell your list that you have just written an article. But don’t just tell them, show them. Create an extract of the post and add your 2 cents as to why it will help them solve that problem. Then add a link to the rest of the article (you will be surprised at how many people don’t do this).
Do you often fight against yourself before you take the leap to do something? It is like playing basketball against yourself like these really cute Racoons ??? sidenote: I like Racoons
Our own inside enemy doesn’t show up that cute. They are instead masked in doubt, fear of failure and procrastination. If there is no enemy inside then there is no enemy outside that can do us harm – Les Brown
So how do we overcome our inner enemies, well we can conquer them ? #storytime
It is like the story of David & Goliath. By all odds, David was small in comparison to Goliath who was often described as being built as big as a house.
However… Goliath couldn’t see very well – Specsavers wasn’t available back in the day ?
Goliath wasn’t powerful – he took his perception of what people thought he could do for granted, he never trained, he never took the time to up his game.
David was deadly – he didn’t just rock next to Goliath with a sling he never used, he honed his craft years before.
David knew an opportunity was coming one day so he prepared for it, no matter how awkward he looked. ?
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So how do you know it is your inner enemy talking and how do you beat it:
Now here is your slap, I couldn’t choose between which slap…so enjoy
Here’s to staying confident consistently ✊
Ruth-Ellen Henry – Your Get More Sales & Confidence Coach
P.S. 90 Days To Sales Mastery is now open to help you get what you want with the focus you need, 
Today I want to talk about POD – Point of difference. Your point of difference is how you stand out in the sea of noise, why you love yourself more than anything. With a world telling us we need to think, look and act the same, POD is all about appreciating how uniquely wonderful you are.
It’s like a laugh in the sea of sadness or a cry at the top of a mountain of prosperity, it’s POD!
Whenever I prepare for a speech I jump for joy at the prospect of feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
You see, on one hand, it absolutely petrifies me that I have to share my innermost thoughts with the world. What if they judge me? What if they think I am weird? My what if’s are the pain relief my brain likes to feel to stop me from taking action and backing out.
My inner child is filled with inquisitiveness and always challenges me with the other hand. I get giddy just thinking about the research I get to do on myself and on others, it excites that I am on the cusp of at of finding out something new and I am about to pass it on to others, I like to call it leaving a legacy. Because when you share what you know, you leave a legacy behind. Luckily for me, my inner child wins over my what if’s, my dream is bigger than my fear. I hope that today’s post gives you some fuel to stay consistently confident.
The three point of differences I want to touch upon is:
I knew that the gift in that experience was not in self-pity but in gratefulness. I made a decision at that point of time to volunteer to serve people that were in worse scenarios than mine. It’s been my fifth year volunteering with Crisis at Christmas and it is one of the best things I have exchanged my time for. Being homeless and connecting with people to give them hope just felt like it was the right thing to do.
It was Einstein that said “the only source of knowledge is experience”. In his 2005 inagrual speech at Stanford University, Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect the dot’s looking back”. From all the conversations I have had over the last five years with guests at the homeless shelter I have learnt to smile instead of cry, be compassionate instead of selfish and to edify others instead of bringing them down. I truly believe that the path to the best version of me is due to that experience of being homeless, it allowed me to connect with source.
Our experiences don’t predict our future it is just an experience, a lesson we can use to quantum leap. And don’t be fooled into thinking you need other people to approve you, to tell you who you are. Don’t be trapped by Dogma – living the results of other people’s thinking about you, have your own values and beliefs. Values and belief are important which my next point will explain….
I take responsibility for where I am with my life, point blank. My experiences will no doubt change me but I do not let my experiences reduce me. My experiences help to shape my values and beliefs. The one consistent value and belief I have always had is to be kind. Be kind to yourself, be kind to others, just be kind. The values you have are so important and not having a value system is like being in a boxing ring for the heavyweight title with no gloves and then wonder why you didn’t win the title. Or placing a house of cards on a crooked table and then wondering why they keep falling down.
I always see being spiritual as someone who believes in God, Source or the Universe …believes in something that is higher than themselves is in charge.
There are spiritual practices to getting everything you want. Let’s get to it…
1. Becoming Aware of Your Highest Self
This awareness helps you to view yourself as more than merely a physical creation, which leads
to…
2. Trusting Yourself Is Trusting the Wisdom That Created You
This principle establishes you as one and the same with the universal God force, which leads to…
3. You Are Not an Organism in an Environment: You Are an Environorganism
Say what? This principle establishes that there is no separation between you and anything else outside you in the material world, which leads to…
4. You Can Attract to Yourself What You Desire
This principle establishes your power to attract that which you are already connected to, which leads to…
5. Honouring Your Worthiness to Receive
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