HOW BEING IN THE WRONG JOB IS LIKE A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

You looked at the credentials (#jobdescription)

Went on a date (#interview)

Then another date (2nd stage interview)

You made it exclusive (accepted the 35 hours per week position) And then you realised how many issues this commitment came with

Your partner had a habit drinking way too much as a form of “bonding” (work parties with alcohol)

You also found your new partner had an issue with people that didn’t act, think and look like them (inclusion and diversity to them was someone with different hair colour 😏)

And your partners emotional intelligence was lacking (gossiping about colleagues was there favourite past time)

And you would constantly get into arguments because your value system did not align Why are you still dedicating 40 hours a week to this relationship? (Remember you have to travel to see them too 🙄)

You would have broken up, blocked and gone on a retreat to heal from that toxic relationship by now But you make the excuse to stay because you are tired and you’re getting paid 😓

And you believe if you stay it will get better (yes you believe in 4th chances). There is a better way to excel in your career

Lean in and listen to this Shot of Confidence Episode as I delve into what you can do to get more traction in your job search by tapping into the unusual

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Shots You Don’t Want to Miss In This Episode:

  • Why you need to go back to the drawing board and create your dream job
  • How to create a more balanced relationship with your job
  • Why not honouring your values messes you up

Links Mentioned in the Episode:

What to do when you are not invited to the party

In season 2 Episode 1 of A Shot of Confidence podcast I wanted to share

  • My personal experiences of not being invited to the party
  • How to shift the uncomfortable feeling so it serves you
  • My three step framework that equips you to move from the pain to gain

How to spread the confidence:

#1 Sign That You’re Not Sharing Your Truth

Have you ever felt that sharing your truth was too uncomfortable?

So instead of speaking your truth 

Instead of sharing your brilliance

You kept quiet

You let your ego run the show

It hurts a lot of people when you don’t share your unique self

It hurts you and the world

I get sick when I don’t share my truth

Literally my energy points get’s blocked

From my throat chakra to my root

And I go into suffering mode

You know that mode where you’re ill

And you stop being grateful because you get a myopic mindset

And it spreads to other people

And when I become ill I become a consumer

A consumer of misery of people, things I don’t need and a mindset that becomes like a victim

And a healthy body is a contributor not just a consumer

So I stop contributing to the world 

When I don’t contribute I get coughs that turn into chest infections

Sharing you truth is an act of intimacy

Speaking your truth is an act of intimacy

Standing in your truth is an act of intimacy 

The number one signal of not sharing your truth is your current health!

Because intimacy is the container where my truth and your truth are both welcome

intimacy and truth

When you choose not to be intimate 

You are choosing fear

And when you choose to let fear you’re not choosing love and you become disconnected

Disconnected from others

And disconnected with ourselves 

And when we are disconnected we get ill, it’s the way the human soul was hard wired, we are made for connection

Recently I was on a mental health first aid course (because mental well being matters) and the mindset shift that I made after the course changed my life (again)

How… on this two day course we talked depression, stress, bipolar and more…we got intimate and certified so we can connect others to support them with their mental well being

And being neurodiverse and working in the neurodiversity community for over 7 years has meant that I have seen people’s mental well-being playing secondary to the needs of others.

This has cost them their mental well-being

And this Mental First Aid course solidified what I knew and continue to know… that the strategies to better manage and heal those illnesses are found in your daily practice

Meditation 

Journaling 

Mindfulness

Many people have had great shifts in their lives because of having a spiritual practice, a routine, rituals

So a couple of years ago when I created my Ultimate Magical Morning Routine which is a spiritual morning routine course honouring all parts of you, I tucked it away and share it with a few

But I didn’t truly share it with the world

Because I thought surely everyone has this locked down

Who am I to think people need my input (oh hello ego lol)

Have you ever had thoughts like this?

I know that my ego comes up when I am in judgement mode, but after debating with my highest wisdom for a while I have added coaching & healing as an option to the course so that you expand beyond the 7 days and level up to your next level.

I am here to help you finally break those ancestral patterns, expand your nervous system’s capacity to receive abundance and be who you really are through alignment.

And my ego is coming along for the ride as my friend, no longer my enemy

Because I got intimate with my ego

Which helped me to go back into alignment

Do you need to be in alignment and get intimate with your ego?

Because alignment is all about raising your personal energetic frequency so you live moment to moment even more present so that you make an impact and change people’s lives you come into contact with.

Don’t you want that?

Click here to book a call to find out more about working together, let’s me help you get intimate with yourself and the world

Stand Up For Your Higher Self, Don’t Stand For Nonsense

I want you to imagine that you were minding your business
Sitting down and chilling
And then someone grabs your belly

No…

Squeezes your belly
And then say’s
You have a lot of weight to lose in the gym
Then that same person laughs

This was my initial though when it happened to me…

What would you do?

Would it be acceptable to you?

Here is the thing

Many people I know wouldn’t say a thing

I was one of those people

Because I had a tendancy to process things/ events after not in the present

I have learnt to react not respond

I mean I grew up in an area where looking at someone the wrong way would get you in serious trouble

So this was the message I got on my phone after “the incident”

 

Context:

No this wasn’t a made up scenario

Yes, he actually went there: My mum is fat and obese and I love her * (yes I corrected his spelling, no shade, English wasn’t his first language)

So what is my point of sharing this story…

You have a choice to react to the BS of other

You have a choice to take on other people’s energy

You have a choice to take on other people’s thoughts as your own thoughts

The moment, you DECIDE that you don’t have a choice is a moment you give away your power!

If you want to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY confident then it is time to set your boundaries, learn to love all parts of yourself (yes all parts, no more abandoning yourself) and step into the Limitless woman you was meant to be.

Book your 1:1 breakthrough call here

Ditch Your 9-5 & Thrive Featuring Chantay (Interview)

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3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Being Unapologetically Confident

12 Angry Men is about 12 members of the jury who must deliberate, with a guilty verdict meaning death for the accused, an inner-city teen.

As these 12 Angry Men try to reach a unanimous decision while in a room, one juror rocks the boat by proposing that it is possible that the accused is actually not guilty.

12 Angry Men

The simplicity of this movie is addictive and it really allows you to concentrate on the essence of the story.

I remember watching 12 Angry Men for the first time years ago and was in awe of the thought process of the characters, it became my top 5 films of all time.

So I was glad to see Netflix had it in their watch list.

So what are the 3 Lessons The Movie 12 Angry Men Can Teach You About Unapologetic Confidence?

Lesson #1 It only takes more confidence to love than it does to hate

It happens at work, in the supermarket, shoot even at home. Sometimes we see something is wrong in society and we say nothing, do nothing or perhaps we say something in our head.  There is a freedom that is innate as when we speak out, stand up and be counted and that is when we are our authentic self.

Recently on the way to an 8-mile hike in Otford with my other half, we met a man on a train who described the passenger across from him as a dickhead

Yes a dickhead

Why?

Well…

Because he took up space on the chair with his bag

Space where other people could be sitting

So he called him a dickhead

I explained to this man that calling this guy a dickhead isn’t the way to be

I said we are all connected and using that word disconnects us to each other

I had the unapologetic confidence to be couragous in that moment and I chose to speak my truth

“It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare.”

12 Angry Men
Photo by Sponchia on Pixabay

― Mark Twain

Lesson #2 When I am confident my energy stays high vibe

If you took the poll on sleep, you would already know that MRI scans show that we stop thinking when we listen to experts. Whether it is in a courtroom and a lawyer is winning us over with their words or whether it is a lecture on metaphysics we have to question EVERYTHING, confidence to question is vital.

 Juror #8: Maybe. It’s also possible for a lawyer to be just plain stupid, isn’t it? I mean it’s possible.

The 12 Angry Men jury cross-examined everything when they were deliberating over the case.

How often do you give yourself time after the fact to analyse the evidence/information people have given you?

Lesson #3 – Prejudice always blocks the energy of confidently connecting

After telling the man on the train to choose his words wisely we had a deep conversation about his life, politics, bipolar and drugs

They say first impressions stick and people have already made up their mind about you in 3 seconds.

I personally think it is silly to make a judgment on someone after only 3 seconds, it goes beyond silly it is closed mindedness

If I held onto my prejudices I would have missed out on the connection and conversation.

One of the main prejudices of the jurors in 12 Angry men were where the accused was from a poor neighbourhood

Preconceived ideas of the boy’s character were already made due to where he resided.

Whether we have prejudices about someone’s culture, their parental household or the way they look, the truth is the truth and we should remind ourselves everyone deserves to be treated equally

Bonus lessons

Lesson #4 – People make mistakes, they are only people. We all are living through filters that don’t always serve us

Lesson #5 A good story doesn’t need to cost the earth, have special effects in order to be told well. 12 Angry men cost $340,000 and to date has accumulated to over $1,000,000

Lesson #6 The character of a man is proven by his actions not his words.  

Lesson #7 No matter what the circumstances you should always be energetically aligned to your highest self

Juror #11: I beg pardon…
Juror #10: “I beg pardon?” What are you so polite about?
Juror #11: For the same reason you are not: it’s the way I was brought up.

12 Angry Men is a classic, a must watch that I recommend!

Every day we are learning new lessons, sometimes we have to relearn lessons if we are not present and those can really block us from living a celebrated and instead living a tolerated life.  I help  women to be unap[ologetically confident so that they can be celebrated not just tolerated in all areas of their life/

That’s what I coach you on in Limitless Confidence because spiritually, mentally, physically you are a master of your energy or at least will be at the end of the 90 days you will be

Limitless Confidence isn’t for everyone, it’s for a select few, for those high achievers that want to get off the busy bike and start to focus on what’s important to them.  Those that no longer want to live in a world that drains them but gives them an overflow of energy physically, mentally and spiritually. If that sounds like you then click here to get more information

#becelebrated

Ruth ‘I love the classics’ Danquah

P.P.S. My doors to 90 Days To Limitless Confidence has some amazing bonuses like an exclusive ticket to my Limitless YOU live event. BUT…this bonus which will expire soon,  so that you can tap into your zone of effectiveness, efficiency and enthusiasm I encourage you to make a decision so you can be unapologetically confident with ease.

There Is A Reason You’re Not Enjoying Life, Let’s Fix That

I remember when I went to watch Fiddler on the Roof at the Theatre If you’ve ever watched the film You would know that it has a really famous song A song that Gwen Stefani remixed into Rich Girl Yes the song Rich man I used to sing this song to my kids to lighten the mood It would work wonders, not because of the words but because of the energy behind it So I sat in anticipation waiting to hear this song at the Theatre But something wasn’t quite right when the character Tevye sang It wasn’t delivered with the same enthusiasm Or at least that was my perception As a high achiever because I work so hard on making things almost “perfect” I put others on the same pedestal Can you imagine the pressure I put myself and others under That is why over the years I have learnt to be more aware Aware that my work ethic isn’t like everyone else’s Aware that my perceptions are just that, my perception Because changing behaviour starts with awareness There were many factors as to why I didn’t enjoy the show as much as I could of including: comparing it with the production Dream Girls, I am sorry but nothing can top that (again that’s my perception). The very fact I woke up at 4 am that day so kept on falling asleep when the cast was performing #sorry I was recovering from some dynamic Yoga 2 days before And then I had some mental shizzle the day before My physical Emotional And even spiritual energy all played a factor in being present Have you ever had an experience which you should have enjoyed but your energy was off? It happens to everyone It becomes an issue when your circumstances stops you from being present That is why I do this work Because going to a musical or anything else you want to do should be met with enthusiasm Life should be met with enthusiasm But sometimes we get busy and operate from our lower self Our lower self isn’t our true self Our lower self is tired, irritable, detached from people Our lower self focuses on all the things we haven’t processed
 
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As opposed to when you start to step into your version highest version of yourself you step into your version of effectiveness, efficiency & enthusiasm (E3) & this is what happens… ✊ Your E3 self… Doesn’t get stressed, anxious or enraged by circumstances out of your control, you are actually so aware that the energy has shifted that you shift right back to the vibrational set point that allows you to maintain your energy with ease ✊Your E3 self… Doesn’t make decisions based on push, push, push which you regret later but instead your decisions are made from a place of ease and you make right decisions for you EVERYTIME! #wisdomthroughfaith Your E3 self … ✊ Doesn’t need to do all the things, because your highest self trusts yourself so much that those doubt bunnies poof away because you are more than aware just how much of a powerful creator you are and where to focus your attention! ✊Your E3 self… Takes a day or a week (or a MONTH) off just because it feels like it because you have a system in place that does not require you to keep trading dollars for hours. So how do you step into that E3 version? It starts with letting go Letting go of who you think you should be Letting go of where you think you should be Letting of when you think you should have it Knowing that disappointment comes from your expectations and reality not matching up Knowing you are in the world but you are not of the world and stuff happens but worrying in praying more of the same please #dontdothat It starts with knowing where you receive your dose of high and low positive energy and what high and low are messing with you on the conscious, subconscious and unconscious levels so you can tap into your superconscious Because too often we walk around absorbing other people’s thoughts, beliefs, personas like we are vacuums That’s what I coach you on in 90 Days To Energy Mastery because spiritually, mentally, physically you are a master of your energy or at least will be at the end of the 90 days you will be Energy Mastery isn’t for everyone, it’s for a select few, for those high achievers that want to get off the busy bike and start to focus on what’s important to them.  Those that no longer want to live in a world that drains them but gives them an overflow of energy physically, mentally and spiritually. If that sounds like you then click here to jump on a call #becelebrated Ruth ‘enjoys musicals’ Danquah P.S. My doors to 90 Days To Energy Mastery has some amazing bonuses which will expire soon,  so that you can tap into your zone of effectiveness, efficiency and enthusiasm I encourage you to make a decision

The “Powerful Woman” Has Changed!

Honestly, when I have had to think of what a powerful woman looked like for me for as long as I can remember I have always depicted the women kicking butt and fighting the bad guy. But that must get tiring don’t you think? Always fighting? I mean Wonder Woman has an alter ego for reason, right? Because even she knows she needs rest She can’t keep on fighting We can’t keep on fighting You can’t keep on fighting The moment I chose to invite my best self to the dinner party The woman who didn’t fight but was in control of what she can control and didn’t worry about the rest The woman who knew how to conversate with ease (and is not awkward no matter how many times her mind said she was) The woman who believed in her values and wasn’t intimidated by people that seemed to have it all The woman who instead was curious to learn about others and was done with the comparison That woman did not fight or compete That woman chose to just be Why does everything have to be a fight anyway? Truth be told I haven’t been in fisticuffs since Primary school and back then I was referred to as Ryu from Street Fighter So being a powerful woman to me Isn’t about balancing plates It isn’t a slim, six-pack model type woman that looks like a Victoria Secrets Model Nor is it a woman who covers up murders for a living (yes I low key love the series How To Get Away With Murder) It is the real woman Not a woman depicted on a cinema screen But a woman I see walking on the streets A woman who sometimes has bad days but also good days and appreciates both knowing there is no victory nor failure in either just lessons A woman who does the downward-facing dog in Yoga and gets tired A woman who runs 6km and doesn’t know if she feels compelled to do it again because frankly that Box vs Bass class was far more entertaining A woman who gets nervous from time to time about the future and has to take walks in nature to ground herself so she feels connected to nature A woman who has a picture of herself as a toddler in the mirror and tells that toddler I love you to remind herself that she is loved This woman is me I like the idea of this woman Because… This woman is vulnerable This woman is relatable And this woman hasn’t got all her shit together And that is what I love about her Because it’s the messy shit that keeps this woman grounded in the truth that we are all human Being this woman, accepting who I am and not what I think I should be has brought me so much freedom Don’t you want that freedom? Well it starts with your energy Because you can be doing all the things But if your energy is not focused on being purposeful, love-driven instead of fear-driven you end up taking action from a low energetic, fearful and desperate place I don’t want that for you… Let me help you You are powerful you just have to stop trying to fight and learn how to shift, I show you how, book a call here #becelebrated Ruth-Ellen Ruth-Ellen x
In order for you to channel your energy so you avoid being triggered, you need to make YOU a priority. If you’re ready to go on an adventure to be more you without being drained then I would highly recommend you jump on a call.  It’s not about managing your energy, it’s about mastering your energy so you can be, do and have more!

High Performers: It’s Time To Avoid Burnout!

In this episode:

  1. Why you need to start making decluttering a part of your self-care routine

2. A simple but powerful framework you can use today to help you move from suffering to freedom when it comes to burnout

3. Why burnout is a form of lack and how you can make the shift energetically

Comment below and let me know what new commitments you will be making after listening to this episode.

Ruth-Ellen x



To channel your energy so you avoid burnout, you need to make yourself a priority. If you’re ready to go on an adventure to be more you without being drained, I would highly recommend PQ Mental Fitness Program For ADHD.  It’s not about managing your energy, it’s about mastering your energy so you can be, do and have more!

Be a Warrior Not A Worrier Even When It’s Mercury Retrograde

I was super nervous I mean super anxious When I get anxious I sometimes forget to breathe And get very disorientated My daughter told me to calm down And to stop overthinking So, of course, I over thought even more I mean it’s like saying don’t think about the blue elephant Immediately you think of the blue elephant right? Yesterday I delivered a speech to my club A club I had delivered hundreds of times over the last 7 years I didn’t like the energy and with the Mercury Retrograde in full swing, I knew it wasn’t my energy FYI: Just about all forms of communication—whether it be negotiating, buying, selling, speaking, listening and editing—may seem to face some roadblocks during retrograde. So I practised some NLP techniques to help me take away the feeling of inadequacy, incompetence and insecurity. I walked for 25 minutes to Greenwich, mindfully trying to let go of this fear of being seen because it was paralysing me Because this speech was way out of my comfort zone, or at least that’s what I told myself I am a grown-ass woman, about to do ‘silly voices’ I kept on repeating in my head Oh the judgement that washed over me like a wave of sticky caramel sauce that just felt wrong When I arrived at the club, one of the members came and spoke to me He could clearly see my energy was off He had to remind me of who I am Remind me of what I did And honestly, it went in one ear and out the other Did I do the speech? OF COURSE, I DID! Because that energy, that negative noise was the E.G.O AKA Edging God Out – Wayne Dyer So I let the noises continue Breathed in an out and said thank you I wasn’t going to abandon myself So I took to the stage And honestly, the rest is blank I forgot about me because I surrendered I had a message to deliver to someone in that audience A message to live on purpose A message to not compare A message told through the old folk tale the Hare and the Tortoise Feedback like wow, wow, wow I am inspired, thank you was received in abundance The point of me telling you this story is because you have a message, many messages inside of you And your messages  are just as important as everyone else’s Your message will touch someone else’s life so you can break old mindsets from their present and future generations Don’t keep your message a secret so that people leave this planet with wounds that you could have helped them to heal, no matter the season. You’re limitless, that is why you are reading this, I see you! Ruth ‘Warrior Not Worrier’ Danquah P.S. Limitless growth requires limitless change. If you want to explore how I can help you to see that limitless growth then book your exploration call now ruth-ellen.com/call

You Have to Make YOU a Priority If YOU Want Your Dreams to Happen

What’s Holding You Back?

You have dreams that set your soul on fire. The kind of dreams that keep you awake at night because you know deep down you’re meant to achieve them. But here’s the hard truth: if you don’t prioritise yourself, those dreams will stay just that—dreams.

Sound familiar? You’re putting clients, family, your team, or even random distractions ahead of YOU. You’re running on empty while pouring everything into everyone else. And you’re left wondering why progress feels so hard.

Here’s the deal: success doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you choose to make YOU—your time, your energy, and your goals—a non-negotiable priority.


The Shift: Why You Must Put YOU First

Putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. If you want your dreams to happen, you need the energy, focus, and clarity to bring them to life. Think of it this way: if you’re constantly running on fumes, how can you give 100% to your goals?

Making YOU a priority gives you the fuel to:

  • Take intentional action toward your dreams.
  • Show up stronger for your family, team, and clients.
  • Create momentum and results that match your potential.

But here’s the thing—it won’t happen by chance. You need to take control and intentionally build habits that prioritise YOU every single day.


How to Make YOU a Priority Without the Guilt

If you’ve been conditioned to put everyone else first, this shift might feel uncomfortable. That’s okay—it’s part of the process. Here’s how to make YOU the priority and still show up for others:

1. Create Boundaries That Protect Your Goals

Boundaries are the ultimate form of self-respect. Without them, your time and energy are up for grabs by anyone and anything. Start here:

  • Block off focus time: Reserve at least 2–3 hours every day to work on your goals. Treat this time like an unmissable meeting with your future self.
  • Learn to say no (or later): Every time you say “yes” to something that doesn’t matter, you’re saying “no” to your dreams. Practice politely declining low-priority requests.
  • Guard your energy fiercely: Avoid people, tasks, and distractions that drain you.

2. Prioritise Your Health and Energy

Your body and mind are the engines that drive your success. If you don’t take care of them, your dreams will stall. Here’s how:

  • Fuel your body: Eat for energy, not convenience. Skip the quick fixes and choose meals that energise and nourish you.
  • Recharge your mind: Meditation, journaling, or simply unplugging for 15 minutes a day can work wonders for your clarity and focus.
  • Move your body: Exercise isn’t just good for your health—it sharpens your mind and gives you a productivity boost. Make it a daily habit.

3. Invest in Growth, Not Just Hustle

Hustling without direction isn’t the answer. To reach your dreams, you need strategies that work smarter, not harder.

  • Learn from experts: Programmes like Scaling Simplified™ teach you proven systems to streamline your business and scale without burnout.
  • Delegate and automate: Free up your time by letting others or technology handle routine tasks.
  • Surround yourself with growth-oriented people: Success is contagious. Be around those who challenge and inspire you to reach higher.

Ways to Deepen the Practice

Want to truly embed this into your life? Let’s take it a step further:

1. Picture This

A business owner was hustling 24/7, juggling endless demands from clients, team members, and family. Burnout was inevitable. Then, they made one simple shift: they started putting themselves first.

They created boundaries, delegated low-value tasks, and made time for self-care. Within weeks, they reclaimed 20+ hours a week, their energy skyrocketed, and their business hit six-figure growth in a single quarter. This isn’t just possible—it’s your blueprint for success.

2. A Surprising Stat

Here’s a game-changing fact: CEOs and high performers spend 50% of their day on high-impact tasks. How? They prioritise their time and energy with ruthless focus. Imagine what you could achieve if you did the same.

3. A Common Mistake

Believing self-care is selfish. It’s not. Prioritising yourself is the most selfless thing you can do. When you’re operating at your best, you show up as a stronger, more focused leader for your family, team, and dreams.


Why YOU Must Come First

Let’s break it down. Here’s why making YOU a priority is non-negotiable:

1. Your Dreams Deserve Focus

Distractions and overwhelm are dream killers. When you prioritise YOU, you clear the mental clutter and create the focus needed to take meaningful action.

2. Energy Is Everything

Low energy = low results. By taking care of your health, mind, and spirit, you fuel yourself to perform at your highest level every single day.

3. Time Is Your Greatest Asset

Every hour spent on tasks or people that don’t align with your vision is time stolen from your future. Protect your time like the valuable resource it is.


Take the First Step Toward Your Dreams

Your dreams won’t wait. They need YOU to show up fully, with energy, focus, and clarity. And that starts with making yourself a priority—today, not someday.

This is why programmes like Scaling Simplified™ exist. They’re designed to help service-based CEOs reclaim 20+ hours a week, build scalable systems, and focus on the high-revenue tasks that drive results.


Your dreams aren’t selfish—they’re your calling. Make YOU a priority, and watch what happens when you take intentional action toward the life you want.

Ready to make it happen? Apply for Scaling Simplified™ now and achieve more in Q1 2025 than you ever thought possible.

7 Things Burlesque Classes Taught Me About Confidence

Despite popular belief dyspraxia (which is one of many awesome abilities) and dance actually goes together, because through dance you can improve gross motor skills (large movements) which is one of the challenges with dyspraxia. Gross motor skills are important and despite the stereotype that dyspraxics lack coordination I had plenty. I already go gym three times a week but wanted something different as the gym can be quite isolating (especially as 6 am gym classes clash with my schedule for the school run prep). In all honesty, I did have some wild preconceived expectations of the transformation that I would go through by the time I finished my Burlesque classes. I did level 1 into and level 2 because I wanted to gain the confidence that had been stripped away like paint stripper over the years because of my unknown dyspraxia and dyslexia.  Confidence that I was in awe of when I watched the movie Burlesque with Cher & Christina Aguilera (one of my guilty pleasure movies).  So I thought I would try out Burlesque and so far I have learnt so much (minus the video above lol).  I added burlesque to my life list of things to do and booked a course and pursued Burlesque wholeheartedly.   What follows are the 7 things burlesque classes taught me about confidence, that has helped with my dyspraxia.
 
  1. Sexy doesn’t belong to people that are given the label by the masses. The term sexy if for those who dare to wear the label without it being handed to them, it’s in your attitude and affects your altitude.
  2. Confidence is not something you have, it is something you generate. You make a decision to be confident and to quieten those niggling little voice that tells you to sit down and not to make a fool of yourself by just being.
  3. The more you come out of your comfort zone the more you start challenging yourself and that is where your real confidence lies.
  4. You need to find your theme music that plays while you walk, it’s ok to dance wherever you are and laugh at yourself.
  5. Showing up and being present is half of the battle when it comes to being confident.
  6. Laughing at yourself is real confidence. I now know nipple tassels are no big deal & so do 40 fellow ladies if anything it is liberating.
  7. The clothes don’t maketh the lady. The lady maketh the clothes. Whether you are wearing a burlesque outfit, a onesie or sweatpants it doesn’t matter. Point is, you wear the clothes, you wear it well 🙂
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