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You Have to Make YOU a Priority If YOU Want Your Dreams to Happen
What’s Holding You Back?
You have dreams that set your soul on fire. The kind of dreams that keep you awake at night because you know deep down you’re meant to achieve them. But here’s the hard truth: if you don’t prioritise yourself, those dreams will stay just that—dreams.
Sound familiar? You’re putting clients, family, your team, or even random distractions ahead of YOU. You’re running on empty while pouring everything into everyone else. And you’re left wondering why progress feels so hard.
Here’s the deal: success doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you choose to make YOU—your time, your energy, and your goals—a non-negotiable priority.
The Shift: Why You Must Put YOU First
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. If you want your dreams to happen, you need the energy, focus, and clarity to bring them to life. Think of it this way: if you’re constantly running on fumes, how can you give 100% to your goals?
Making YOU a priority gives you the fuel to:
- Take intentional action toward your dreams.
- Show up stronger for your family, team, and clients.
- Create momentum and results that match your potential.
But here’s the thing—it won’t happen by chance. You need to take control and intentionally build habits that prioritise YOU every single day.
How to Make YOU a Priority Without the Guilt
If you’ve been conditioned to put everyone else first, this shift might feel uncomfortable. That’s okay—it’s part of the process. Here’s how to make YOU the priority and still show up for others:
1. Create Boundaries That Protect Your Goals
Boundaries are the ultimate form of self-respect. Without them, your time and energy are up for grabs by anyone and anything. Start here:
- Block off focus time: Reserve at least 2–3 hours every day to work on your goals. Treat this time like an unmissable meeting with your future self.
- Learn to say no (or later): Every time you say “yes” to something that doesn’t matter, you’re saying “no” to your dreams. Practice politely declining low-priority requests.
- Guard your energy fiercely: Avoid people, tasks, and distractions that drain you.
2. Prioritise Your Health and Energy
Your body and mind are the engines that drive your success. If you don’t take care of them, your dreams will stall. Here’s how:
- Fuel your body: Eat for energy, not convenience. Skip the quick fixes and choose meals that energise and nourish you.
- Recharge your mind: Meditation, journaling, or simply unplugging for 15 minutes a day can work wonders for your clarity and focus.
- Move your body: Exercise isn’t just good for your health—it sharpens your mind and gives you a productivity boost. Make it a daily habit.
3. Invest in Growth, Not Just Hustle
Hustling without direction isn’t the answer. To reach your dreams, you need strategies that work smarter, not harder.
- Learn from experts: Programmes like Scaling Simplified™ teach you proven systems to streamline your business and scale without burnout.
- Delegate and automate: Free up your time by letting others or technology handle routine tasks.
- Surround yourself with growth-oriented people: Success is contagious. Be around those who challenge and inspire you to reach higher.
Ways to Deepen the Practice
Want to truly embed this into your life? Let’s take it a step further:
1. Picture This…
A business owner was hustling 24/7, juggling endless demands from clients, team members, and family. Burnout was inevitable. Then, they made one simple shift: they started putting themselves first.
They created boundaries, delegated low-value tasks, and made time for self-care. Within weeks, they reclaimed 20+ hours a week, their energy skyrocketed, and their business hit six-figure growth in a single quarter. This isn’t just possible—it’s your blueprint for success.
2. A Surprising Stat
Here’s a game-changing fact: CEOs and high performers spend 50% of their day on high-impact tasks. How? They prioritise their time and energy with ruthless focus. Imagine what you could achieve if you did the same.
3. A Common Mistake
Believing self-care is selfish. It’s not. Prioritising yourself is the most selfless thing you can do. When you’re operating at your best, you show up as a stronger, more focused leader for your family, team, and dreams.
Why YOU Must Come First
Let’s break it down. Here’s why making YOU a priority is non-negotiable:
1. Your Dreams Deserve Focus
Distractions and overwhelm are dream killers. When you prioritise YOU, you clear the mental clutter and create the focus needed to take meaningful action.
2. Energy Is Everything
Low energy = low results. By taking care of your health, mind, and spirit, you fuel yourself to perform at your highest level every single day.
3. Time Is Your Greatest Asset
Every hour spent on tasks or people that don’t align with your vision is time stolen from your future. Protect your time like the valuable resource it is.
Take the First Step Toward Your Dreams
Your dreams won’t wait. They need YOU to show up fully, with energy, focus, and clarity. And that starts with making yourself a priority—today, not someday.
This is why programmes like Scaling Simplified™ exist. They’re designed to help service-based CEOs reclaim 20+ hours a week, build scalable systems, and focus on the high-revenue tasks that drive results.
✨ Your dreams aren’t selfish—they’re your calling. Make YOU a priority, and watch what happens when you take intentional action toward the life you want.
Ready to make it happen? Apply for Scaling Simplified™ now and achieve more in Q1 2025 than you ever thought possible.
7 Things Burlesque Classes Taught Me About Confidence
- Sexy doesn’t belong to people that are given the label by the masses. The term sexy if for those who dare to wear the label without it being handed to them, it’s in your attitude and affects your altitude.
- Confidence is not something you have, it is something you generate. You make a decision to be confident and to quieten those niggling little voice that tells you to sit down and not to make a fool of yourself by just being.
- The more you come out of your comfort zone the more you start challenging yourself and that is where your real confidence lies.
- You need to find your theme music that plays while you walk, it’s ok to dance wherever you are and laugh at yourself.
- Showing up and being present is half of the battle when it comes to being confident.
- Laughing at yourself is real confidence. I now know nipple tassels are no big deal & so do 40 fellow ladies if anything it is liberating.
- The clothes don’t maketh the lady. The lady maketh the clothes. Whether you are wearing a burlesque outfit, a onesie or sweatpants it doesn’t matter. Point is, you wear the clothes, you wear it well 🙂
#becelebrated
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I decided what I had, wasn’t good enough because I was, am and will always be good enough!
I wanted to change more women’s lives so that they can be free in all aspects of their mind, body and soul and experience financial freedom
In order for me to help others, I knew I had to help myself first
I had to put the life jacket on first because I knew I couldn’t swim without it
I knew I deserved more than scraping by
I deserved to honour my life instead of waiting for my then husband or my then employer or someone else to see me
Because waiting to be recognised for my brilliance, beauty, talent and for others to honour me was no longer a game I wanted to play
I deserved to be wealthy
I deserved to live a life of abundance
I deserved to make an impact but also to make an INCOME
The lady I spoke to yesterday deserves this and more
And you know that you deserve this and more too don’t you?
So I will ask again..What life do YOU want?
Do you really want to be where you are 10 months from now, let alone 10 years because if you are not clear about the life you want
YOU could still be scraping by
Let’s face it, you are settling
And you already may know why
You are not taking consistent action towards your D.E.S.I.R.E’s
And that is why you are NOT going to get the life you want
I know it can sound scary to go for what YOU want
I mean what if you fail
What if you fall flat on your face
But what if…
You COULD NOT FAIL?
Because when you keep on choosing you, YOU never fail!
It’s time to go for what you want!
What type of life do you want?
The easy work starts with shifting your energy so you choose YOU over and over again. Lucky for you energy work is my jam, which means choosing YOU becomes easy!
Are you ready to choose you? Here is your first step to having the life you want >>>> ruth-ellen.com/call
Ruth-Ellen energy work Danquah THE PAINFUL TRUTH ABOUT MISSING YOUR LIFE GOALS
Stepping Into Your Power
In this episode you will learn:
- The one thing you must do above all things
Learn How To Unlock Your Limitless Potential With This FREE Masterclass
This masterclass is an excellent way to experience the power of your divine Goddess energy (yes even you fellas). It will clear your blocks and you’ll feel different right away. (Watch out for amazing synchronicities right after you do this.) In this energy shifting masterclass, you’ll also get to learn TWO of Ruth-Ellen’s most effective energy healing techniques… that’ll help you attract more abundance, more love, more good health and more happiness in your life (you can apply them in any aspect of your life and see instant results.) >> Claim your Limitless spot now!
How To Unleash Your Goddess Within With Ease
Over 165,000 people search for the term Goddess each month (yes I went all geek), but the point of me tell you this is because many of us want to know more about Goddesses…
What is a Goddess?
Many people may describe the Goddess in a way that you need a dictionary to unravel so let me make it simple
Your Goddess is just another name for your inner guide
Your inner wisdom
Your inner light
Your intuition
Your true self
That intuitive voice deep down
That provides you with all the answers to your deepest lingering questions and says “yes you can” when everyone else tells you otherwise.
Why is my Goddess not unleashed?
When we go through seasons in our life
We stop trusting ourselves
Which means we dim the light of our Goddess.
Over our life course
Our inner wisdom becomes clouded with outer perceptions
Negativity from our external environment, including society, relationships, social media, etc.
Energy that doesn’t actually belong to us
When we lose touch with our inner wisdom
We lose touch with our truth
We lose touch with that intuitive voice that tells us how to live our life.
How do you unleash the Goddess?
1. Unleash The Goddess By Being Shame Free
Social Researcher & Author Brene Brown defines shame as “The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.”
Belonging and fitting in are not the same thing and when we feel like we must conform to fit in
We hide the dark parts of ourselves
The dark park parts that we deny
The dark parts that need compassion
We are dark and light
The dark parts of us shouldn’t be something we are ashamed of
By coming from and place of love we must recognise guilt as ‘you made a bad choice’ vs fear which is Shame ‘you are bad’ can we really choose to live from a shame-free place
And by living in that shame-free place we start to live that limitless life that the Universe/God/Source wants for us
Learn How To Unleash Your Potent Goddess Power With This FREE Masterclass
This masterclass is an excellent way to experience the power of your divine Goddess energy. It will clear your blocks and you’ll feel different right away. (Watch out for amazing synchronicities right after you do this). In this energy shifting masterclass, you’ll also get to learn TWO of Ruth-Ellen’s most effective energy healing techniques… that’ll help you attract more abundance, more love, more good health and more happiness in your life (you can apply them in any aspect of your life and see instant results.)
>> Activate Your Goddess Power Now!
2. Unleash Your Goddess By Healing Your Womb
There are Goddess archetypes that are here to support you in your spiritual journey. And that includes healing the powerful centre of energy in women that carries with it so much wisdom, grace and secrecy. The womb is like a protected secret that we carry deep within us each day, hidden from oblivious eyes.
A Goddess archetype I call on often is Goddess Kuan Yin who is a Buddhist deity who embodies compassion. Her name translates to “perceiving the sounds (or cries) of the world. She is a goddess of mercy, dedicated to relieving the suffering in the world.
When we cultivate the practice of womb healing we process traumas.
We nourish with herbs.
We crack open the blocks that are preventing our inner Goddess from flowering, blooming and living from her womb.
3. Unleash Your Goddess By Reclaiming Your Crown
The moment you realise you are the creator and not the waiter
The moment you realise that you create your new reality
The moment you step into who you are unapologetically
That is the moment you reclaim your crown
Without faking it to you make it
Without feeling like an imposter
Because when you take back your kingdom
And claim your crown
4. Unleash Your Goddess By Receiving Abundance
There are so many deities, ancestors, angels, spirit guides, archangels all here to support 
you on your divine journey, you were born wealthy in all areas of your life, in order to receive abundance, you must be open to well…receiving.
When our energy points like the Solar plexus are balanced and healed we can then allow more flow and ease into our lives and can go to work on the affirmations, because before steps 1-3 happen we can often feel undeservedly. This receiving process is taking on a new level of awareness that comes from choosing love!
Now you know the 4 steps >> Claim your Goddess Masterclass spot now and activate your potent power

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5 Ways You Need To Know To Surge Your Compassion Like Magic
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Surge Your Compassion by Helping Other People
2. Surge Your Compassion by Having A Morning Routine
It’s so easy to soak up all the negativity that’s going on around the world and in our lives. The most effective way to have compassion for others is to learn how to pause and be compassionate with ourselves. In the ultimate magical morning routine, I created 7 rituals that help you to get back to you with a way to find your definite purpose. Having a routine that helps to improve your kindness to self and creates a surge in your self-compassion that is unparalleled because compassion is infectious, and can improve the mental health of all those around you. Those who feel your compassion will then become more optimistic and compassionate themselves.3. Surge Your Compassion by Forgiving Others
Yes! Forgive, don’t forget. Because if we continue to drink the poison of unforgiveness we will kill parts of ourselves that were never meant to die. In limitless I talk about this more By practising compassion, our minds will focus less on all the things that have gone wrong in the past, according to Greater Good. People who feel compassion for just one person feel generally less vindictive toward others, and are also more emotionally stable.4. Surge Your Compassion by Accepting Yourself
When we feel a sense of not belonging or that people are different from us this causes separateness and sometimes we can travel down the world of dehumanisation. “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers5. Surge Your Compassion by Challenging Yourself
Everybody loves a good challenge, after, all that is where the magic happens. Challenge yourself to get around more people that inspire you by their actions to be compassionate. So how are you going to challenge yourself to surge your compassion today?3 Step Process To Increasing Your Traffic Using Co-Schedule [CoSchedule Review]
Yes! CoSchedule!
What Is Co-Schedule?
Coschedule Plan – Journal – Vlog, blog, poll etc… recycle that content, as many times as you want per day about things that happen to you (yes every single day). Make an anecdote/life lesson and then make it into your content, use metaphors, smilies etc. This way it is, don’t think of it as work instead think of it as part of your daily life, with the added bonus of improving your mental health! Use coschedule to plan your marketing strategy in a nifty easy content calendar which allows you to set tasks to your team and yourself. Remember 1 minute of video content is worth 1.8 million words so mix it u a littleHow Does Co-Schedule Work?
How Do You Get The Most Out Of CoSchedule?
Focus – Decide now how much traffic you want and the timeframe to do this. Keep an eye on your goal and make sure you have an accountability partner for that goal. If your goal is to increase your email list, nurture your current list or to build a product to sell to that list then make sure you have someone to be accountable to. I know it is easier said than done, thank goodness for forums/ facebook groups who have all been there, remember your story may have different characters but we all have the same goal to be happy…so go find your tribe! Be Loyal – I actually used to use Coschedule a few years back and I stopped (because I got shiny ball syndrome) believing another tool would allow me to do the same things and more. Newsflash it didn’t, it actually was all hype and no substance and frustrated more than helped me. I lost productivity I lost traffic I lost the will to live (ok that’s a bit of exaggeration, but you don’t want to see the type of emails I sent to this other tools customer service team, the software wasn’t just lacking in functionality but it was also a total rip off) Which brings me to goals…- Choose a quant goal i.e. 5000 twitter followers by December 2019!
- Use different various pieces of content that speak to your audience at different stages of their journey (their buyer’s journey) (avatar/persona) is gathering Goal
- Create & implement a social campaign based on a well thought out content strategy for your offers.


